Quote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:59:36 PMQuote from: Trump will create waifus on January 25, 2016, 11:57:33 PMEh, I've never felt the feeling. I'm pretty much at that point where I really don't even know what to do. Here I am 24 and never been with anyone, so I'm without experience. I have thought about apps like tinder, but the fact that you need a facebook is a no no for me. In teaching, you have to have that whole professional looking thing going on and using it seems like a liability. Would also consider using grindr, but I live in a small enough city the everyone knows each other and I don't want to come out as bi.That sucks dude. As a guy at 17 whos had really bad luck in that department, i really dread that happening to me. (No offense)I dont want to get to the point where im just at home, 24/7 with no social prospects and no experienceNone taken, trust me, I beat myself up more than anyone on here could. It just sucks thinking about it because now all my peers are all people who have experience and expectations and most likely I won't be able to compare should I ever have the chance to be with someone.
Quote from: Trump will create waifus on January 25, 2016, 11:57:33 PMEh, I've never felt the feeling. I'm pretty much at that point where I really don't even know what to do. Here I am 24 and never been with anyone, so I'm without experience. I have thought about apps like tinder, but the fact that you need a facebook is a no no for me. In teaching, you have to have that whole professional looking thing going on and using it seems like a liability. Would also consider using grindr, but I live in a small enough city the everyone knows each other and I don't want to come out as bi.That sucks dude. As a guy at 17 whos had really bad luck in that department, i really dread that happening to me. (No offense)I dont want to get to the point where im just at home, 24/7 with no social prospects and no experience
Eh, I've never felt the feeling. I'm pretty much at that point where I really don't even know what to do. Here I am 24 and never been with anyone, so I'm without experience. I have thought about apps like tinder, but the fact that you need a facebook is a no no for me. In teaching, you have to have that whole professional looking thing going on and using it seems like a liability. Would also consider using grindr, but I live in a small enough city the everyone knows each other and I don't want to come out as bi.
Quote from: Jive Turkey on January 25, 2016, 11:39:36 PMCan't make a woman your purpose. It's very appealing but I've learned the hard way.Why not? I see no problems with one's life goal being to provide for their wife and family.QuoteYour primary focus should be to find your purpose. Your mission.Life is meaningless.QuoteThe way you feel is almost identical to Roman. You guys just come across in slightly different ways, but To me I see how similar your guy's posts areUgh not cool broThere's nothing wrong with being a romantic
Can't make a woman your purpose. It's very appealing but I've learned the hard way.
Your primary focus should be to find your purpose. Your mission.
The way you feel is almost identical to Roman. You guys just come across in slightly different ways, but To me I see how similar your guy's posts are
Quote from: Kal on January 25, 2016, 11:51:38 PMYou're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.Its impossible to love myself. I hate myself. And so do most people.Which is kinda the problem. Maybe if someone ever does love me again they can tell me how.
You're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.
Women just don't like when guys make them the priority, even though it seems like she should love it. It turns her away from you.
Quote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:53:17 PMQuote from: Kal on January 25, 2016, 11:51:38 PMYou're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.Its impossible to love myself. I hate myself. And so do most people.Which is kinda the problem. Maybe if someone ever does love me again they can tell me how.That should be like your character arc.
Quote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:04:23 AMAnd its not that i dont believe you or anything, its just that dont trust your judgement. I havent met very many people like me so its hard to use their advice when it is so often unapplicable to meWhat's there not to trust about the idea that learning to love yourself will vastly improve your life in all ways? You don't hate yourself, you're happy with your own company, and life overall is more pleasant when you're not constantly holding things against yourself. Seriously think about it, you're walking around every day with all this baggage, and when you let it go it's like the skies clear up and you can see the sunlight again.
And its not that i dont believe you or anything, its just that dont trust your judgement. I havent met very many people like me so its hard to use their advice when it is so often unapplicable to me
Quote from: Korra on January 26, 2016, 12:07:58 AMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:53:17 PMQuote from: Kal on January 25, 2016, 11:51:38 PMYou're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.Its impossible to love myself. I hate myself. And so do most people.Which is kinda the problem. Maybe if someone ever does love me again they can tell me how.That should be like your character arc.What do you mean
Bro all I'm saying is that you need to find a way to be happy just with yourself. You don't need someone else for that.
Quote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:13:45 AMQuote from: Korra on January 26, 2016, 12:07:58 AMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:53:17 PMQuote from: Kal on January 25, 2016, 11:51:38 PMYou're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.Its impossible to love myself. I hate myself. And so do most people.Which is kinda the problem. Maybe if someone ever does love me again they can tell me how.That should be like your character arc.What do you meanLike at the end you get to love yourself because you find someone super special.
Quote from: Jive Turkey on January 26, 2016, 12:07:27 AMWomen just don't like when guys make them the priority, even though it seems like she should love it. It turns her away from you.These are not the kind of women I fall in love with. Besides. I know what kind of a man I am in a relationship. I'm a natural in that department. I know how to keep a girl interested.
It's only impossible because you're telling yourself it is.
