Pretty sure everybody here has mommy issues

In my experience, if you genuinely make the effort to make things right, despite what they've done or do to you, things do get better.

Quite the opposite. I can't seem to escape from my mother.

Perhaps one day when I'm not a sickly deadbeat.

Make sure you get friends who aren't slobs. The two I'm with now are absolute pigs when it comes to cleanliness.

I would really want to do the same thing and hope there would be no issue over it, but I'm not sure that it would work out.

In my experience, if you genuinely make the effort to make things right, despite what they've done or do to you, things do get better.

    Well, my mother told me that I'll be kicked out of the house, if I don`t find job until summer. I also probably need along with it not to be kick out from uni and write my bachelor diploma. She also told me that she doesn`t want my money (I'm earning money as top rated student, then I'm paying back for it doing job for uni or companies my uni made partnership with), she also told me that she wants to make me happy, and if I gonna have a place in the world, I'll be happy. And you know what?
      I'll find a job. I'll finish uni and get bachelor and even masters degree, even if I know that I'm not gonna be happy of it, quite opposite - I'll probably hate it. But on one condition: I'm not gonna live with her. I'll take care of her, I'll move her to other country, I'll visit her regularly, but on my first good opportunity I'll move from her. And, after thinking about it for some time, I think it will be fine.
      Well, she was celebrating her birthday, which was 15 Jan, and her coworker birthday, which is today, and she got drunk despite her attempts to prevent it, it is very rare for her to get drunk, but this year is going shit on top of shit and it got her and it`s not her fault. It just hurts.

Quote from: Snake on January 31, 2018, 01:16:49 PM

In my experience, if you genuinely make the effort to make things right, despite what they've done or do to you, things do get better.

    Well, my mother told me that I'll be kicked out of the house, if I don`t find job until summer. I also probably need along with it not to be kick out from uni and write my bachelor diploma. She also told me that she doesn`t want my money (I'm earning money as top rated student, then I'm paying back for it doing job for uni or companies my uni made partnership with), she also told me that she wants to make me happy, and if I gonna have a place in the world, I'll be happy. And you know what?
      I'll find a job. I'll finish uni and get bachelor and even masters degree, even if I know that I'm not gonna be happy of it, quite opposite - I'll probably hate it. But on one condition: I'm not gonna live with her. I'll take care of her, I'll move her to other country, I'll visit her regularly, but on my first good opportunity I'll move from her. And, after thinking about it for some time, I think it will be fine.
      Well, she was celebrating her birthday, which was 15 Jan, and her coworker birthday, which is today, and she got drunk despite her attempts to prevent it, it is very rare for her to get drunk, but this year is going shit on top of shit and it got her and it`s not her fault. It just hurts.

Any chance you can find work at Uni? Work in the cafeteria or a student shop or something? Maybe help grade assignments?

Would never do that

Quote from: MarKhan on January 31, 2018, 02:34:02 PM

Quote from: Snake on January 31, 2018, 01:16:49 PM

In my experience, if you genuinely make the effort to make things right, despite what they've done or do to you, things do get better.

(I'm earning money as top rated student, then I'm paying back for it doing job for uni or companies my uni made partnership with)

Any chance you can find work at Uni? Work in the cafeteria or a student shop or something? Maybe help grade assignments?

I'm already working for uni in their center for distant studying.

I lived without my parents from the ages of 16 until I was 21, hard at first obvs but simple to overcome if you're not retarded.

Quote from: Snake on January 31, 2018, 02:38:21 PM

Quote from: MarKhan on January 31, 2018, 02:34:02 PM

Quote from: Snake on January 31, 2018, 01:16:49 PM

In my experience, if you genuinely make the effort to make things right, despite what they've done or do to you, things do get better.

    Well, my mother told me that I'll be kicked out of the house, if I don`t find job until summer. I also probably need along with it not to be kick out from uni and write my bachelor diploma. She also told me that she doesn`t want my money (I'm earning money as top rated student, then I'm paying back for it doing job for uni or companies my uni made partnership with), she also told me that she wants to make me happy, and if I gonna have a place in the world, I'll be happy. And you know what?
      I'll find a job. I'll finish uni and get bachelor and even masters degree, even if I know that I'm not gonna be happy of it, quite opposite - I'll probably hate it. But on one condition: I'm not gonna live with her. I'll take care of her, I'll move her to other country, I'll visit her regularly, but on my first good opportunity I'll move from her. And, after thinking about it for some time, I think it will be fine.
      Well, she was celebrating her birthday, which was 15 Jan, and her coworker birthday, which is today, and she got drunk despite her attempts to prevent it, it is very rare for her to get drunk, but this year is going shit on top of shit and it got her and it`s not her fault. It just hurts.

Sounds like a pretty standard situation. Not to belittle your issues, but your mom is just worried about you. Find a way to convince her you've grown up and know what you're doing. Showing vulnerbility helps a parent understand your situation better than rebelling.

It`s not just rebelling, my studying or job as programmer requires all my attention focused on study or job and I need to be alone and not bugged, so I need to move from my mom eventually. I told her that I want to live separately 2 years ago. But otherwise you are right, thanks for concern.

You have to make time for both studying and family.

First of all, know that your mom will not kick you out.
Second, talk to her. Let her know what is going on in your head. What do you plan to do and why.
You don't sound like a waste of space child (even though you watch anime), you seem to know what you want to do so just let her know.
Oh and don't be afraid to let her know that you do not appreciate the extra pressure from her. You have enough stress as it is.

I don't understand why so many parents threaten or actually kick their kids out. I've only ever seen that make the situation go from bad to much worse.

frustration and desperation.

Quote from: FatherlyNick on February 01, 2018, 04:22:12 AM

First of all, know that your mom will not kick you out.
Second, talk to her. Let her know what is going on in your head. What do you plan to do and why.
You don't sound like a waste of space child (even though you watch anime), you seem to know what you want to do so just let her know.
Oh and don't be afraid to let her know that you do not appreciate the extra pressure from her. You have enough stress as it is.

First, I don`t care if she kicks me or not. Second, I already did that.

Good, good. Now just focus on studies.

I escaped.

Still running.