Quote from: Prime Example on June 15, 2015, 12:19:12 AMMaking dumb decisions is part of growing up, being afraid to talk because you're either going to mess up/forget half your vocabulary at any given moment or accidentally interrupt someone multiple times isn't.Would you say your problem is rooted more in how people will perceive you as a result of these gaucheries, or is it something else entirely? Because I would certainly hope that it's a part of growing up, because I'm in the same boat as you, but my problem is mostly about the former. If I do something stupid, I start convincing myself that everyone hates me now, and is going to start treating me differently based on those little social fuck-ups.In reality, no one cares, because everyone makes social fuck-ups, and there's not enough time to be concerned about other people's awkwardness. I find that thought a little comforting, personally, and I feel like when I fully grasp that concept--the idea that everyone else is living out their own complex lives, too--I think that's a sign of maturation, or growing up. Because it makes your problems seem smaller and that much less significant.I can't speak for you, of course, but I mean... I don't know, I just hope you find some way to make it better.
Making dumb decisions is part of growing up, being afraid to talk because you're either going to mess up/forget half your vocabulary at any given moment or accidentally interrupt someone multiple times isn't.
I'm always worried that I'm being bothersome or annoying whenever I talk to someone, even if they're someone I consider a close friend
Quote from: Fruit on June 16, 2015, 01:39:28 AMI'm always worried that I'm being bothersome or annoying whenever I talk to someone, even if they're someone I consider a close friendOh god I'm not the only one. I mainly feel like this because my group of friends go out with one another, so it makes me feel bad talking to them ;__;
Lack of assertiveness comes to mind too, sometimes.
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Quote from: SuperIrish on June 16, 2015, 07:58:10 AMI'm a rather closed person. I don't like bothering people with my own problems so I don't talk about my actual ones.Also, I'm way too wary of people's reactions if I say something out of whack, so I'm percieved as the "cutely awkward" guy, and that pisses me off for so many reasons.Oh hey it's the cutely awkward guy
I'm a rather closed person. I don't like bothering people with my own problems so I don't talk about my actual ones.Also, I'm way too wary of people's reactions if I say something out of whack, so I'm percieved as the "cutely awkward" guy, and that pisses me off for so many reasons.
What do you consider your social flaw?
