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obviously considering theres nothing to lose by doing so

i can think of at least four things

prove it

loss of time, dignity, morale

could possibly get physically hurt depending on how crazy she is

elaborate on dignity?

getting rejected can be pretty mortifying depending on your disposition

the kind of dignity loss that makes you not want to speak to a female for months on end, even if you know it's silly and doesn't actually matter

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obviously considering theres nothing to lose by doing so

i can think of at least four things

prove it

loss of time, dignity, morale

could possibly get physically hurt depending on how crazy she is

elaborate on dignity?

getting rejected can be pretty mortifying depending on your disposition

the kind of dignity loss that makes you not want to speak to a female for months on end, even if you know it's silly and doesn't actually matter

well you cant let a "no" from a girl you just you just me keep you down. if you would be be down for months i would say youre a very fragile person.  if all you do is never try because you're scared of getting shot down, you'll never find someone.

maybe that's better

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getting rejected can be pretty mortifying depending on your disposition

the kind of dignity loss that makes you not want to speak to a female for months on end, even if you know it's silly and doesn't actually matter

That is more so on your end though for hoping way too much. It's not the womans fault for saying no, and it shouldn't be the end of the world for you.

Besides, it's better to know how someone feels than always wonder "what if?" and regret it for a long period in your life.

it's not really a thing of "why couldn't she just say yes," it's a matter of "why would she say yes, why did i even try"

i do agree with the second part though

That sounds like low self esteem issues and if you think suddenly having a partner would make your life happier, you'd be wrong. You need to have your life in shape mentally before you attempt to include another in it. At least that's how I feel.

i agree, but again, this doesn't really apply to me either—you forget how weird i am

it's not that i think having a partner would make me happier, per se—i just see unhappiness and loneliness in other people, and i want to see if i can't offer anything to help them with that, because those are two things that resonate with me on a personal level

and then i remember—oh yeah, i don't actually have anything to offer to that end, so i can't really help anyone

so, like you said, it's ultimately a matter of adjusting myself first, but i'm the kind of person who wants to have his cake, eat it too, and share it with anyone else who may want it—but no one wants it, and that's kind of a crushing feeling

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getting rejected can be pretty mortifying depending on your disposition

the kind of dignity loss that makes you not want to speak to a female for months on end, even if you know it's silly and doesn't actually matter

That is more so on your end though for hoping way too much. It's not the womans fault for saying no, and it shouldn't be the end of the world for you.

Besides, it's better to know how someone feels than always wonder "what if?" and regret it for a long period in your life.

it's not really a thing of "why couldn't she just say yes," it's a matter of "why would she say yes, why did i even try"

i do agree with the second part though

That sounds like low self esteem issues and if you think suddenly having a partner would make your life happier, you'd be wrong. You need to have your life in shape mentally before you attempt to include another in it. At least that's how I feel.

i agree, but again, this doesn't really apply to me either—you forget how weird i am

it's not that i think having a partner would make me happier, per se—i just see unhappiness and loneliness in other people, and i want to see if i can't offer anything to help them with that, because those are two things that resonate with me on a personal level

and then i remember—oh yeah, i don't actually have anything to offer to that end, so i can't really help anyone

so, like you said, it's ultimately a matter of adjusting myself first, but i'm the kind of person who wants to have his cake, eat it too, and share it with anyone else who may want it—but no one wants it, and that's kind of a crushing feeling

This mindset you have of wanting to go into a relationship for what you can GIVE to the other person, is the BEST mindset anyone can ever have going into a relationship!! Seriously, it's very next level and if everyone thought like that 90% of relationships would be way better off and happier. Most people(even subconsciously) use relationships to see what they can take: validation/sex/approval/less lonely. Which man times ends badly.

Your thinking takings a wrong turn however. When you start thinking that you have no value to offer that person, that's completely wrong. The idea that you want to improve your future partners life actually has tons of value in itself.

More on this later I'm gonna eat brb

Yeah, I ain't gonna do it.

Just do it, fag. You got nothing to lose.