Who's lost family/loved ones?

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 05:28:45 PM

How did you grieve? How long did it take you to feel normal again?

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · July 12, 2018, 05:41:19 PM

Lost my great-grandparents over ten years ago. I was sad but tried not to think about it so it didn't hit me hard. Only as an adult did it really hit me as I thought back to the time I spent with them as a child.
In 2017 my last great-grandmother died and that made me feel guilty. I didn't really give her the attention a grandchild should have. My grandmother (her daughter) took her passing very hard. Went into depression and I did the only thing I could and brought her over to Ireland.
Once again, no real grieving as such. I was too busy trying to get my granny back to normal.

I dread the day when my mom's parents will pass. I grew up with them while mom was abroad working full time. It will suck, I don't even want to think about it.

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 05:53:23 PM

Quote from: FatherlyNick on July 12, 2018, 05:41:19 PM

Lost my great-grandparents over ten years ago. I was sad but tried not to think about it so it didn't hit me hard. Only as an adult did it really hit me as I thought back to the time I spent with them as a child.
In 2017 my last great-grandmother died and that made me feel guilty. I didn't really give her the attention a grandchild should have. My grandmother (her daughter) took her passing very hard. Went into depression and I did the only thing I could and brought her over to Ireland.
Once again, no real grieving as such. I was too busy trying to get my granny back to normal.

I dread the day when my mom's parents will pass. I grew up with them while mom was abroad working full time. It will suck, I don't even want to think about it.

Even of you didn't really "grieve" per se, how did you come to terms? I've recently found that it's pretty easy to understand it logically, but a week out and I just can't "really" feel it. Outside of the night that it happened and the funeral, I haven't cried or really felt anything.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · July 12, 2018, 06:16:08 PM

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Quote from: FatherlyNick on July 12, 2018, 05:41:19 PM
Lost my great-grandparents over ten years ago. I was sad but tried not to think about it so it didn't hit me hard. Only as an adult did it really hit me as I thought back to the time I spent with them as a child.
In 2017 my last great-grandmother died and that made me feel guilty. I didn't really give her the attention a grandchild should have. My grandmother (her daughter) took her passing very hard. Went into depression and I did the only thing I could and brought her over to Ireland.
Once again, no real grieving as such. I was too busy trying to get my granny back to normal.

I dread the day when my mom's parents will pass. I grew up with them while mom was abroad working full time. It will suck, I don't even want to think about it.
Even of you didn't really "grieve" per se, how did you come to terms? I've recently found that it's pretty easy to understand it logically, but a week out and I just can't "really" feel it. Outside of the night that it happened and the funeral, I haven't cried or really felt anything.

I just thought back to who that person was to me and our time together. I think I being thousands of kilometres away kind of cushions the blow of it all too. I spoke about it with my girlfriend and she shared her memories.
The thing that gets the feels going is the fact that you will never be able to share any more moments with that person. She will not call me, or tell me any more stories from her 94 years of her life on this planet. I was sad, but functioning fine. In contrast, my granny would start crying just randomly during the day. She wouldn't even be able to talk without breaking into tears. Main reason for that is because the two of them lived together for as long as I knew them. Emma (Great-grandmother) had sustained a leg injury at work and was unable to leave the apartment since they live on the fifth storey and the magnificent soviet engineering didn't have the foresight to install elevators. So imagine your everyday companion of the last 25+ years dying and leaving you literally alone in the apartment with all of your children living abroad.

Wall of text tl;dr - I spoke to gf and that helped. Couldn't 'fall apart' in front of my depressed granny either.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 06:20:47 PM

Haven't really lost anyone, but there was a heated moment in the family where my nephew left the house, and my niece kept putting ideas of my nephew being depressed and suicidal into my head and I cried for the first time since I was maybe 5. Didn't think I was human until that night, but I went outside and I could barely keep it together. When I found him I couldn't get past a few words until I had to look away. I lost control of my feelings many times while we were talking.

If he had killed himself or hurt himself- at the time I felt like killing myself. I don't think I'd allow myself to be happy until I forgot, and that could take at least a few months of depression.

but if my dad died I don't think I'd feel this strongly. I might feel like you. What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 06:25:00 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.

Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · July 12, 2018, 06:31:00 PM

My condolences, OP.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 06:32:32 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.

Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 06:35:38 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?

I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.

Ásgeirr · July 12, 2018, 06:38:10 PM

Cried for a few hours during that night, same with the funeral. I was sad for a week or so after it happened and then that was that.

Never thought about it unless it was brought up by someone else.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 06:39:50 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.

Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 06:48:58 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?

Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 06:57:12 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?
Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.

He gave you the courage to do a lot of things?

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 06:58:38 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?
Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.
He gave you the courage to do a lot of things?

Believe in my self. Take some chances. That sort of stuff.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 07:02:31 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?
Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.
He gave you the courage to do a lot of things?
Believe in my self. Take some chances. That sort of stuff.

When did he instill these feelings in you? Was it a long time ago or more recent?

Super Irish · July 12, 2018, 07:05:23 PM

I've lost grandparents on either side, but before birth so they've never affected me other than curiosity as to what they were like. My only great grandmother I knew died when I was around 8 or 9 so again, not much to feel in terms of loss.

I'd say I've been fortunate, but at the same time that's going to make it harder longer down the line when I lose my two remaining grandparents as I grew up with both of them closely, and I'm close to my other extended family too, who are starting to get on.

I've lost acquaintances and family pets and felt similar, a bit numb, but never actually hitting badly. I think about them a lot, especially since most the people I knew went out pretty grisly or depressed. People take grief in different ways and there's no "right way" to experience it. For how long boils down to how long it'll take until you get "used" to it - someone you see everyday and knew well and had good vibes off of might take a lot longer than someone you met once at a bar.

This probably hasn't helped very much. I'm sorry for your loss.

🍁 Aria 🔮 · July 12, 2018, 07:06:18 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?
Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.
He gave you the courage to do a lot of things?
Believe in my self. Take some chances. That sort of stuff.
When did he instill these feelings in you? Was it a long time ago or more recent?

As long as I've known him. Regardless of my insecurities, and whether I talked to him about him or not, he exuded an aura of security and confidence. Made you feel like you could do anything.

Desty · July 12, 2018, 07:10:55 PM

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What kind of relationship did you have with the deceased? How much did you care for that person? Also I think you'll feel it once you notice the person's gone. Those nights when you just feel a sudden emptiness 'cause that person isn't there anymore.
Cousin. He was the same age as me, and I grew up with him. A few years ago I moved 250~ miles away from him. His birthday is next month. If it hasn't hit yet by then, it will that day.
Do you think your psyche has numbed you, or do you think there's an absence of sadness?
I honestly don't know. I'm not sure if I'm subconsciously obfuscating the fact that he's gone or if I feel nothing. Accordingly, I can't tell if I'm sad that he's gone or sad that I don't feel anything from his passing.
Yeah I understand that. It's worth exploring your feelings. If you don't mind, I'll help you with questions. If you don't want to answer them here, then we can do it in the dms or you can just not give me an answer. The first question is, how was your relationship with this person? Think about it in depth. How much did they mean to you when you grew up together, how much after?
Good, but he had a good relationship with everyone. Kind of person who would cancel plans to fix your tire, or spend a night with someone who was feeling lost, or fix the lighting in a restaurant because the manager is his friend. He sold out his funeral; people had to park in the grass and around the curb because there wasn't enough parking. Hundreds, and hundreds, and hundreds of people attended.

I've never been the smartest person (specifically in my family). He was always a comforting presence. Imagine an Andy Dwyer character, but redneck. He gave me the courage to do a lot of things. And now he's gone.
He gave you the courage to do a lot of things?
Believe in my self. Take some chances. That sort of stuff.
When did he instill these feelings in you? Was it a long time ago or more recent?
As long as I've known him. Regardless of my insecurities, and whether I talked to him about him or not, he exuded an aura of security and confidence. Made you feel like you could do anything.

Ok I think your psyche is trying to protect you by making you feel numb. You should get a safety net prepared in case you become sad. Like, get someone who can support you when you're feeling down. it might not be that serious, but it's like putting a bandage on a wound. Even if it's minor it will help the healing process.

