I feel my friend is ignoring me

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Do you think they might perceive you as needy and desire space?


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They could just say that to me and I would be perfectly okay with that. And is why I had been hold myself back from trying to bug them everyday.

Do you think they might perceive you as needy and desire space?


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They could just say that to me and I would be perfectly okay with that. And is why I had been hold myself back from trying to bug them everyday.

Do you think they might perceive you as needy and desire space?
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If they won't respond to you directly, find someone who could act as a medium for transferring messages?


 
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Don't know if it's true or not, but I skimmed and saw someone say it's Noel.

So Noel kind of went off the deep end and doesn't post here anymore.


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I wouldn't mind doing that, but I feel they lurk enough that so long as this thread stays relevant they would eventually see it. If nothing good comes out of this thread I might try that, but it would have to be with someone I more than just half trust on here. In the mean time, I have to go to bed and get ready for work, I would like to try and keep this thread up and noticeable for as long as possible.

True...
If they won't respond to you directly, find someone who could act as a medium for transferring messages?



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I still talk with Noel, but Noel isn't who I'm struggling with.

Don't know if it's true or not, but I skimmed and saw someone say it's Noel.

So Noel kind of went off the deep end and doesn't post here anymore.


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I wouldn't mind doing that, but I feel they lurk enough that so long as this thread stays relevant they would eventually see it. If nothing good comes out of this thread I might try that, but it would have to be with someone I more than just half trust on here. In the mean time, I have to go to bed and get ready for work, I would like to try and keep this thread up and noticeable for as long as possible.

True...
If they won't respond to you directly, find someone who could act as a medium for transferring messages?

I do have to say if they're purposefully avoiding you online they probably have their own insecurities they're struggling with.
While waiting for them to respond I'd start evaluating candidates who might help a backup message transfer plan.


 
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I still talk with Noel, but Noel isn't who I'm struggling with.

Don't know if it's true or not, but I skimmed and saw someone say it's Noel.

So Noel kind of went off the deep end and doesn't post here anymore.

Alright.

I know that feel tho. Sometimes the person has just moved on from you and they're just avoiding you so they don't have to have that conversation. It sucks, but you kind of have to accept that they don't really want to hang out with or talk to you anymore and if they do it's because you're friends with someone else.

I kind of get the feeling that I'm having a situation like that happening with me right now as well too.


 
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Well, I don't know if I can really help there. But maybe I can lend some perspective. I get tired a lot now. Physically and mentally. And there's one pal of mine who I keep in loose contact with. And there's some days, when he contacts me, that I just don't have the conviction to say anything. I do my best to speak and say something, at least, but eventually, I fall flat and go quiet.

It could be the case with your pal too. He just might be in a bad spot and not have the capacity to talk at the moment in time. But I'm gonna level with you.

Friends are overrated. 90% of them will let you down. They'll either change with time and drift away as they become different and older, or they'll let you down when you need them the most. It's rare to find somebody who will really stick with you and stand by you for long periods of time.

And you should understand that. I'm not saying that landing a good solid pal is impossible. But you should realize the reality of things. A lot of your friends, past, present, or future, will just be passerby in phases of your life.

The more you grow comfortable with yourself, the more that you push yourself to do things on your own, and realize that for most of the time, it will always be just you, the better off you'll be.

As for your pal. Give it some time. Don't press him too much. Just wait and see.


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I already have two, since I've been bugging them about the problem since it became noticeable. I just don't know if they would be willing.

I do have to say if they're purposefully avoiding you online they probably have their own insecurities they're struggling with.
While waiting for them to respond I'd start evaluating candidates who might help a backup message transfer plan.



 
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I really hope this is just complete overreacting and that they've just been either really busy or something else is bothering them. They haven't unfriended my on FB yet but I'm pessimistic and feel they'll do it if they want to. I don't want to lose contact with them, it would make everything we ever discussed awkward and it would make being on here awkward.

Alright.

I know that feel tho. Sometimes the person has just moved on from you and they're just avoiding you so they don't have to have that conversation. It sucks, but you kind of have to accept that they don't really want to hang out with or talk to you anymore and if they do it's because you're friends with someone else.

I kind of get the feeling that I'm having a situation like that happening with me right now as well too.


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Not knowing is just painful though. Nor do I want to end up with a negative view on friends like you said.

As for your pal. Give it some time. Don't press him too much. Just wait and see.


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If by compulsive you mean they post like say Verbatim or Jester? No, but they certainly do post with genuine interest to the community.

When they use the site, do they do so compulsively?
Wait what is that supposed to mean


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I don't replace friends like defective hardware. What good is a new friendship if I can't save an old one?

Make new friends
New friendships aren't inherently bad simply because you can't repair old ones. If you look at it logically, your experience is more so the result of certain types of character, rather than the mechanics of the nature of friendships which is a much more static system subject to much less change. If you input different variables into that system (IE: different people with different personalities) then the system will produce different results, however the nature of the system is still the same throughout this process.

Obviously no two people are exactly alike, ergo you can never objectively expect the same thing to happen over again if you try to make friends. Regardless if it's already happened five, ten, or a thousand times before.


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As much as I'd like to joke with you, I'm too down for it.

I think I'm the friend that's ignoring Gaara444


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If by compulsive you mean they post like say Verbatim or Jester? No, but they certainly do post with genuine interest to the community.

When they use the site, do they do so compulsively?
Wait what is that supposed to mean
You would be able to tell if not for all the family dinners spent with loaf.


 
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You're simply overtly active on here. That isn't a bad thing.

Wait what is that supposed to mean


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I never saw a problem with us before, I don't see why there would be conflict now.

I don't replace friends like defective hardware. What good is a new friendship if I can't save an old one?

Make new friends
New friendships aren't inherently bad simply because you can't repair old ones. If you look at it logically, your experience is more so the result of certain types of character, rather than the mechanics of the nature of friendships which is a much more static system subject to much less change. If you input different variables into that system (IE: different people with different personalities) then the system will produce different results, however the nature of the system is still the same throughout this process.

Obviously no two people are exactly alike, ergo you can never objectively expect the same thing to happen over again if you try to make friends. Regardless if it's already happened five, ten, or a thousand times before.


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It wouldn't be so painful if I didn't felt left in the dark over it.

As much as I'd like to joke with you, I'm too down for it.

I think I'm the friend that's ignoring Gaara444
I went through the same thing, but the way I see it is people move on and friendships end.

Unfortunately that's just how things are. It's rough, but being sad doesn't help with anything.


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Is it slash? Cuz he's a FAGGET and won't answer my messages


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Tru ignores me too.


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I don't think I know who that is.

Is it slash? Cuz he's a FAGGET and won't answer my messages


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I don't know them either.

Tru ignores me too.


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I definitely do not know them.

Wop who is deluded into believing he's white despite being Mediterranean.


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I don't think I know who that is.

Is it slash? Cuz he's a FAGGET and won't answer my messages

Good, he's dumb


 
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