How do I boost my confidence

Jono · February 02, 2018, 04:08:47 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM

Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

People are fucking weird and most of them aren't worth your time.

That said, if you just trying to get that nut, ask her what's her name and her cunt size.

In all honesty I don't really care all that much about getting laid anymore. I just want to have a relationship and feel like I'm worth something to somebody for once.

Dietrich Six · February 02, 2018, 04:13:15 PM

Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 04:08:47 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

People are fucking weird and most of them aren't worth your time.

That said, if you just trying to get that nut, ask her what's her name and her cunt size.
In all honesty I don't really care all that much about getting laid anymore. I just want to have a relationship and feel like I'm worth something to somebody for once.

You mean the world to me jono.

But yeah, just talk to her. I honestly get the same feeling from being in a relationship when I just speak with my coworkers. One of the girls I work with has begun to open up to me about her personal life and there are people who have worked there for years who haven't been able to get two words from her.

Relationships don't need to be complicated and they don't need to be deeply personal to get worth from.

Obviously this could lead to more personal and intimate relationships, but just knowing someone counts on you to make their day a little less shit is a great feeling.

Jono · February 02, 2018, 06:59:33 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 04:13:15 PM

Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 04:08:47 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

People are fucking weird and most of them aren't worth your time.

That said, if you just trying to get that nut, ask her what's her name and her cunt size.
In all honesty I don't really care all that much about getting laid anymore. I just want to have a relationship and feel like I'm worth something to somebody for once.

You mean the world to me jono.

But yeah, just talk to her. I honestly get the same feeling from being in a relationship when I just speak with my coworkers. One of the girls I work with has begun to open up to me about her personal life and there are people who have worked there for years who haven't been able to get two words from her.

Relationships don't need to be complicated and they don't need to be deeply personal to get worth from.

Obviously this could lead to more personal and intimate relationships, but just knowing someone counts on you to make their day a little less shit is a great feeling.

Sometimes I walk past her to get to the area where I'm working. What would be a good thing to say to start a small conversation as I'm walking by?

maverick · February 02, 2018, 07:10:13 PM

“Can I tell you something naughty?”

Jono · February 02, 2018, 07:33:18 PM

Quote from: maverick on February 02, 2018, 07:10:13 PM

“Can I tell you something naughty?”

Oh god

MarKhan · February 02, 2018, 07:40:59 PM

Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 07:33:18 PM

Quote from: maverick on February 02, 2018, 07:10:13 PM
“Can I tell you something naughty?”
Oh god

God abandoned us.

Luciana · February 02, 2018, 09:01:19 PM

Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 06:59:33 PM

Sometimes I walk past her to get to the area where I'm working. What would be a good thing to say to start a small conversation as I'm walking by?

Duh

You just need to learn how to

A. Break the ice and

B. Maintain a conversation that isn't just small talk and you assaulting her with questions

Jive Turkey · February 02, 2018, 09:09:11 PM

Cocaine will make you very confident

Verbatim · February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM

Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.

this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked

Jono · February 02, 2018, 10:15:07 PM

Quote from: Jive Turkey on February 02, 2018, 09:09:11 PM

Cocaine will make you very confident

Joo crazy mang

Ian · February 02, 2018, 11:34:32 PM

To add to this, females are fucking weird in regards to what they view as a date and not. The QT I work with went with me to the parks and we saw Spiderman in theaters and walked around for hours just talking and having fun. But her only reason for those not being dates was because I didn't use the word when asking her despite those two instances being literally no different from what we did when we actually had a legitimate date.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM

Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

Jono · February 03, 2018, 02:13:21 AM

Completely unrelated to the thread but I had a hilarious encounter today at the mall.

I was going to go buy some more shorts to wear to work when I got stopped by a candy vendor. She was super nervous about doing her job I guess. I had called my sister earlier to ask her where a store was in the mall but she didn't answer so she called me when I was talking to this girl. The girl says really fast to me "Is that your wife? Is it your wife? Does she not like you talking to girls?" I said "No." to all the questions with the most serious and annoyed face I've ever done. Like yo, just give me my gummy bears so I can leave.

I swear, weird shit always happens to me when I go to the mall

Genghis Khan · February 03, 2018, 03:09:21 AM

I'd try Super male vitality if I lacked confidence and energy. It enchances sex drive also.

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 08:42:24 PM

Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 06:59:33 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 04:13:15 PM
Quote from: Jono on February 02, 2018, 04:08:47 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

People are fucking weird and most of them aren't worth your time.

That said, if you just trying to get that nut, ask her what's her name and her cunt size.
In all honesty I don't really care all that much about getting laid anymore. I just want to have a relationship and feel like I'm worth something to somebody for once.

You mean the world to me jono.

But yeah, just talk to her. I honestly get the same feeling from being in a relationship when I just speak with my coworkers. One of the girls I work with has begun to open up to me about her personal life and there are people who have worked there for years who haven't been able to get two words from her.

Relationships don't need to be complicated and they don't need to be deeply personal to get worth from.

Obviously this could lead to more personal and intimate relationships, but just knowing someone counts on you to make their day a little less shit is a great feeling.
Sometimes I walk past her to get to the area where I'm working. What would be a good thing to say to start a small conversation as I'm walking by?

Just a hey how you doing. Talk about work, see where it leads.

"Do you like working here?" is great because it generally opens up to their personal life quickly and you can lead into more interesting subjects.

Everyone likes to complain, allowing people to vent to you and expanding upon it is the easiest way I've found to get to know someone.

