I want a gf but I have no desire to have one

It's like, the idea of having a girlfriend is great and I would love to have one. 1 person to become your best friend and lover ect, but when it comes down to it I am too selfish/focused on myself right now to actually WANT one.

Desty · June 01, 2016, 01:38:18 PM

What Jive said, only I just don't see the point in having a gf. I only see the appeal, but when applying it to me it doesn't seem like a lucrative deal.

snee0rp · June 01, 2016, 05:29:57 PM

Relationships are a bad idea, especially today. Perhaps you realize that, but you still instinctively want one because humans are hardwired to want sex?

Doctor Doom · June 01, 2016, 05:32:38 PM

So, you like the idea of having a girlfriend more than actually having a girlfriend? A lot of people are like that.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · June 01, 2016, 05:35:21 PM

Solution:

YouTube

Also, if it is the one - you will still be happy and be able to live to the fullest - just that there will always be someone waiting for you to give them attention every now and then.

maverick · June 01, 2016, 05:36:22 PM

Naru · June 01, 2016, 05:38:15 PM

It's ok having one, really nothing changes besides spending time doing something else with another person. Meh.

Ian · June 01, 2016, 06:14:56 PM

Sort of Off-Topic but I don't think it warrants its own thread. Two girls are inviting me to hang out with the next Friday after this week, I'm interested in one but neither of them know that, how do I not fuck this up? This will be the third time I've hung out with them outside of work.

challengerX · June 01, 2016, 06:21:32 PM

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Ian · June 01, 2016, 06:25:25 PM

Just to hang out, they haven't planned what it is yet but they saw all our work schedules matched up for that day so they wanted me to do something with them. I went out with them Monday to Disney Springs and that was just to grab something to eat and look around the new shops and sights.

Quote from: challengerX on June 01, 2016, 06:21:32 PM

What are they inviting you to?

challengerX · June 01, 2016, 06:27:49 PM

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Ian · June 01, 2016, 06:33:04 PM

That's going to be the hard part, I literally can not bring myself to ask something like that even if I was given all the hints in the world it would be positive.

Quote from: challengerX on June 01, 2016, 06:27:49 PM

If you see the one you like might be into you, try inviting her to do something with you some other time.

Verbatim · June 01, 2016, 06:36:05 PM

Quote from: Winy on June 01, 2016, 01:19:54 PM

Quote from: Desty on June 01, 2016, 12:18:39 PM
I have a desire for something, but I don't actually want it.
I'm confused as hell.

I don't it's that complicated. For a lot of people, once they get what they want, they don't know what to do with it. You buy a nice car--all right. Cool. Now what? You don't know. The desire to have the car is gone, because you have it, and you become disillusioned a little bit. You begin to realize that the car isn't all you cracked it up to be, and that you begin to miss the feeling you had when you didn't have it. At least then, you could have fun wanting it.

It's more fun to have an object of desire to keep you moving forward than it is to finally land on it.

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gats · June 01, 2016, 06:43:12 PM

Sometimes I lust for companionship but then I see a girl dragging her bf around shops and suddenly I'm happy that I'm single

Ian · June 01, 2016, 06:43:59 PM

Other than committing social suicide. If she rejects me all our peers will know about it and will think differently of me over it.

Quote from: challengerX on June 01, 2016, 06:36:56 PM

You'll have plenty of time see common interests and ask her "hey would you like to do *insert activity*/go see *thing*".

Just man up and do it. You have literally nothing to lose.

gats · June 01, 2016, 06:47:11 PM

She'll drop hints
Sense them spidey

Ian · June 01, 2016, 07:24:58 PM

But what hints am I looking for? I don't know any of this stuff.

Spartan · June 01, 2016, 07:30:03 PM

The commitment can be quite daunting tbh. Like, I'm pretty much in the same boat as I have exams coming up, then getting a job over summer and then uni hopefully. I feel like I have way too much on my plate already.

The Hån · June 01, 2016, 10:05:39 PM

nah, it's pretty normal to feel like that. I kinda just talk to girls casually but i dont get too involved because i don't really want one either.

R o c k e t · June 01, 2016, 10:08:15 PM

"I want a girlfriend but I'm a little bitch"

fixed that for you

Desty · June 02, 2016, 09:53:28 AM

Quote from: Rocketman287 on June 01, 2016, 10:08:15 PM

*joke*

*literally nobody laughs*

ftfy