I feel like I'm at a crossroads(My official life problems thread)

I agree man I actually miss highschool for the day's me and my pals would get together and play some cards and joke around, I've only dropped out of English, but I feel bad as well since I didn't do any HW for that class, Im trying to get my ass back on the rails dough and trying to stop being lazy

Yeah, Highschool sucked a lot, but at least I felt like I had some people around me to just spend some time with now and then. My English class was mostly online, so whenever we'd meet on Fridays I'd walk into the class filling guilty for not doing the work and wanting to be able to do it right then, but I'd lose motivation when I'd get home. :/

I didn't I even told the teacher i knew I was going to fail I don't know why but, I wanted to feel the emotion of failing a class even dough I did feel bad when everyone was turning in her work

Huh, I don't understand why you'd do that, but then again I can barely understand why I act like I do.

How is it that you act?

Why are you failing to begin with? Are you studying?

I don't do most things I want to or feel like I should do, even though I have the time to and it might be in my best interests.

Depression, anxiety, was overwhelmed early on when semester started, and when I was able to calm down more and try to take command of the 2 classes I wanted to bring up, it was already too late. I essentially started off 1/2 way into the class with a failing grade, so catching up in Calc II has proven to be near impossible and I struggle to get myself to try to do it now, even though I want to stick through it to learn all I can now so retaking it will be easier if that's what I choose to do.

If it seems impossible to catch up, then yeah, retake the course, but what's stopping you from repeating history?

Stopping me from repeating history? I don't understand what you mean by that.

IF YOU RETAKE YOUR COURSE, WHAT IS STOPPING YOU FROM BEING IN THIS SITUATION AGAIN.

No wonder you're failing.

I don't know, never had to retake a course besides once in HS summer school Freshmen year. I had a kickass teacher then and after getting medication for being diagnosed ADD I managed to pass, but this is a completely different scenario.

I imagine that if I could somehow get more in control of myself that would allow me to do better, but I think the biggest factor would be that I'd taken the course before and would have more of an idea of what to expect.

Depression for no reason, or depression for a certain reason/s?

Well, I was overwhelmed with the amount of material and work I had to do.
I don't know what to do with my life right now.
I had a poorly thought out plan for the summer that didn't go through b/c I realized it was poorly thought out.
I went to camp on a whim because I was tired of being miserable from doing much of nothing and thought it might help, then it did and I had a lot of fun, but since then it's been suck.
I didn't hang out much with my friends over the summer, and when I did it felt like a chore.
I can't hang out really with my friends now as they're across the state, my other friends I'm in contact with slightly more now are also spread out through the state.
I hate myself for being inactive, I have an idea of what I want to do, then I can't get myself to follow through with it.
And I think that's all I can remember right now.

You need a contact with a person who will involve themselves with your life in many great deal of aspects.

Online or not might not matter much.

Depression for no reason, or depression for a certain reason/s?

Well, I was overwhelmed with the amount of material and work I had to do.
I don't know what to do with my life right now.
I had a poorly thought out plan for the summer that didn't go through b/c I realized it was poorly thought out.
I went to camp on a whim because I was tired of being miserable from doing much of nothing and thought it might help, then it did and I had a lot of fun, but since then it's been suck.
I didn't hang out much with my friends over the summer, and when I did it felt like a chore.
I can't hang out really with my friends now as they're across the state, my other friends I'm in contact with slightly more now are also spread out through the state.
I hate myself for being inactive, I have an idea of what I want to do, then I can't get myself to follow through with it.
And I think that's all I can remember right now.

You need a contact with a person who will involve themselves with your life in many great deal of aspects.

Online or not might not matter much.

A therapist? Tried that, wasn't doing much.

Grind through it

INTP wins in this case.

Step aside, puny INTJ.

Lmao, INTJ is objectively the best

I'm INTJ but I always get ragged on for being one.

They're just jealous bro

Depression for no reason, or depression for a certain reason/s?

Well, I was overwhelmed with the amount of material and work I had to do.
I don't know what to do with my life right now.
I had a poorly thought out plan for the summer that didn't go through b/c I realized it was poorly thought out.
I went to camp on a whim because I was tired of being miserable from doing much of nothing and thought it might help, then it did and I had a lot of fun, but since then it's been suck.
I didn't hang out much with my friends over the summer, and when I did it felt like a chore.
I can't hang out really with my friends now as they're across the state, my other friends I'm in contact with slightly more now are also spread out through the state.
I hate myself for being inactive, I have an idea of what I want to do, then I can't get myself to follow through with it.
And I think that's all I can remember right now.

