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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: April 11, 2018, 09:18:47 PM »
Have you tried suicide?

Certainly have heavily considered it at some points

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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: April 11, 2018, 08:29:30 PM »
Update, feel like absolute dog shit again.

You guys weren't playing when you said it comes in waves.

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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: March 29, 2018, 10:30:32 PM »
As much as it sucks what happened, I’m glad you’re feeling better man.

I appreciate it, happy to be back to normal

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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: March 29, 2018, 04:46:10 PM »

A legit breakup with someone you’ve invested your entire sense of self with is probably one of the most excruciatingly painful emotional trials you can ever go through. I don’t care what anyone says, a true love breakup is world shattering to the person. And as an already empathetic person, you’re going to feel the severity of it much more than most will understand.

First thing you need to know, is that it will get better. Second thing you need to know, is that nothing I say will be able to ease the pain for you right now. For how long depends up to you. Your identity, sense of self, everything was somewhat to majorly dependent on HER. That’s what happens in relationships like this. Your brain is like legit wired to her brain. You have identical experiences, the habits you’ve formed with her are so strong, those neural pathways so thick, that by breaking up you’re going  to have to basically tear them out, and that’s painful as fuck.

The best thing I did was to in a way reinvent myself. When I went through a horrible suicide provoking breakup, I felt over time that I was sorta shedding away layers of myself as time went on and the pain would come and go. And that I was adding new layers to myself, better improved layers. That surrounded my core identity/values. I completely transformed in a way, improved immensely, and am so much happier and fulfilled now.

That seems impossible to you I know, but you have to keep it in your mind that it will get better. That’s not meant to make you feel better though like I said. You’re acrually probably going to feel like absolute shit for a good while, with occasional glimpses of happiness. It’s almkst like the theme of the world you live in changed, everything’s the same but so different right?  Just pretend like you’re living in a nightmare right now. You’re gonna have to be strong and push through it. Just feel your emotions as they come, don’t try to block them out in any way!!

I recommend filling your life with brand new experiences. New people, new places, new new new. And enjoyable to you. Force yourself to flood your brain with all these new experiences. Read! Reading changes your thought patterns so well. I highly recommend getting into meditation too, it’s changed my life tbh.

Not sure the circumstances but I’m here for you man. Snap me or somethjng if you ever need to talk or just vent to a semi anon person. I have a lot of experience with this

Thankfully I feel I have made a full recovery, although I am more then aware Ill feel sad at some point in the future. It was just immensely difficult to be with that person and having an incredible day, and then the next its over. That shit blew my mind and I just kept trying to wrap my head around it which just made it more painful and confusing. I would sit there asking myself how did this happened and what did I do to deserve this. Eventually after talking to her and my friends it became clear that I did nothing wrong, and there was really nothing I could have done. She was immensely happy with our relationship, as was I, but then the events of that day occurred and well shit hit the fan faster then I could keep up.

It was a lesson in self worth, because it made me feel worthless. I had done everything in my power for her, everything she needed I provided, whether it was time or money spent I did it. She helped me through a lot of stuff, was by my side through so many thing, and was just at every step a truly remarkable girlfriend. How it happened, and how she acted towards me immediately following just made me feel completely worthless. I was discarded like nothing, and I just couldn't handle that.

The best way I have gotten over it was simply to appreciate the time we had, rather then feeling it was wasted. People expected me to be angry and hate her, which I don't. Shockingly at no point during all of this did I get mad, I was just sad and hurt. Slap to the face of an experience but hey atleast I feel better. Still havent talked to her, but sounds like I'm going to have to at some point.

Unsure if it is smart or not to atleast try and stay friends, feel like it would be awkward especially with what happened.

As shitty as it sounds, I just woke up one day and just didn't give a shit about what happened. Maybe I am in a denial phase, or my brain just was like we can't stay sad about this shit so lets throw it into the back and forget. I still love her to death and would do anything I can to help her. But god damn was it a shit show of a night.

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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: March 29, 2018, 04:36:36 PM »
1st off, you will NEVER be able to recapture that same feeling as when you were together with your ex, it's impossible, don't try to compare any future relationship to it.

