This was one of the biggest complaints that ex-Mrs. Charlie had and Al Baghdadi had/has with me. I choose my emotions. Both say I lost my capacity for rage. Ex-Mrs Charlie wanted to pick a fight to feel something l, anything after 17 years. Al Baghdadi worries that I am too cold when dealing with ex-Mrs Charlie and others who cross me.

I think I lost my capacity for strong emotions.

Does this make me broken or wrong?

I think it means you like penis.

Isn't that a thing you were talking about?

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Quote from: The Hån on April 06, 2016, 12:19:46 AM

I think it means you like penis.

Isn't that a thing you were talking about?

yea. I'm a volunteer sex ed teacher for middle school kids. it's my job to talk about penis.

Badass tbh.
Did you sign up to try and hook up with your students?

No. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Especially if it involves getting angry. Anger has it's uses but more often than not it's used in the wrong place at the wong time, and letting it dictate your actions for you so freely, well, that's not something I've ever been into very much.

Use your head first. Logic is your best friend. Emotions come second to help add the boost you need for things.

And you? Well, you're older. I don't know how old exactly, but I know that as people age they tend to mellow out a fair bit.  Even guys who used to be fighters. As you age you can't afford to get angry. You get into fights and you can't take hits like you can when you're in your 20's. And the recovery time is longer.

I'd say nothing's wrong with you charlie. It's the people who let their fists swing first and think after, or likewise, people who let their lips do the talking and say shitty stuff before thinking that have it fucked and wrong.

Quote from: The Hån on April 06, 2016, 12:26:37 AM

Nice, I can hear the Roman tears spilling onto the ground.
Thought about getting advice from him?

sounds like he needs "somebody to love"

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Quote from: The Hån on April 06, 2016, 12:26:37 AM

Nice, I can hear the Roman tears spilling onto the ground.
Thought about getting advice from him?

sounds like he needs "somebody to love"

Well he broadcasts his stories "all over the world"

lol yea. seems like he just goes out of his way to get rekt by women. but "who needs a broken heart", right?

No. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Especially if it involves getting angry. Anger has it's uses but more often than not it's used in the wrong place at the wong time, and letting it dictate your actions for you so freely, well, that's not something I've ever been into very much.

Use your head first. Logic is your best friend. Emotions come second to help add the boost you need for things.

And you? Well, you're older. I don't know how old exactly, but I know that as people age they tend to mellow out a fair bit.  Even guys who used to be fighters. As you age you can't afford to get angry. You get into fights and you can't take hits like you can when you're in your 20's. And the recovery time is longer.

I'd say nothing's wrong with you charlie. It's the people who let their fists swing first and think after, or likewise, people who let their lips do the talking and say shitty stuff before thinking that have it fucked and wrong.

I worry I lost my passion. The only thing that could send me into a rage is a real threat to my boys. The only thing that matters is their well being and that I am there to ensure it.

It sounds cold when I type that, but it's truth. Strong emotions are lost when I consider my sons. Everything else seems pale and transparent when my children are factored in. 

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Quote from: The Hån on April 06, 2016, 12:28:45 AM

Quote from: TBlocks on April 06, 2016, 12:27:44 AM

Quote from: The Hån on April 06, 2016, 12:26:37 AM

Nice, I can hear the Roman tears spilling onto the ground.
Thought about getting advice from him?

sounds like he needs "somebody to love"

Well he broadcasts his stories "all over the world"

lol yea. seems like he just goes out of his way to get rekt by women. but "who needs a broken heart", right?

Well obviously. He really needs to find (or create) a "sweet talkin' woman"

thats because he can't do the dinosaur.

hah no way he can! In his dweams.

Quote from: Sandtrap on April 06, 2016, 12:27:07 AM

No. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Especially if it involves getting angry. Anger has it's uses but more often than not it's used in the wrong place at the wong time, and letting it dictate your actions for you so freely, well, that's not something I've ever been into very much.

Use your head first. Logic is your best friend. Emotions come second to help add the boost you need for things.

And you? Well, you're older. I don't know how old exactly, but I know that as people age they tend to mellow out a fair bit.  Even guys who used to be fighters. As you age you can't afford to get angry. You get into fights and you can't take hits like you can when you're in your 20's. And the recovery time is longer.

I'd say nothing's wrong with you charlie. It's the people who let their fists swing first and think after, or likewise, people who let their lips do the talking and say shitty stuff before thinking that have it fucked and wrong.

I worry I lost my passion. The only thing that could send me into a rage is a real threat to my boys. The only thing that matters is their well being and that I am there to ensure it.

It sounds cold when I type that, but it's truth. Strong emotions are lost when I consider my sons. Everything else seems pale and transparent when my children are factored in.

Who can say then. I'd say that it might be part of being a parent. A decent one at least. The world loses some of it's focus and meaning to you because what matters most to you is your world. Your kids.

But, it's not like I'm an expert. Who knows.

Emotion can and inevitably will be a burden in life, regardless of the times it's not.

Sometimes I feel like my capacity to feel strongly about something is diminishing, but then something sets me off and it all comes out like a river of blood, sweat, and/or tears, so I realize that my heart is still conflicted.

However, I've come to see that emotion undergoes a sort of metamorphosis in a way when you start to look at the bigger picture and focus on the most important things in life more often. Your mindset begins to change and it puts things into perspective. And thus do a lot of petty or superficial concerns begin to diminish leaving only the more essential ones to focus on.

Is being mad a good thing??

I don't see how having rage at more things would benefit you in any way

Getting mad when the people you love are in danger is perfectly normal
You wouldn't need to be mad for much more than that

And as for treating your ex wife too coldly, she cheated on you
That doesn't warrant a warm welcome lol

Getting mad over general problems is normal. It means your emotionally well rounded.

Is being mad a good thing??

I don't see how having rage at more things would benefit you in any way

You may also be suffering from depression.

>complaining about stability

Quote from: Gaara444 on April 06, 2016, 12:46:58 PM

Getting mad over general problems is normal. It means your emotionally well rounded.

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Is being mad a good thing??

I don't see how having rage at more things would benefit you in any way

Which is why I made this thread. Where others have a justified reaction, I simply weigh the outcome and act accordingly. I know that I used to have strong emotional reactions. Now there's just a void. It's felt when others expect you to react one way, and you don't react at all.

Example, ex-Mrs Charlie just dumped the kids on me for 12 days for a last minute trip. Al Baghdadi expected me to be pissed and pick a fight. Instead I didn't react emotionally and reorganized the calendar in a way that benefited me. She was correct. I should have reacted with anger. I didn't even have the capacity for it.

I don't get mad at things other people would normally be mad at

I mean do you want to be angry more often or something?

Unless you're suffering from apathy toward everything or a lack of emotion not just anger, this really isn't a problem