You need a contact with a person who will involve themselves with your life in many great deal of aspects.

Online or not might not matter much.

A therapist? Tried that, wasn't doing much.

No, more like a close friend.

Have you been studying?

...sometimes. I've been going to tutors for the past month or so. Normally study for at least an hour for Chemistry before every quiz.

Where are you going to school?

University of Detroit Mercy. Why do you ask?

Just choose a major that is useful. Do not choose liberal arts unless it is economics or accounting, because you will never get a job. Only thing you can do is teach and even then you need a master for it. I chose the shittiest major ever, history because I could not do math. Now I have been unemployed and miserable for seven months and looking for manufacturing jobs.

I'm not.

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Go.

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Where?

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Where?

I mean spill it.

bump cuz panic attack.

Go.

Where?

I mean spill it.

I haven't signed up for next semester at college, I don't think I should go but I don't know what I'd do if I skipped the semester. I have no job experience, I wouldn't know where to start, but I'd not work at Burger King or some shit restaurant. Wondering if I should leave home for a while to try and get out of this zone where I realize I should be trying to learn and work and start making a living, but I can't get myself to do it since I feel like I'm taken care of; I'm thinking maybe it's like how I had to tell my parents to stop driving me to school so I could finally get myself to want to drive and get my license. But I don't know how long I'd be able to do that for, or if it's all something I'd just regret once I got into it.

I then tried to get myself studying on my math again for the quiz tomorrow, but I felt like crap and couldn't get myself to do it.

Just keep in mind what is important.
All this crappy homework (I'm lazy, but actually studying as I type this) will pay off. It will be worth it.
Me, I cannot devote all my time to school. I need socialization.

So lessen the work load to a comfortable level. Me? I work 3 days, got to 2 classes on 2 days (I would do more but I'll have my A.A), and I have one actual day off devoted to whatever. Church at night though.

Find your level, and do that. Don't overwhelm yourself to where you fail. It will simply waste time and money, and make you take longer to finish off school.

bump cuz panic attack.

Go.

Where?

I mean spill it.

I haven't signed up for next semester at college, I don't think I should go but I don't know what I'd do if I skipped the semester. I have no job experience, I wouldn't know where to start, but I'd not work at Burger King or some shit restaurant. Wondering if I should leave home for a while to try and get out of this zone where I realize I should be trying to learn and work and start making a living, but I can't get myself to do it since I feel like I'm taken care of; I'm thinking maybe it's like how I had to tell my parents to stop driving me to school so I could finally get myself to want to drive and get my license. But I don't know how long I'd be able to do that for, or if it's all something I'd just regret once I got into it.

I then tried to get myself studying on my math again for the quiz tomorrow, but I felt like crap and couldn't get myself to do it.

Geez, dude. I don't know what to tell you.

Just keep in mind what is important.
All this crappy homework (I'm lazy, but actually studying as I type this) will pay off. It will be worth it.
Me, I cannot devote all my time to school. I need socialization.

So lessen the work load to a comfortable level. Me? I work 3 days, got to 2 classes on 2 days (I would do more but I'll have my A.A), and I have one actual day off devoted to whatever. Church at night though.

Find your level, and do that. Don't overwhelm yourself to where you fail. It will simply waste time and money, and make you take longer to finish off school.

I suck shit at socializing with new people in real life, but from everyone I've listened to in my classes that are mostly Sophomore+(I took classes at Community college in HS) say "From what I've learned so far, all this work is really just to weed out people that aren't dedicated, persistent, and organized; and that it's really just to see who can get through it". I was losing my shit the last year and a half of High School because it was filler and I wanted to learn valuable things and get challenges that meant something and learn how to solve them, I don't enjoy the prospect of 4+ more years of that.

Just keep in mind what is important.
All this crappy homework (I'm lazy, but actually studying as I type this) will pay off. It will be worth it.
Me, I cannot devote all my time to school. I need socialization.

So lessen the work load to a comfortable level. Me? I work 3 days, got to 2 classes on 2 days (I would do more but I'll have my A.A), and I have one actual day off devoted to whatever. Church at night though.

Find your level, and do that. Don't overwhelm yourself to where you fail. It will simply waste time and money, and make you take longer to finish off school.

