As you know, I lost my best friend. My dog of 11 years, Bandit.
He was family. So dear to me and my mom.

I lost him 2 days ago......and I've been thinking about how I've been grieving.
I've obviously been upset, but not like yesterday. I worked today, and did mostly fine. Cracked a few jokes, smiled a bit, and helped a friend move furniture after work.

But I thought of this:
We are so sad when we lose someone. But if the one who died could see how long that grief lasted........would they feel forgotten?

If my dog (despite the fact he doesn't care since he's dead and also a dog if he were alive) saw that I cried 2 days straight, then on the 3rd was over his death.......would he be ashamed? If that was my funeral, I'd be dismayed. My death only moved you to tears for a few days, then within a week its like I never died?

I don't know, I've just been questioning if my little buddy would feel forgotten by me.
I visited him this morning in my backyard before I left for work, and I didn't cry this time. I just talked rather quietly......it was strange how different I reacted to that circumstance from one day to the other.

I actually wanted to cry, I wanted him to know whether he could or not.........that I haven't forgotten my little pal.

Ending the natural grief period isn't the same as forgetting.

Ending the natural grief period isn't the same as forgetting.

But it "feels" like forgetting. Once you pass the initial grief period.......its usually out of your mind.