2nd, go on a bro trip with all your best friends and have some fun, DON'T sit around moping and have some fun to clear your head.

3rd, try dating again and  refer to point 1, have some fun with some people you have never met and maybe have a relationship just as unforgettable as the last, just in a different way, and stick with it, try to improve on this one by learning from the mistakes you/they made last time.

That first point is a real son of a bitch. Mainly because it was a relationship where I was totally okay if I ended up marrying her. We were already living together, and it had been on my mind for a while. Just too young to get around to it, and then this happened lmao.

I always compare people, which is a terrible thing to do but I just do it naturally. X person isn't as attractive as Y, X doesn't even have near as great as a personality as Y.

Point 3 is something I'll get to in like half a year, right now I mainly just getting my side of things back in order because everything came to a screeching halt last week.

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The Flood / Re: For once, I need actual advice
« on: March 26, 2018, 11:37:27 PM »

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The Flood / For once, I need actual advice
« on: March 26, 2018, 10:59:15 PM »
Whether or not this is the best place to come for stuff like this, it doesn't hurt to hear different opinions and advice.

I recently separated from my girlfriend after 6 years, and I am having a remarkably hard time dealing with it. I won't go into details as to why, because of the sheer amount of detail that goes into each element of what caused the downfall. I just don't know how to really move on from it. I can't communicate with her anymore, so I can't get closure or really anything. I honestly can't rap my head around moving on after losing the person I literally did everything with for 6 straight years. The person I have talked to literally every single day for 6 years. The only person I have ever been fully transparent with, and the only person in which I stayed genuine in every way imaginable. It was incredibly difficult and taxing to always be transparent, but I felt I owed it to her.

Hell, it has been so many years since I have been this down. I haven't had thoughts of self harm since middle school and early high school, but they came again, and I got uncomfortably close to acting on it on two different occasions over the last 3 days. It's just so much to wrap my head around and I just don't understand how all of this happened.

Was it a bad break up? In my opinion yes, as I have never had a break up which involved cutting all ties in terms of communication. I am just left alone with the thoughts that keep creeping into my mind, and the feeling of being alone.

I hope some of you guys have been in similar situations and can give me some advice. I know I will get some joke answers, but hopefully I do get something with substance because I really do need it.

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The Flood / Re: Das
« on: February 09, 2018, 02:54:57 AM »
Well, a lot of collectors are beginning to get considerably more annoyed about people getting very limited production cars just to sell them off. While I have benefitted from that practice I do understand why it is a problem. It’s become more prominent now with the release of the Bugatti Chiron. Anyone with an ear to the ground will know that a lot, and I mean a lot, of the people who got them took delivery and immediately sold them. Not even through private sales, which is more respectable, but through open dealer driven sales. What this does is not only lets some random person who can afford it by it, but takes away that exclusive feel of being in a circle. That’s why you have companies like Ferrari who penalize people who resell their prestige cars (to be fair they penalize people for doing a lot of things). While dealerships with go and buy one, maybe two version of these types of cars, it doesn’t account for the sheer volume you see on sale.

If you ever meet someone, or see anyone really, who’s looking to buy a limited production car, they will look for private sales, not public listings or houses. Two reasons, it’s one exclusive partner selling to another exclusive party, and the price is usually lower because most people respect that comradery. Public sales are almost always way above the “normal” going rate. Also buying from a dealership usually means that car has had several owners, which isn’t great.

Every now and then a prestine example will go up at a dealership, even some one offs which is fine, but the “generic” orders that are sold all over the place are the problem.

It’s effected people’s views on certain brands for allowing things like this to happen, some big collectors flat out say they won’t continue to be customers. Some brands are benefitting, like Pagani, or are VERY particular about these kinds of things. In fact almost all of their “production cars” are special made one offs. Atleast in more recent years (idk about how the Zonda worked in its first few iterations). But the BC has been quite a big example of one off’s and keeping a car market incredibly special. You don’t see many, if any for sale.


