I don't understand some people..

Forgewolf · February 06, 2015, 08:05:27 AM

When I was growing up, I was responsible for my own entertainment. I didn't expect anyone to provide or find me entertainment.

Further more, if I had no one to play or hang with, I was still content and happy, because I knew how to. I use to spend hours playing with legos by myself, or walk around the neighborhood or ride a bike and just explore. I had a fairly easy/happy childhood too (Minus the ass hole of a father I had)

What really bothers me now (at being 24 years of age), is other people in my own age group. They keeping whining about being lonely or just being alone for the day. It's like they need someone there every second of every day with them.

I ask myself, why!? Why does someone else have to control your happiness?

Sorry for my rant

DAS B00T x2 · February 06, 2015, 08:52:16 AM

You're used to it. The former high school socialites aren't.

Alexandra Stuk Luv · February 06, 2015, 08:52:59 AM

If anyone complains about that then they should get out more often, to be honest.

Forgewolf · February 06, 2015, 08:59:05 AM

Quote from: Alexandra Stuk Luv on February 06, 2015, 08:52:59 AM

If anyone complains about that then they should get out more often, to be honest.

You know what makes it worse. When you want to be alone and they keep pestering you to come over to their house to hang out. Why? Wasn't three days in a row good enough!? Damn! Lol

BaconShelf · February 06, 2015, 09:22:47 AM

Yeah. I have a similar attitude- I don't know what other people do when they're on their own and not able to talk to friends. Luckily, me and my firends all play on xbox so the most we ever get is "Want to play battlefield?" or something. But other people have genuinely said I am a boring person because I can find entertainment by myself, and don't rely on other people to entertain me.

🍁 Aria 🔮 · February 06, 2015, 09:46:50 AM

The only time I ever actively try to hang out with people is if I want to go out to eat. Eating by yourself in public is weird, unless it's fast food or you're sitting at a bar.

Turkey · February 06, 2015, 10:17:43 AM

Some people like spending time with others and derive more enjoyment from sharing activities with their friends; fuck them, right? I honestly don't understand the resentment introverts feel for extroverts.

🍁 Aria 🔮 · February 06, 2015, 10:20:40 AM

Quote from: HurtfulTurkey on February 06, 2015, 10:17:43 AM

Some people like spending time with others and derive more enjoyment from sharing activities with their friends; fuck them, right? I honestly don't understand the resentment introverts feel for extroverts.

Some might become annoyed with prodding. I personally don't have any problems with extroverts, as long as they understand that I don't want to hang out all the time.

Epsira · February 06, 2015, 01:25:22 PM

Quote from: Forgewolf on February 06, 2015, 08:05:27 AM

Further more, if I had no one to play or hang with, I was still content and happy, because I knew how to. I use to spend hours playing with legos by myself, or walk around the neighborhood or ride a bike and just explore. I had a fairly easy/happy childhood too (Minus the ass hole of a father I had)

I ask myself, why!? Why does someone else have to control your happiness?

I relate strongly with these points.
I don't think enough people act on the notion that they control their happiness. In social situations, part of conditioning works to establish beneficial association with groups you can identify with. I think people have difficulty seeing outside of these ingrained group mentalities when they've been conditioned from childhood.
Since you've had less association with others and sought things for yourself, it's not as much of an issue.
Some people don't even recognize there is an issue.

Forgewolf · February 06, 2015, 05:48:03 PM

Quote from: ShelfBacon on February 06, 2015, 09:22:47 AM

But other people have genuinely said I am a boring person because I can find entertainment by myself, and don't rely on other people to entertain me.

I've never had anyone say that to me, but I have felt that way before.

Ender · February 06, 2015, 06:27:47 PM

Yeah I'm the same. I genuinely like being by myself more than hanging out with others, which makes stuff like school suck.

Mat Cauthon · February 06, 2015, 06:32:15 PM

Some people are just spoiled.

Luis · February 06, 2015, 09:00:45 PM

I'm ok with being alone too

Rinev · February 06, 2015, 09:32:07 PM

I'm happy that I'm introverted for this very reason. Although I have a problem opposite to theirs. I get bored around people sometimes because I can't do the things I want to do.

Elegiac · February 07, 2015, 01:53:15 AM

You sound just like me, right down to the childhood.

Ushan · February 07, 2015, 02:02:15 AM

Some people are more social than others.

🂿 · February 07, 2015, 02:08:26 AM

I don't understand people in general.

I think people, at least the majority are garbage.

February 07, 2015, 02:56:52 AM

If I don't have someone to hang out with every day, I get so bored. I need social stimulation, lol.

Sigma617 · February 07, 2015, 03:15:51 AM

I have pretty severe anxiety sometimes, and it helps to talk to someone, or change the scenery.

In my experience people are simply not dependable. I've learned just to go on walks.

Mr. Psychologist · February 07, 2015, 10:09:10 AM

Well as others have mentioned ITT, it's likely the Introversion/Extroversion differences >.>

I would be perfectly happy spending several months without seeing friends/hanging out/going out and the like. There have been times when that has been the case, but it's never left me feeling bored or strained.

If it was put into simple illustrative terms, if people had an energy bar for social interactions then for some people it's charged up by interacting and for others it is drained. Conversely the effects of solitude drain the energy (creates boredom and restlessness) of extroverts and it recharges that of introverts.

