I think I had my first "date" with a girl today... (semi-blog post)

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Hey, at least she isn't your manager's daughter.

I don't get it.
That's what I meant by my situation.
Rather potentially lose a friend if you make a move than potentially lose a job.

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brad pitt was so good in that movie

so ridiculous

ugh i love it
I watched it the other night after not seeing it for years. I appreciated it much more this time.
I kinda want to watch it again. Right now.


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does this stuff even work?
premise of my last relationship was very similar. Just dont let things get awkward, don't be boring, and try not to worry a bout messing things up a lot and you should be good.

I'm actually a great boyfriend, if I do say so myself. The problem is, I'm never in a relationship. So if I get to that point, I don't think it'll be too much of an issue.

She wants to backpack through Europe next year, which is sort of what I wanted to do (I wanted to live in France, but that was to meet women -- something I wouldn't have to do with her.)

do you ever eye gaze with her?


 
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That's what I meant by my situation.
Rather potentially lose a friend if you make a move than potentially lose a job.

Oh.

Yeah, fuck everything else. If I can be in love, I'm going to be. I'm going to handle it as gracefully as possible, but if she's down, there's nothing he can do about it.

I watched it the other night after not seeing it for years. I appreciated it much more this time.

It's Tarantino's best, tbh. Reservoir Dogs and Jackie Brown are close seconds, though. That opening scene is perfection.

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I kinda want to watch it again. Right now.

There's never a good reason to not watch Tarantino.


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I know he's your friend but you need to know that you both have your own feelings and you can't just ignore them just for the sake of making them not feel bad. I would expect my friends to be happy for me, failing that just accepting the way I feel.

Of course. Like I said, if it was the other way around, I'd want my friends to be happy over me being happy. I'd still feel like shit, but I'd do it.

Not everyone is like that though. Unfortunately.

You should never put your own happiness behind the happiness of others in things like this. It can lead to bad places that can be hard to escape from. Do what makes you happy, and try your best not to alienate too many others if you can. If not, well that's not your fault. That's why I stopped hanging out with loads of people that I used to, I was pretending to be somebody I wasn't.

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During my first two years at uni, I was trying my best to find myself, have a good time with friends and just generally fit in. I would go to parties and tag along whenever they went out and got pissed every weekend. Sure I guess it was a fun time, but whenever I was out I would just think that I would rather be somewhere else, doing something different. I tried to shake it off as lame thoughts and kept partying, but over time the feeling began to grow and grow. It would reach a point where I would just leave the club and go straight home without telling anyone, hours before they even got back.

During the summer holiday I barely did any of that at all. I came to realize that all that was just me trying my best to appeal to the uni crowd, to be cool and fit in. That wasn't me at all, I wasn't happy. So I decided to ditch all that and just do whatever I felt like and not give a shit what they thought about me. While they were drinking or clubbing I was just there in my dressing gown with a cup of tea, watching a movie or playing games and you know what? I couldn't be happier.

Everybody tells you to be yourself and that's because it's true. Don't be someone you aren't just to try and please others. Fuck people, do what makes you happy. If you don't then you'll reach a point in life where it's too late and you'll wish you realized sooner. Don't hide what you like, or you'll never find others with the same interests. I used to keep my gaming and cartoon interests hidden away because I thought people would see it as incredibly lame, but that led to me eventually finding the love of my life.
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do you ever eye gaze with her?

Depends on what you mean by "eye gaze"

I'm a teenage dude, not Darkseid lol


 
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For me though, I don't really care about being happy. Yeah, I'd like to be -- but I'm not going to sacrifice things I value more, like friendship, virtue, and honesty just so I don't feel like shit all the time. It's just the way I am, man.

That being said, I've come to the conclusion that if things to progress with her, it's going to happen -- regardless of what he feels. I'll be graceful about it, though.


 
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I just hope that he doesn't deliberately attempt to sabotage things between you and the girl out of sheer bitterness.

Now THAT would be a dick move.

Honestly, if it ever got to them point where she and I liked each other, I don't think he could do anything.

But yeah, if he finds out now while I'm still trying to get her to "fall in love with the legend", he could seriously fuck it up. That's what he's been doing with this other girl he thinks I like.
Oh shit I didn't know that...
Kierra?


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Gotta say it's been interesting to watch the situation develop.

The thing that makes me give the green light is how different the two of them are. Like you two are so alike that it'd be a shame to see it be for not y'know?

Wait, so are they similar or different? You said both in this post....


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Jacob Potila was actually a Jacob Flotilla of lies.- WarTurkey

That being said, I've come to the conclusion that if things to progress with her, it's going to happen -- regardless of what he feels. I'll be graceful about it, though.

Good man. See if it starts having the potential to go somewhere, then full steam ahead.



Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.


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But it's not like that with her. I can't explain it. I can just... walk up to her, and converse for an hour.

Well, that's great, just tell her how you feel, something along the lines of "I like you, I find it easy to be myself with you, would you want to go on a date with me?"

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So it's got less to do with "be a man"

Nothing to do with masculinity, just decency. She's your friend and should be among the first on the list of people that you can be completely transparent with.

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and more to do with "be graceful and conscientious about people's emotions".

That's all well and good, and I commend you on your sensitivity to the feelings of others, but you can't be throwing your own happiness under the bus just to make everyone else happy.

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The Hateful Eight is coming out in America on the 8th of January, if you haven't asked her out by then, here's your opportunity if you can't think of anything more original than dinner, a movie and a walk through the park/beach.

Yeah, you read my mind. I hope to have watched at least Reservoir Dogs/Inglorious with her by that point, so she kind of gets what Tarantino is all about. I'm counting down the days to that movie, so yeah, I'm definitely going to ask her to see it.
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Watch Django with her before you see it to get her into that western feel.