I suck shit at socializing with new people in real life, but from everyone I've listened to in my classes that are mostly Sophomore+(I took classes at Community college in HS) say "From what I've learned so far, all this work is really just to weed out people that aren't dedicated, persistent, and organized; and that it's really just to see who can get through it". I was losing my shit the last year and a half of High School because it was filler and I wanted to learn valuable things and get challenges that meant something and learn how to solve them, I don't enjoy the prospect of 4+ more years of that.

Yep. All college is, is weeding them out. Very few people use Differential Equations in their job, compared to the number of degrees that require it.

Just stick through it man. I'm about to have my 2nd year done when this semester ends.
I don't really make a lot of new friends at the college, unless they are classmates. Do you have a circle of friends you hang out with? Hit them up outside of school.

Just keep in mind what is important.
All this crappy homework (I'm lazy, but actually studying as I type this) will pay off. It will be worth it.
Me, I cannot devote all my time to school. I need socialization.

So lessen the work load to a comfortable level. Me? I work 3 days, got to 2 classes on 2 days (I would do more but I'll have my A.A), and I have one actual day off devoted to whatever. Church at night though.

Find your level, and do that. Don't overwhelm yourself to where you fail. It will simply waste time and money, and make you take longer to finish off school.

I suck shit at socializing with new people in real life, but from everyone I've listened to in my classes that are mostly Sophomore+(I took classes at Community college in HS) say "From what I've learned so far, all this work is really just to weed out people that aren't dedicated, persistent, and organized; and that it's really just to see who can get through it". I was losing my shit the last year and a half of High School because it was filler and I wanted to learn valuable things and get challenges that meant something and learn how to solve them, I don't enjoy the prospect of 4+ more years of that.

sounds like you should've went to a technical college. What's your major? You may have already told me?

Yep. All college is, is weeding them out. Very few people use Differential Equations in their job, compared to the number of degrees that require it.

Just stick through it man. I'm about to have my 2nd year done when this semester ends.
I don't really make a lot of new friends at the college, unless they are classmates. Do you have a circle of friends you hang out with? Hit them up outside of school.

I'm frankly rather tired of the slogging uphill through a river of shit until you reach the end advice tagline at this point. Why not find another path?

Uhh, kinda used to. Still talk with some from time to time, but with everyone I know spread throughout the state, and the past months making me depressed to the point of not doing anything when they were nearby, getting together doesn't really happen anymore. That, and over the summer I was losing my mind due to the repetition and spending time with them felt like a chore since all we'd ever end up doing is watching movies the whole time. The only thing that pulled it through was signing up for camp at the last minute and getting to spend time and work with people I knew and got to know.

*sigh* I type too much.

Just keep in mind what is important.
All this crappy homework (I'm lazy, but actually studying as I type this) will pay off. It will be worth it.
Me, I cannot devote all my time to school. I need socialization.

So lessen the work load to a comfortable level. Me? I work 3 days, got to 2 classes on 2 days (I would do more but I'll have my A.A), and I have one actual day off devoted to whatever. Church at night though.

Find your level, and do that. Don't overwhelm yourself to where you fail. It will simply waste time and money, and make you take longer to finish off school.

I suck shit at socializing with new people in real life, but from everyone I've listened to in my classes that are mostly Sophomore+(I took classes at Community college in HS) say "From what I've learned so far, all this work is really just to weed out people that aren't dedicated, persistent, and organized; and that it's really just to see who can get through it". I was losing my shit the last year and a half of High School because it was filler and I wanted to learn valuable things and get challenges that meant something and learn how to solve them, I don't enjoy the prospect of 4+ more years of that.

sounds like you should've went to a technical college. What's your major? You may have already told me?

Mechanical Engineering. The administration and student services there have been really helpful, but ehh. I don't see it being different anywhere else.

Yep. All college is, is weeding them out. Very few people use Differential Equations in their job, compared to the number of degrees that require it.

Just stick through it man. I'm about to have my 2nd year done when this semester ends.
I don't really make a lot of new friends at the college, unless they are classmates. Do you have a circle of friends you hang out with? Hit them up outside of school.

I'm frankly rather tired of the slogging uphill through a river of shit until you reach the end advice tagline at this point. Why not find another path?

Uhh, kinda used to. Still talk with some from time to time, but with everyone I know spread throughout the state, and the past months making me depressed to the point of not doing anything when they were nearby, getting together doesn't really happen anymore. That, and over the summer I was losing my mind due to the repetition and spending time with them felt like a chore since all we'd ever end up doing is watching movies the whole time. The only thing that pulled it through was signing up for camp at the last minute and getting to spend time and work with people I knew and got to know.