Cars like the 488, 911, and Aventador/Huracan (barring the 50th) aren’t the types of cars this is about. It’s about the BC’s, the new wave of Agera’s, the Veneno’s, the hybrid trio. Those cars
I’ve never heard of this being a problem, but working at a (lower end, mind you) car dealership I can see how it’s a problem. Is this a nation/worldwide issue or is it just limited to some dealers in your area? IIRC Pagani has never made significant fleets of its cars. Biggest run wouldn’t be much larger than 40 total (maybe C12S or F?)

Any prospects on the horizon for you?

It’s worldwide, but only in concentrated areas. For example, stateside it’s a bigger problem then it is in places like Dubai because of the different types of collector cultures.

Pagani makes super low amounts of everything. It’s why they are such a prestigious brand. Owning a BC, or an R is a huge deal. And a lot of people who own them are close friends with Horacio himself. But Pagani does things very different to other brands. While I would love to be apart of that, it’s out of my reach until the production runs are more open and higher numbers.

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The Flood / Re: Das
« on: February 09, 2018, 02:12:00 AM »
This forum doesn’t like brag posts. I can talk about what’s currently on my mind in terms of aqcquistions, as well as conversations surrounding the exotic car market that are negatively impacting resellers/official dealers

Also I’m amazed I saw this without being tagged
m’kay

Aw yiss hit me with dat goss fam

Well, a lot of collectors are beginning to get considerably more annoyed about people getting very limited production cars just to sell them off. While I have benefitted from that practice I do understand why it is a problem. It’s become more prominent now with the release of the Bugatti Chiron. Anyone with an ear to the ground will know that a lot, and I mean a lot, of the people who got them took delivery and immediately sold them. Not even through private sales, which is more respectable, but through open dealer driven sales. What this does is not only lets some random person who can afford it by it, but takes away that exclusive feel of being in a circle. That’s why you have companies like Ferrari who penalize people who resell their prestige cars (to be fair they penalize people for doing a lot of things). While dealerships with go and buy one, maybe two version of these types of cars, it doesn’t account for the sheer volume you see on sale.

If you ever meet someone, or see anyone really, who’s looking to buy a limited production car, they will look for private sales, not public listings or houses. Two reasons, it’s one exclusive partner selling to another exclusive party, and the price is usually lower because most people respect that comradery. Public sales are almost always way above the “normal” going rate. Also buying from a dealership usually means that car has had several owners, which isn’t great.

Every now and then a prestine example will go up at a dealership, even some one offs which is fine, but the “generic” orders that are sold all over the place are the problem.

It’s effected people’s views on certain brands for allowing things like this to happen, some big collectors flat out say they won’t continue to be customers. Some brands are benefitting, like Pagani, or are VERY particular about these kinds of things. In fact almost all of their “production cars” are special made one offs. Atleast in more recent years (idk about how the Zonda worked in its first few iterations). But the BC has been quite a big example of one off’s and keeping a car market incredibly special. You don’t see many, if any for sale.


Cars like the 488, 911, and Aventador/Huracan (barring the 50th) aren’t the types of cars this is about. It’s about the BC’s, the new wave of Agera’s, the Veneno’s, the hybrid trio. Those cars

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What breed fam?

Shiba Inu
Why did you get a doge.

Regardless fam take care of doge and doge will be loyal to you. Also more dogs is never a bad thing either. Its fun walking around my yard and having my 4 puppers follow me everywhere.

Would always see photos of them way before Doge was a meme and thought they were adorable. Wanted my own Japanese fox.

I’ve thought about getting another, and probably will. Most likely a black and white colored Shiba. Mine is a red Shiba

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The Flood / Re: Das
« on: February 09, 2018, 01:55:48 AM »
BC post your cars

This forum doesn’t like brag posts. I can talk about what’s currently on my mind in terms of aqcquistions, as well as conversations surrounding the exotic car market that are negatively impacting resellers/official dealers

Also I’m amazed I saw this without being tagged

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The Flood / Re: Finally on the field, we've had quite a run
« on: February 09, 2018, 01:42:44 AM »
Class where are you from (or your parents)

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Never could I have imagined the sheer amount of happiness that would come from having a canine best friend. I was told Shiba’s would be a bad first dog, but man has it been awesome.

Over a year in, and sure some minor furniture damage, but so worth it.

