3 year girlfriend dumped me, I tore my shoulder, and I’m about to lose my job

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All of this in the span of about a week

Sometimes when life shits on you it shits on you hard lol

How are you guys doing?


 
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jesus, sorry to hear that

i'm doing okay—i'm getting my degree by the end of this year, so i'm currently in the middle of planning where i'm gonna go from there


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What makes ya figure your job's on the line?


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Sorry to hear that.

Umm, I have job, earn money, looking to buy new phone now, looking for new laptop because current one breaks often now (in fact it broke yesterday again) but in at least 2month from here. Playing videogames, playing one old korean mmorpg with permanent party of me and two buddies, having Easter.


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Oh, that's shitty. Any ideas on what to do next?

I'm doing alright. Planning to move out of my trash apartment by the end of the year, and probably get a new job while I'm at it.


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Sometimes when life shits on you it shits on you hard lol

I was feeling this several months ago

thankfully things turned around for me. hope they will for you too man.


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Thanks guys, glad to hear you’re all doing decently well

What makes ya figure your job's on the line?

Job is making cuts and putting extreme pressure on my manager. Even though I’m the top performer in our entire location, he’s getting desperate and wanted me to do something unethical which I refused, now he is after me lol.

I’m not too worried about the job tbh. It’s a good job but I have enough money to survive 6-10 months normally and can find another quickly. If anything it’s welcome, I feel like I cannot even preform well in the mental state I’m in

My breakup is messing me up so bad. I feel like it’s bringing up years of childhood traumas and deep underlying issues I’ve had. This girl was incredibly good to me, loyal and full of love. And my pure selfishness is what ruined it. I ruined an incredibly beautiful relationship because of my need for validation and lack of true love for myself. It has brought up years of instances since childhood where I was completely inconsiderate and selfish to the people who loved me most. I feel like my entire sense of self is just disintegrating. Like I am being torn apart in a blender. Really intense :/


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Thanks guys, glad to hear you’re all doing decently well

What makes ya figure your job's on the line?

Job is making cuts and putting extreme pressure on my manager. Even though I’m the top performer in our entire location, he’s getting desperate and wanted me to do something unethical which I refused, now he is after me lol.

I’m not too worried about the job tbh. It’s a good job but I have enough money to survive 6-10 months normally and can find another quickly. If anything it’s welcome, I feel like I cannot even preform well in the mental state I’m in

My breakup is messing me up so bad. I feel like it’s bringing up years of childhood traumas and deep underlying issues I’ve had. This girl was incredibly good to me, loyal and full of love. And my pure selfishness is what ruined it. I ruined an incredibly beautiful relationship because of my need for validation and lack of true love for myself. It has brought up years of instances since childhood where I was completely inconsiderate and selfish to the people who loved me most. I feel like my entire sense of self is just disintegrating. Like I am being torn apart in a blender. Really intense :/

Do you have evidence of him asking you to do that thing?


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Thanks guys, glad to hear you’re all doing decently well

What makes ya figure your job's on the line?

Job is making cuts and putting extreme pressure on my manager. Even though I’m the top performer in our entire location, he’s getting desperate and wanted me to do something unethical which I refused, now he is after me lol.

I’m not too worried about the job tbh. It’s a good job but I have enough money to survive 6-10 months normally and can find another quickly. If anything it’s welcome, I feel like I cannot even preform well in the mental state I’m in

My breakup is messing me up so bad. I feel like it’s bringing up years of childhood traumas and deep underlying issues I’ve had. This girl was incredibly good to me, loyal and full of love. And my pure selfishness is what ruined it. I ruined an incredibly beautiful relationship because of my need for validation and lack of true love for myself. It has brought up years of instances since childhood where I was completely inconsiderate and selfish to the people who loved me most. I feel like my entire sense of self is just disintegrating. Like I am being torn apart in a blender. Really intense :/

If it was unethical then your manager can't lay you off unless you yourself actually trip up and do something to warrent getting fired. The most he can do is the walmart trick. Assign you the toughest/shittiest tasks until you break and quit yourself, or cut your hours until your fold and find another job. That or just be a passive aggresive bag of dicks, which is easy to counter by just not giving a shit.

As for the breakup and past fuckups, only thing I can say is this. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, and I've gone through a lot of shit. Don't ever wallow in your own trash. Get the fuck up and make your mistakes mean something by learning from them so that you don't repeat them.

You are being ripped apart in a blender because you just lost somebody you did give a fuck about. You're going to be going over it all again and again in your head and it's just going to stew because you helped make the situation you're in now. It'll burn a lot because you had something, and you lost it.

It's natural to grieve and feel like shit. But I've a question for you. What's been the worst day of your life? And was the worst day comparable to what you're going through now, or is what you're going through now the worst day so far?


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Update:

Voluntarily quit my job and got offered a better one but declined it, going to go all in on personal training & coaching

Shoulder is fully healed

Still pretty hurt over ex but everyday I’m getting better. Forgot how good I am with women lol, I can get a beautiful high quality girlfriend very quickly. Lots of girls interested. But I’m avoiding all relationships for now until I am able to 1. Heal from last relationship 2. Fix my issues that caused the ending of last relationship and others. I need to be the absolute best I can for another person first


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Keep your head up, man.  It'll be okay.  I lost my girlfriend of 2 years rather recently myself, but I got a new girlfriend not even 2-3 weeks later.  I'm taking it slow.