Casper · July 12, 2018, 07:19:58 PM

got no fam, fam, so im not really sure

Mega Sceptile · July 12, 2018, 07:34:10 PM

Lost a lot of family and friends, mostly to age, or stupidity of them or others. it started out hard at first, and to grieve I had to take time off of my work. I've never felt the same after each death, but it did get easier to let go and move on the more funerals I went to. it's kinda fucked up, but I grieve less now than I did before and the "normality" if you can call it that just flips back in and the only real time I feel that grief is when I'm reminded of the people I lose. like when their favorite songs play on the radio.

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Ian · July 12, 2018, 10:45:00 PM

My father died of colon cancer four years ago.

It sucked hard when it all happened, but the longer it's been the more I think about him and realize he wasn't exactly a great father and I just feel anger and resentment towards him. Like I try to think about all the good times I had with him, but then it gets drowned out by the memories of him yelling at me when I did nothing wrong, criticizing decisions I made, and generally just being kind of an asshole, coupled with the fact that he was obese, drank, and smoked; it's hard to keep a positive view of him. As cruel as it sounds, he essentially brought his death upon himself with his lifestyle.

I don't know how my feelings on him will be in the future, but one thing is for certain: If I ever raise a child, I will make sure to never be anything like he was in terms of being a father.

rC · July 12, 2018, 10:47:54 PM

the sadness comes less frequently with time, but it never goes away

DAS B00T x2 · July 12, 2018, 10:49:14 PM

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coupled with the fact that he was obese, drank, and smoked; it's hard to keep a positive view of him. As cruel as it sounds, he essentially brought his death upon himself with his lifestyle.

you're about my age. How far apart were you from your father's age that such things that haven't killed the majority of boomers killed him?

Ian · July 12, 2018, 10:51:27 PM

I don't understand the question? He was 53, I was 19 at the time.

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on July 12, 2018, 10:49:14 PM

you're about my age. How far apart were you from your father's age that such things that haven't killed the majority of boomers killed him?

July 13, 2018, 01:36:03 AM

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My grandfather passed away in 2014, but I was saddened by his suffering more so than the death. My grandmother died in 2016, but I wasn't present to see it. They brought my brother and I to all 50 states and several other countries throughout our lives. It's quite painful to look back at those memories and see that we'll never get an opportunity to spend time with them again.

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The post painful part was leaving the house. Family started fighting over ownership months before my grandmother's death. One threatened to harm me if I didn't leave, and that was after I had the police over for a civil dispute.

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I slept with a handgun under my pillow because he did place his hands on me months before. I dropped the charges because he'd just return after jail time. My grandmother was intelligent, but she allowed a convicted felon to live under her roof. I don't know if it was sympathy, or the brain tumors fucking up her mental state.

Jono · July 13, 2018, 03:00:15 AM

I lost my grandma from my dad's side of the family in 2007 when I was 11 years old. I wasn't close to her but she was the kindest and sweetest person you'd ever meet. She barely knew english and talked mostly spanish and loved every time we'd visit when we had the chance to.

My dad came into my room and told me that she had passed away. That was the first time in my life that I've seen my dad cry and I broke down in tears too. It's been almost 11 years now since that happened and my dad has never been the same, mentally that is. Before he used to work and do things the stereotypical hardworking dad does, and now he just sits and watches TV all day and takes care of my dog when I'm not home and baby sits my nephews and nieces.

I'm worried about what he's going to do the day my grandpa passes away.

July 13, 2018, 04:03:21 AM

Who hasn't?

Grieving period is long, but the fact is you'll be grieving your whole life. You go through periods of distraction/remembrance.

BaconShelf · July 13, 2018, 04:35:00 AM

I lost my Great Grandma last year, but it didn't really hit me as hard as I was expecting it to. She'd been really ill for over a year and she'd been a 20-a-day smoker for 80 years, so it was honestly amazing how long she kept going. I suppose I'd kind of prepared myself for it to happen.

I also lost my dog of 14 years last February, that took way longer to feel right again. I think a big part of it was getting a new puppy just over a month later, that did a lot to help get through it as it meant still having to do walks and whatnot.

Loaf · July 13, 2018, 04:42:45 AM

BAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh my god, the level of butt blasted in this thread is unreal.