if gender is a social construct

 
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Teaching people not to have a mental disorder
you're a moron

if we taught people not to care, no one would get the disorder to begin with

unless you're stupid enough to think it's congenital


 
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You're plain wrong. The majority of my issues come from having a male-sexed body instead of a female one (not that I'm trying to speak for everyone, but...)
Teach people not to care.


 
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If I woke up tomorrow and realized I was born with the wrong body, I wouldn't care.
I wouldn't have an existential crisis. Because I know that it doesn't matter.

Just saying.


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I mean, through the eyes of someone with Gender Dysmorphia, gender isn't the problem; that is already down-pat. The body is the issue.
i guess i just don't see why someone would care so much about it to the level where they'd want to change their body

why would it matter to anyone

i'm not saying you shouldn't want to change your body if you do--but why kill yourself over it
that's why i call it irrational
Because I can't stop thinking about it. It's annoying and distracting and sometimes it gets in the way of everyday life. But I'm not saying I'm suicidal over it (I'm not) but I can see why it happens so often.


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I mean, through the eyes of someone with Gender Dysmorphia, gender isn't the problem; that is already down-pat. The body is the issue.
i guess i just don't see why someone would care so much about it to the level where they'd want to change their body

why would it matter to anyone

i'm not saying you shouldn't want to change your body if you do--but why kill yourself over it
that's why i call it irrational
Verb, it's a disorder for a reason.


 
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Because I can't stop thinking about it. It's annoying and distracting and sometimes it gets in the way of everyday life. But I'm not saying I'm suicidal over it (I'm not) but I can see why it happens so often.
i'm sorry, but that doesn't really answer my question

why can't you stop thinking about it--i need super super specifics in order to understand


 
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Verb, it's a disorder for a reason.
i'm just saying, if i had the disorder, i would be able to live with it
it would be so easy for me to get over it


 
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That's the thing verb, we can't understand. We have nothing to compare the experience to... except maybe an extreme body image/eating disorder, but even that's a stretch when you get down to it.


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Verb, it's a disorder for a reason.
i'm just saying, if i had the disorder, i would be able to live with it
it would be so easy for me to get over it
Trivializing the issue doesn't really help.


 
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Trivializing the issue doesn't really help.
Who's trivializing it? I'm just saying, I don't get it. There's no part of my brain that says, "Oh, I understand why someone would care if they were born with the wrong body, because it matters SO MUCH that you have the 'right body'." I don't... I don't. I don't. I can't.


 
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That's the thing verb, we can't understand. We have nothing to compare the experience to... except maybe an extreme body image/eating disorder, but even that's a stretch when you get down to it.
So what the fuck is wrong with my solution, then?


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Verb, it's a disorder for a reason.
i'm just saying, if i had the disorder, i would be able to live with it
it would be so easy for me to get over it

You have no idea what it's like to have a mental disorder do you. (exept the one that makes you want to kill everyboby)

Take this from someone who has previously struggled with depression. It has nothing to do with rationality. You just feel a certain way and there is NOTHING you can do to stop it.


 
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You have no idea what it's like to have a mental disorder do you. (exept the one that makes you want to kill everyboby)
>is depressed

Yeah, I do. Thanks.

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It has nothing to do with rationality.
We teach people to give a fuck about their bodies. That's my argument.
That's OUR fault as a society.

My solution:
Stop.

That is a bad solution how.


 
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And if my simple solution (teach future generations that it's okay to have whatever body you have, as well as ending the majority of discrimination that exists) isn't good enough, I wanna hear some better ones. Good fucking luck.


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Because I can't stop thinking about it. It's annoying and distracting and sometimes it gets in the way of everyday life. But I'm not saying I'm suicidal over it (I'm not) but I can see why it happens so often.
i'm sorry, but that doesn't really answer my question

why can't you stop thinking about it--i need super super specifics in order to understand
*shrugs* I don't know and I don't really think I could explain it, since you've never experienced it and I've never not experienced it.

I mean, I had the thought that I was "supposed" to be a girl when I was like 5. I can't remember much, but looking back, I can see that that was just the direction I would have headed had it not been reinforced that I was a boy. I didn't have any understanding of gender roles back then (at least not consciously) but I still knew something was wrong when nobody else I knew thought this way.

This may sound really fucking melodramatic, but it felt like I was getting poisoned all throughout puberty. By age 11 I had already researched all about trans people and I had pretty much figured it out, so I knew the effects of testosterone I was getting would become more and more concrete and irreversible, but I still didn't do anything out of fear and denial (I didn't want to be affiliated with the stuff on Jerry Springer so I put it out of my head).

I have above average intelligence (tested in school), didn't have any other condition, hadn't had any behavioral problems, and such, so I really didn't want to jump through all those hoops and talk to a psychologist to prove I was sane and suffered from gender dysphoria when I had already figured out what was wrong with me. So when I was 18 I started doing low level DIY hormone replacement after researching dosages, side effects, and the like.

IDK what else to tell you, besides gender roles have very little to do with my problems (and I don't really have a feminine personality, either).
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This is just bizarre, by the way.

You people are telling me that bullying transfolk isn't irrational.
And wanting it to stop is trivializing the issue.

...HUH?


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You have no idea what it's like to have a mental disorder do you. (exept the one that makes you want to kill everyboby)
>is depressed

Yeah, I do. Thanks.

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It has nothing to do with rationality.
We teach people to give a fuck about their bodies. That's my argument.
That's OUR fault as a society.