Quote from: Kal on January 26, 2016, 12:17:36 AMIt's only impossible because you're telling yourself it is.I hate my sense of humour, my habitual tendencies, the way i speak, my inability to connect with people, my physique, my voice, my awkward level of intelligence... none of which I can change.
It will eventually ruin your relationship and leave you worse off, especially if you depend of her so much for your happiness.
You will be an absolute wreck. Don't be like Roman and deny anything you don't want to hear brah
Quote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:25:39 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:24:40 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:23:25 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:22:44 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funnythis whiny thread that no one cares aboutWhat I find funny is that these are the exact kinds of threads you make whenever you resurface.literally whatI'd never make a thread where I'm literally just whining that girls don't like meLike, you don't have a girlfriend. Get over it, we don't careI think he meant more in general. Not just girls.
Quote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:24:40 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:23:25 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:22:44 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funnythis whiny thread that no one cares aboutWhat I find funny is that these are the exact kinds of threads you make whenever you resurface.literally whatI'd never make a thread where I'm literally just whining that girls don't like meLike, you don't have a girlfriend. Get over it, we don't care
Quote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:23:25 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:22:44 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funnythis whiny thread that no one cares aboutWhat I find funny is that these are the exact kinds of threads you make whenever you resurface.
Quote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:22:44 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funnythis whiny thread that no one cares about
Quote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funny
lmao
Quote from: Korra on January 26, 2016, 12:15:15 AMQuote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:13:45 AMQuote from: Korra on January 26, 2016, 12:07:58 AMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:53:17 PMQuote from: Kal on January 25, 2016, 11:51:38 PMYou're better off without it man. Learn to love yourself first, and love with another will be more fulfilling.Its impossible to love myself. I hate myself. And so do most people.Which is kinda the problem. Maybe if someone ever does love me again they can tell me how.That should be like your character arc.What do you meanLike at the end you get to love yourself because you find someone super special.Can you write my life story pls
Quote from: TBlocks on January 25, 2016, 11:27:18 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:25:39 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:24:40 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:23:25 PMQuote from: Eli on January 25, 2016, 11:22:44 PMQuote from: SecondClass on January 25, 2016, 11:21:27 PMlmaoWhat's so funnythis whiny thread that no one cares aboutWhat I find funny is that these are the exact kinds of threads you make whenever you resurface.literally whatI'd never make a thread where I'm literally just whining that girls don't like meLike, you don't have a girlfriend. Get over it, we don't careI think he meant more in general. Not just girls.He literally put "romantic" in the title
i've never known
Quote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:21:14 AMQuote from: Kal on January 26, 2016, 12:17:36 AMIt's only impossible because you're telling yourself it is.I hate my sense of humour, my habitual tendencies, the way i speak, my inability to connect with people, my physique, my voice, my awkward level of intelligence... none of which I can change.What are your reasons for hating those things?Example: "I hate my voice because it's too high"
Quote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:21:14 AMQuote from: Kal on January 26, 2016, 12:17:36 AMIt's only impossible because you're telling yourself it is.I hate my sense of humour, my habitual tendencies, the way i speak, my inability to connect with people, my physique, my voice, my awkward level of intelligence... none of which I can change.Can be changedElaborateElaborateThat takes work... sort ofWhy?Why?A gift tbh. I know it's weird but you have to find some kind of meaning and use it for good.
You could probably practice public speaking to help you speak more in a way you like. Just gotta get your confidence up fam. A lot of relationships never got off the ground because both people were too shy to make a move despite liking the other.
Quote from: Jive Turkey on January 26, 2016, 12:22:48 AMQuote from: Eli on January 26, 2016, 12:21:14 AMQuote from: Kal on January 26, 2016, 12:17:36 AMIt's only impossible because you're telling yourself it is.I hate my sense of humour, my habitual tendencies, the way i speak, my inability to connect with people, my physique, my voice, my awkward level of intelligence... none of which I can change.What are your reasons for hating those things?Example: "I hate my voice because it's too high"Humour: because it's esoteric and often childish or unintelligentHabits: i clench my jaw a lot. Grind my teeth too. It gives me head aches.The way I speak: it's often hard to follow my train of thought for some reason, even though to me it feels like im just saying the most basic things ever. Makes it hard for people to empathise or sympathise with me (you can see it in this thread, even)My physique: i just dont like it, idkMy voice: i just find my own voice annoying.Intelligence: im at this weird level where i'm smarter than most people i talk to but not smart enough to play ball with the people who are "speaking my language", if that makes any sense
I'm being completely serious here. Find a good therapist and talk to them about this kind of stuff.
Humor is subjective
Habits can be changed
Manner of speech is probably just a nuance you're obsessing over
Socialization skills can be improved
Physique can be improved
I definitely definitely definitely dont lack confidence. Its not that.Im also not particularly shy either. Im one of those guys thatll just be straight up when i like someone and start making moves immediately (unless there's something in the way, like, a boyfriend. Then i dont do anything but casual talk every once in awhile)
Quote from: Peach Turquoise on January 25, 2016, 11:30:12 PMi've never knownsame
It's been so long since my romantic feelings have been verbally reciprocated.