*sigh* I type too much.

Some people went to a Technical center in town instead of college. They got certifications in welding, stuff like that. They make great money starting out.

That may be for you. Skip the long college process, get a certification and start working?

Yep. All college is, is weeding them out. Very few people use Differential Equations in their job, compared to the number of degrees that require it.

Just stick through it man. I'm about to have my 2nd year done when this semester ends.
I don't really make a lot of new friends at the college, unless they are classmates. Do you have a circle of friends you hang out with? Hit them up outside of school.

I'm frankly rather tired of the slogging uphill through a river of shit until you reach the end advice tagline at this point. Why not find another path?

Uhh, kinda used to. Still talk with some from time to time, but with everyone I know spread throughout the state, and the past months making me depressed to the point of not doing anything when they were nearby, getting together doesn't really happen anymore. That, and over the summer I was losing my mind due to the repetition and spending time with them felt like a chore since all we'd ever end up doing is watching movies the whole time. The only thing that pulled it through was signing up for camp at the last minute and getting to spend time and work with people I knew and got to know.

*sigh* I type too much.

Some people went to a Technical center in town instead of college. They got certifications in welding, stuff like that. They make great money starting out.

That may be for you. Skip the long college process, get a certification and start working?

I've had to look up job requirements and such for my Co-Op class. No bueno from the looks of it unless I get through a college institution's field requirements or I somehow make my own business. :/

bump cuz panic attack.

Go.

Where?

I mean spill it.

I haven't signed up for next semester at college, I don't think I should go but I don't know what I'd do if I skipped the semester. I have no job experience, I wouldn't know where to start, but I'd not work at Burger King or some shit restaurant. Wondering if I should leave home for a while to try and get out of this zone where I realize I should be trying to learn and work and start making a living, but I can't get myself to do it since I feel like I'm taken care of; I'm thinking maybe it's like how I had to tell my parents to stop driving me to school so I could finally get myself to want to drive and get my license. But I don't know how long I'd be able to do that for, or if it's all something I'd just regret once I got into it.

I then tried to get myself studying on my math again for the quiz tomorrow, but I felt like crap and couldn't get myself to do it.

Geez, dude. I don't know what to tell you.

Don't feel bad, I got used to no friend or family being able to give me answers for the biggest questions long ago. If somebody did, then I'd personally go to wherever they live and graciously thank them. Just gonna keep holding out for answers from another way.

Hmm, well I'm not too familiar with the US's distinction between a technical college and a college. In the UK a technical college is where you would learn trades and I think it might be similar in the US >.>
If university isn't working out very well and you feel like there isn't much left you can do, it might be worth considering something along those lines. As I said though, I'd need a yank to clear that bit up for me.

At the same time, it's probably still possible to turn things around at university. You could switch to a different major perhaps, although that would depend on what you want to do/excel at as an alternative to Mechanical Engineering. Can you think of any options on that front?

The third thing that occurs to me is that if your head isn't in the right place, you will most likely struggle to do well regardless of what you choose to study. It might be worth taking a break for a short time, although the practicalities of this are unknown >.>

Hmm, well I'm not too familiar with the US's distinction between a technical college and a college. In the UK a technical college is where you would learn trades and I think it might be similar in the US >.>
If university isn't working out very well and you feel like there isn't much left you can do, it might be worth considering something along those lines. As I said though, I'd need a yank to clear that bit up for me.

At the same time, it's probably still possible to turn things around at university. You could switch to a different major perhaps, although that would depend on what you want to do/excel at as an alternative to Mechanical Engineering. Can you think of any options on that front?

The third thing that occurs to me is that if your head isn't in the right place, you will most likely struggle to do well regardless of what you choose to study. It might be worth taking a break for a short time, although the practicalities of this are unknown >.>

To be honest, I'm not even sure what the difference is supposed to be.

Not really interested in another major, literally don't have the slightest clue what else I'd even think to look into.

I'm siding on it at the moment. Don't know if I could pull it off, or how well it would work, but why the hell not?

Also, thanks to Sandtrap for reminding me to respond to this thread with his general thread for people's probs.

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BasedLove dont give a fuck.

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Honestly slow down and find some good friends. Study with them and hang out with them. Clubs apparently are good at doing that. Honestly not sure how to help you.

I have my own problem of no motivation and thus just grinding to finish school. Well i did get rejected recently but that did not bother me. Reason mainly is that the chick is 3 years older than me. So iwent meh. The other time i got rejected the girl had got a boyfriend by the time i returned.