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The Flood / Re: What’s A Good Contact Name For GF
« on: February 05, 2018, 08:33:40 PM »
Their first and last name

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The Flood / Re: rip elegiac
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:34:13 AM »
What happened?

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The Flood / Re: How do I boost my confidence
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:31:35 AM »
i feel like the internet age has made this shit so much more fucking complicated, especially for introverted people

back in the day, guys literally didn't have anything better to do than to try their luck with girls

now we have so much

Honestly a pretty fair assessment. A lot of people I’ve known don’t have an interest in even chasing women simply because they are distracted by other things. Some come around to it some don’t. Whether that’s good or bad is up to the person

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The Flood / Re: Das
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:30:02 AM »
It’s most likely because they are pretty sweet cars from a technological standpoint. And they have the backing of being the “futures car”.

It’s mainly just throwing around torque numbers and acceleration. They aren’t seen as performance vehicles, atleast in most circles. But they are important in a general sense. It’s just a very niche brand and most people who by into it like myself are doing it because they are “unique” in its potential and it’s fun to be apart of a growing movement.

Plus Tesla is the car brand for nerds, for good reason.

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The Flood / Re: How do I boost my confidence
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:25:53 AM »
I haven’t read,  nor do I want to read 6 pages worth of responses so here’s my take.

If it’s a person you have never spoken to, or had a decent conversation with, start one. Sure it’s daunting but sometimes you have to power through things to get what you want. Find common ground, and go from there. Then you go from there. That’s where you feel out whether you actually like the person or not. Then as things just progress and you guys become more familiar, then ask her for her number if she hasn’t offered it by then. There are subtle ways to ask for it but it depends on the situation.

Then you talk a little longer and then you ask her out

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:22:07 AM »

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:21:47 AM »

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The Flood / Re: so can anyone explain the cuckmouth pose?
« on: February 04, 2018, 12:21:14 AM »
Or the concerned confused face
Spoiler


Bonus points for the male duck face too
Spoiler

That first guy looks like a backwards bionicle

Why you gotta disrespect my boy Alexis Sanchez like that

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 11:49:01 PM »
Welcome back!
I made Mythic while you were away. How's life?

Very good, how about you?

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 11:48:44 PM »
everyone's gone

Seems that way, when I checked last night there had only been 2 new topics in like 3 days
It's depressing. When this forum dies, I have no other community to go to.

Better start looking for one.

Well, I hope you find one. Any reason why so many people left?

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 01:20:54 PM »
everyone's gone

Seems that way, when I checked last night there had only been 2 new topics in like 3 days

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 01:20:05 PM »

Didn’t go through with it
fair call, how goes the current set of wheels anyway?

Same sets, so everything is great

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 01:19:13 PM »
wow rude

Hello fren
what drove you to come back and visit

Noticed it was on my favorites on Safari, so decided to pop in

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The Flood / Re: Who here has traveled long distance alone?
« on: January 28, 2018, 03:07:54 AM »
If your traveling within the US you should be perfectly fine. You have your phone, and now the basics of how things work. Always research the destination your going to for things like transportation, and generally places to go or avoid. Always make sure to double check your flights, be there 2 hours early (assuming your flying). When you book a hotel always double check it is the correct date (easy mistake).

Other then that all you really need is your phone and google maps to get around.

Traveling overseas is when things get more complicated. It’s going to be nerve racking because you are out of your comfort zone but it’s an experience you need to become not only more independent but also more confident in yourself.

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 03:04:08 AM »

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The Flood / Re: Hello old friends
« on: January 28, 2018, 03:03:44 AM »
I forgot this place existed
Hahaha hello my friend how have you been?
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When are you gonna play Warframe on PC?

I have no reason to switch to PC. But I’ve been playing it again recently on Xbox. Baza is an unreal weapon, so fun. Been messing with Ash Prime with that cool futuristic Batman style skin (that armor strip mod for his 1 is ridiculous), discovered how fun Orthos Prime is, and just recently picked up Inaros and Nekros Prime (who I really dislike).
But how have you been

Been very good, a lot of traveling. Been focused on just relaxing a lot, taking time to myself.

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