For me personally, the amount of energy 'drained' depends on the type of interaction. Very few people have a negligible effect on it, they are the sort I can spend a couple of days with and not find myself exhausted by it. Others I can only talk to for a short period of time before I'm weary. I'd say that also correlates to whether they are intro/extroverted. My introverted friends I can spend a lot more time with than my extroverted friends.
Then you have the least draining form of interaction, forums/skype groups/PMs. I can do that all day and not find myself overly tired (And I do, lol) However sometimes even that becomes too intrusive and tiring, so I disappear for a while to recharge >.>

One thing that I've learned, is that rather than letting introversion run your social life to the point of withdrawal (Which is me from 2012-2014) it's better to learn to adapt it/manage it. Spacing out visits from friends, planning ahead meticulously so you don't find yourself exhausted from talking to meatbags and the like <.<

Whilst I *understand* extroversion, it still simply doesn't click. It's apples and oranges, the thought of being recharged and refreshed simply by talking to people is quite... alien >_>

Ingy · February 07, 2015, 10:35:16 AM

Quote from: Mr Psychologist on February 07, 2015, 10:09:10 AM

Well as others have mentioned ITT, it's likely the Introversion/Extroversion differences >.>

I would be perfectly happy spending several months without seeing friends/hanging out/going out and the like. There have been times when that has been the case, but it's never left me feeling bored or strained.

If it was put into simple illustrative terms, if people had an energy bar for social interactions then for some people it's charged up by interacting and for others it is drained. Conversely the effects of solitude drain the energy (creates boredom and restlessness) of extroverts and it recharges that of introverts.

For me personally, the amount of energy 'drained' depends on the type of interaction. Very few people have a negligible effect on it, they are the sort I can spend a couple of days with and not find myself exhausted by it. Others I can only talk to for a short period of time before I'm weary. I'd say that also correlates to whether they are intro/extroverted. My introverted friends I can spend a lot more time with than my extroverted friends.
Then you have the least draining form of interaction, forums/skype groups/PMs. I can do that all day and not find myself overly tired (And I do, lol) However sometimes even that becomes too intrusive and tiring, so I disappear for a while to recharge >.>

One thing that I've learned, is that rather than letting introversion run your social life to the point of withdrawal (Which is me from 2012-2014) it's better to learn to adapt it/manage it. Spacing out visits from friends, planning ahead meticulously so you don't find yourself exhausted from talking to meatbags and the like <.<

Whilst I *understand* extroversion, it still simply doesn't click. It's apples and oranges, the thought of being recharged and refreshed simply by talking to people is quite... alien >_>

What's not to get?

It's the investment/profit thing
The more energy you put in social interaction, the more likely you will gain acceptance and a "safety net"

Of course many people don't like to put that much effort into friendship and there's also the chance that it will fail

Online interaction, forums, and PMs [in my all humble opinion] is the most pathetic type of interaction
It requires no energy and most of the time, you're just covering yourself with a mask of false acceptance

It's a low stakes game for those who are too pussy brained to play real life
No consequences, no need for any effort on anybody

That's why all of you [us] are fucking bitch ass motherfuckers

Mr. Psychologist · February 07, 2015, 10:59:09 AM

Quote from: Ingloriouswho98 on February 07, 2015, 10:35:16 AM

Quote from: Mr Psychologist on February 07, 2015, 10:09:10 AM
Well as others have mentioned ITT, it's likely the Introversion/Extroversion differences >.>

I would be perfectly happy spending several months without seeing friends/hanging out/going out and the like. There have been times when that has been the case, but it's never left me feeling bored or strained.

If it was put into simple illustrative terms, if people had an energy bar for social interactions then for some people it's charged up by interacting and for others it is drained. Conversely the effects of solitude drain the energy (creates boredom and restlessness) of extroverts and it recharges that of introverts.

For me personally, the amount of energy 'drained' depends on the type of interaction. Very few people have a negligible effect on it, they are the sort I can spend a couple of days with and not find myself exhausted by it. Others I can only talk to for a short period of time before I'm weary. I'd say that also correlates to whether they are intro/extroverted. My introverted friends I can spend a lot more time with than my extroverted friends.
Then you have the least draining form of interaction, forums/skype groups/PMs. I can do that all day and not find myself overly tired (And I do, lol) However sometimes even that becomes too intrusive and tiring, so I disappear for a while to recharge >.>

One thing that I've learned, is that rather than letting introversion run your social life to the point of withdrawal (Which is me from 2012-2014) it's better to learn to adapt it/manage it. Spacing out visits from friends, planning ahead meticulously so you don't find yourself exhausted from talking to meatbags and the like <.<

Whilst I *understand* extroversion, it still simply doesn't click. It's apples and oranges, the thought of being recharged and refreshed simply by talking to people is quite... alien >_>

What's not to get?

It's the investment/profit thing
The more energy you put in social interaction, the more likely you will gain acceptance and a "safety net"

Of course many people don't like to put that much effort into friendship and there's also the chance that it will fail

Online interaction, forums, and PMs [in my all humble opinion] is the most pathetic type of interaction
It requires no energy and most of the time, you're just covering yourself with a mask of false acceptance

It's a low stakes game for those who are too pussy brained to play real life
No consequences, no need for any effort on anybody

That's why all of you [us] are fucking bitch ass motherfuckers

I think you are looking at this too absolutely.

It's not a matter of avoiding forming friendships and IRL interactions, it's just whether or not you find doing that tiring or not. It goes without saying that forming safety nets and networking (I hate that term, but it applies well here) is a crucial part of life as a social species of animal. That doesn't mean everyone finds it energising to do so <.<

Sure some people might use online communications as their only form of interaction, but I wouldn't put that down to being a pussy or a bitchass motherfucker. For some, social anxiety inhibits and hinders their IRL interactions and so rather than isolating themselves fully and cutting themselves off from the world they keep a foot in the door whilst they are recovering. It can be overcome, more easily for some than others but it's just an example of why it's not right to judge people so harshly for not being the most outgoing, chipper model citizen that is the ideal people strive to be <.<