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Yeah, fuck everything else. If I can be in love, I'm going to be. I'm going to handle it as gracefully as possible, but if she's down, there's nothing he can do about it.
Well there you go.
Be like me and be detached from others. It kinda helps a lot to not care about other's feelings.

It's Tarantino's best, tbh. Reservoir Dogs and Jackie Brown are close seconds, though. That opening scene is perfection.
idk man
Reservoir Dogs is pretty god damn great. I could watch it over and over.

I love pretty much every Tarantino movie though. He's a god among men.


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do you and Tblocks know each other irl?

am I missing something?


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Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.
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wales isn't a real country


 
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Gotta say it's been interesting to watch the situation develop.

The thing that makes me give the green light is how different the two of them are. Like you two are so alike that it'd be a shame to see it be for not y'know?

Wait, so are they similar or different? You said both in this post....
The other guy and the girl. Not Prehistoric.


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Jacob Potila was actually a Jacob Flotilla of lies.- WarTurkey
Damn I don't think I've ever felt so involved in a thread this much. I usually just post irrelevant shit then maybe check it hours later but this stuff is good to get into.


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Ask his permission at the very least.

Why would you need his permission? He isn't with her anymore and he certainly doesn't have the right to make decisions for you.


 
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do you and Tblocks know each other irl?

am I missing something?
they do


 
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do you and Tblocks know each other irl?

am I missing something?
Yesir.
We've gone to the same school for years and are pretty good friends irl.


 
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Oh shit I didn't know that...
Kierra?

Nah, man. The Kierra ship has sailed. More than that, actually. It crashed somewhere in the south Atlantic trying to bring goods back from the new world to Great Germania.

He keeps trying to sick Anna's sister on me... which is fine, because she's great to look at. But I'd rather not agitate that situation, considering her relationship and the fact that she has a boyfriend.


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Jacob Potila was actually a Jacob Flotilla of lies.- WarTurkey
Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.
sheep fondler pls go
wales isn't a real country

Jog on you twat we've got fucking castles everywhere. Wales is well good mun.






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Why do Americans pronounce twat so weirdly? It's T W A T, it's not even that hard to say.


 
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Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.

If I ever hit up Europe, we're hanging out, man. Not every day that I get to meet someone who likes Metal Gear as much as me.


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but seriously

fuck women

fuck feelings

fuck life

just make everything complicated


 
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Oh shit I didn't know that...
Kierra?

Nah, man. The Kierra ship has sailed. More than that, actually. It crashed somewhere in the south Atlantic trying to bring goods back from the new world to Great Germania.

He keeps trying to sick Anna's sister on me... which is fine, because she's great to look at. But I'd rather not agitate that situation, considering her relationship and the fact that she has a boyfriend.
LOL. All hail.

Oh shit she does? That's such a funny tactic tbh.


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but seriously

fuck women

fuck feelings

fuck life

just make everything complicated

That's the way I felt until I saw the light


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Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.
sheep fondler pls go
wales isn't a real country

Jog on you twat we've got fucking castles everywhere. Wales is well good mun.






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Why do Americans pronounce twat so weirdly? It's T W A T, it's not even that hard to say.
i'm not american


 
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but seriously

fuck women

fuck feelings

fuck life

just make everything complicated
Straight up tho


 
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Well, that's great, just tell her how you feel, something along the lines of "I like you, I find it easy to be myself with you, would you want to go on a date with me?"

I really feel like that would rush things, dude. Could jeopardize this entire operation.

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She's your friend and should be among the first on the list of people that you can be completely transparent with.

I'm all for honesty, but like I said, it's ill-timed.

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and more to do with "be graceful and conscientious about people's emotions".

That's all well and good, and I commend you on your sensitivity to the feelings of others, but you can't be throwing your own happiness under the bus just to make everyone else happy.

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Watch Django with her before you see it to get her into that western feel.

Yeah, ideally. My problem with Django is that it shouldn't be your first Tarantino movie. Reservoir Dogs > Kill Bill > Inglorious > Django is the ideal order IMO. So I'd rather her see Reservoir before Django, than have to rush Django just so she "gets" what Tarantino's all about. Idk, I'll play it by ear.


 
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do you and Tblocks know each other irl?

am I missing something?

Who do you think came up with "TBlocks"?


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No it isn't.

Well I mean, it is kind of my fault. Regardless of whether or not he's justified to feel that way, I'm the one who caused him to feel that way.

Only in the sense that the Wright Brothers are responsible for 9/11

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You have no more control of your own feelings than he has his, and you'd be a fool to put your own happiness behind his because of how he feels. If he can't be a mature adult about this then he's not someone you want as a friend.

I just really care about my friends, man. Especially when it comes to romance, because I get it better than most.

It's good to care about your friends but you can't feel bad for being better adjusted and/or sex appeal.

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At the very most, tell him that you have feelings for the girl and that you're going to go out with her as a courtesy to him. Though, if you reckon he my react belligerently, I'd advise against it in the event he tries to slash your chances with your fancy.

That's what I see happening. Make him the asshole by approaching him and saying no. I get it. Preemptive strike, essentially.

My suggestion wasn't about making him the asshole, it was showing him that you still consider him enough of a friend to be honest with him.

TBH, I'm starting to get the impression you guys are frenemies insted of friends.


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Jacob Potila was actually a Jacob Flotilla of lies.- WarTurkey
Also if you're going to Europe then visit Wales. It's well cool.
sheep fondler pls go
wales isn't a real country

Jog on you twat we've got fucking castles everywhere. Wales is well good mun.






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Why do Americans pronounce twat so weirdly? It's T W A T, it's not even that hard to say.
i'm not american

Oh really

I thought you were called British Lemon just for the sake of it