My solution:
Stop.

That is a bad solution how.

If someone is uncomfertable with the body they are in due to a mental disorder they are gonna feel that way regardless of society. It's called  a MENTAL dissorder and not a social disorder for a reason.  Its because of a broblem in the brain. In fact trying to deny people their sexual identity would probably be far worse for them than current societal norms since youre telling them that how they feel does not matter.
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If someone is uncomfertable with the body they are in due to a mental disorder they are gonna feel that way regardless of society.
I don't think so, sorry.

If you were the last person on earth, you wouldn't give a flying fuck what you looked like.


 
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I have above average intelligence (tested in school), didn't have any other condition, hadn't had any behavioral problems, and such, so I really didn't want to jump through all those hoops and talk to a psychologist to prove I was sane and suffered from gender dysphoria when I had already figured out what was wrong with me. So when I was 18 I started doing low level DIY hormone replacement after researching dosages, side effects, and the like.

IDK what else to tell you, besides gender roles have very little to do with my problems (and I don't really have a feminine personality, either).
the question i'm asking is, essentially, what would having a female form honestly do for your life

because i can't see how it would add anything

i don't want to pry, if this is getting too personal, by the way
i just don't see any value in having a male body or a female body--there's nothing


 
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do you think i'd be upset if all of a sudden, my brain was put into a woman's body?

and that's not fucking trivializing the issue--i'm just trying to put into perspective the extent to which i don't give a fuck about my gender identity

it's meaningless to me, and it BAFFLES me as to why it isn't meaningless to anyone else
why would someone care about something so goddamn unimportant
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I have above average intelligence (tested in school), didn't have any other condition, hadn't had any behavioral problems, and such, so I really didn't want to jump through all those hoops and talk to a psychologist to prove I was sane and suffered from gender dysphoria when I had already figured out what was wrong with me. So when I was 18 I started doing low level DIY hormone replacement after researching dosages, side effects, and the like.

IDK what else to tell you, besides gender roles have very little to do with my problems (and I don't really have a feminine personality, either).
the question i'm asking is, essentially, what would having a female form honestly do for your life

because i can't see how it would add anything

i don't want to pry, if this is getting too personal, by the way
i just don't see any value in having a male body or a female body--there's nothing

do you just not understand the concept of sexuality at all


 
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do you just not understand the concept of sexuality at all
both men and women are sexual

i don't see your point


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it's meaningless to me, and it BAFFLES me as to why it isn't meaningless to anyone else
And this is your problem. not everybody is a  appathetic stick in the mud like you, and you cant seem to comprehend that
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If someone is uncomfertable with the body they are in due to a mental disorder they are gonna feel that way regardless of society.
I don't think so, sorry.

If you were the last person on earth, you wouldn't give a flying fuck what you looked like.
Funny you should say that, because one of my irrational fears is having society collapse or the world end before I can get the funds/approval for SRS.

I have above average intelligence (tested in school), didn't have any other condition, hadn't had any behavioral problems, and such, so I really didn't want to jump through all those hoops and talk to a psychologist to prove I was sane and suffered from gender dysphoria when I had already figured out what was wrong with me. So when I was 18 I started doing low level DIY hormone replacement after researching dosages, side effects, and the like.

IDK what else to tell you, besides gender roles have very little to do with my problems (and I don't really have a feminine personality, either).
the question i'm asking is, essentially, what would having a female form honestly do for your life

because i can't see how it would add anything

i don't want to pry, if this is getting too personal, by the way
i just don't see any value in having a male body or a female body--there's nothing
It would help alleviate this mismatched mind-body issue? I mean, the value is in not having to think about it so much and not being as distressed.

And hey, maybe you're just one of those people who could be fine with either side, but apparently I'm not one of them.


 
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And this is your problem. not everybody is a  appatheric stick in the mud like you, and you cant seem to comprehend that
So you're saying people SHOULD care?

Why? So they can get depressed and kill themselves over it?

Nice going.


 
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And hey, maybe you're just one of those people who could be fine with either side, but apparently I'm not one of them.
Well, my goal is to produce a society (if we must produce a society at all) to not be comprised of a bunch of bigoted shitheads who cause people to feel uneasy or insecure or dysphoric to the point where they question their identity. And if someone is going to question their identity, they'll do it out of curiosity and wonder, not fear.

Apparently, that's a shitty idea though. I should really stop trivializing the issue!
Whatever.

Thank you for sharing your situation with me.
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And this is your problem. not everybody is a  appatheric stick in the mud like you, and you cant seem to comprehend that
So you're saying people SHOULD care?

Why? So they can get depressed and kill themselves over it?

Nice going.

I am saying people are going to care anyway because we aren't the green blooded vulcans you seem to think we are


 
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I am saying people are going to care anyway
No, they won't. Very few people care about your skin color, very few people care if you're homosexual. We can produce a society that doesn't care about gender identity.


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And hey, maybe you're just one of those people who could be fine with either side, but apparently I'm not one of them.
Well, my goal is to produce a society (if we must produce a society at all) to not be comprised of a bunch of bigoted shitheads who cause people to feel uneasy or insecure or dysphoric to the point where they question their identity. And if someone is going to question their identity, they'll do it out of curiosity and wonder, not fear.

Apparently, that's a shitty idea though. I should really stop trivializing the issue!
Whatever.

Thank you for sharing your situation with me.

I thought your goal was to exterminate all life in the universe to get rid of your teen angst the suffering caused by life