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 08:49:05 PM

Quote from: Ian on February 02, 2018, 11:34:32 PM

To add to this, females are fucking weird in regards to what they view as a date and not. The QT I work with went with me to the parks and we saw Spiderman in theaters and walked around for hours just talking and having fun. But her only reason for those not being dates was because I didn't use the word when asking her despite those two instances being literally no different from what we did when we actually had a legitimate date.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Jono, just talk to her. Don't make it weird, don't ask her on a date. Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations. You might find that you are only attracted to her physically and there's no connection outside of that.

Dates and hanging out with friends are two different things. You ever watch a movie with a male friend? Same thing my dude.

If it isn't explicitly stated that it's a date, then there is no reason for anyone to assume it is.

The problem with going on dates instead of just getting to know someone is that there are expectations on either end. Dates imply you're trying for something more than just friendship and a lot of the time it puts more pressure on people than is necessary.

It's tricky for women too though. I've been to quite a few movies and dinners that I thought were just hang out sessions only to disappoint the girl by not making a move or picking up on signals.

Not all male/female interactions are sexually or romantically charged my guy.

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked

Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?

Verbatim · February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?

the thread isn't about making female friends

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends

And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.

Verbatim · February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.

and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes

Nah fam, you doing it wrong

Verbatim · February 03, 2018, 09:25:47 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes
Nah fam, you doing it wrong

there's no other way to do it

if you're girl and a guy you've never spoken to before all of a sudden starts talking to you, why would you not think it's because he's some horny fucker trying to get laid

you'd have to be retarded, and any girl who doesn't automatically suspect that is probably too stupid for you to want to talk to in the first place

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 09:28:16 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:25:47 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes
Nah fam, you doing it wrong
there's no other way to do it

if you're girl and a guy you've never spoken to before all of a sudden starts talking to you, why would you not think it's because he's some horny fucker trying to get laid

you'd have to be retarded, and any girl who doesn't automatically suspect that is probably too stupid for you to want to talk to in the first place

You have a very weird view on social interaction. It's almost like you're stuck in highschool.

Verbatim · February 03, 2018, 09:30:50 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:28:16 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:25:47 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes
Nah fam, you doing it wrong
there's no other way to do it

if you're girl and a guy you've never spoken to before all of a sudden starts talking to you, why would you not think it's because he's some horny fucker trying to get laid

you'd have to be retarded, and any girl who doesn't automatically suspect that is probably too stupid for you to want to talk to in the first place
You have a very weird view on social interaction. It's almost like you're stuck in highschool.

more like i just understand what drives us as a species

Dietrich Six · February 03, 2018, 09:33:00 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:30:50 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:28:16 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:25:47 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes
Nah fam, you doing it wrong
there's no other way to do it

if you're girl and a guy you've never spoken to before all of a sudden starts talking to you, why would you not think it's because he's some horny fucker trying to get laid

you'd have to be retarded, and any girl who doesn't automatically suspect that is probably too stupid for you to want to talk to in the first place
You have a very weird view on social interaction. It's almost like you're stuck in highschool.
more like i just understand what drives us as a species

Your low estimation of humans is clouding your view verb sama.

Jive Turkey · February 03, 2018, 10:44:04 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:33:00 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:30:50 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:28:16 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:25:47 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 09:18:34 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 09:17:34 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:59:25 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 03, 2018, 08:56:52 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 03, 2018, 08:50:37 PM
Quote from: Verbatim on February 02, 2018, 09:16:56 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 02, 2018, 03:55:28 PM
Get to know her in an open setting with zero connotations.
this is not possible

there will always be connotations, and women aren't stupid

they know that if a guy's trying to get their attention, they're guaranteed have an ulterior motive

any guy who doesn't want to come across that way is pretty much fucked
Bruh, this is the most sexist shit I've ever heard. You've never had a female friend?
the thread isn't about making female friends
And my advice was to get to know her before trying to date her.
and my point is that girls can smell what you're trying to do a mile away

most of my female friends were friends i made in elementary school when we didn't know sex was a thing

when you're an adult, everything changes
Nah fam, you doing it wrong
there's no other way to do it

if you're girl and a guy you've never spoken to before all of a sudden starts talking to you, why would you not think it's because he's some horny fucker trying to get laid

you'd have to be retarded, and any girl who doesn't automatically suspect that is probably too stupid for you to want to talk to in the first place
You have a very weird view on social interaction. It's almost like you're stuck in highschool.
more like i just understand what drives us as a species

Your low estimation of humans is clouding your view verb sama.

Nah man he’s kinda right. Humans choose who they interact with based on whatever value the other person can offer. And the most common thing guys value in women is sexual(no sexism srs brah), so girls are primed, some subconsciously others consciously, to expect guys who are friendly to them to want to sleep with them. But it’s sorta based off attractiveness and social status etc idk it’s a lot to get into right now.

Which I don’t think is bad, I think the OP should show at least some intent that he wants this girl. Cause if he gets classified as “friend” in her eyes, it’ll be infinitely harder and more painful to get rejected when he tries to make the switch to “lover”. She’s gonna be like wtf stay in your lane

Jive Turkey · February 03, 2018, 11:00:32 PM

Here’s my advice bro

Yes, you should workout and do stuff you like and eat healthy and all that self love raising your confidence stuff, but you should do that because why not optimize your life? You’re here anyways and time will pass regardless, it’ll improve a lot of aspects. But if you don’t enjoy that, don’t do it. Seriously lol why do stuff you hate just because it’s supposedly important for your confidence? That can come from a lot of places

But you need to be honest with yourself, what do you want? You want this girl, you want her to want you, and you want to hangout with her all the time and stick your penis in and out of her soft warm vagina. So what you should focus on is getting good with girls, and the best way to do that is to get more girls.

Learn to flirt. Learn and practice the skills you’ll need to be able to get girls, and use them. Talk to tons of girls, friendly, flirty, old young etc all types. Get comfortable talking to women man, it’s a skill that keeps on giving. Chances are you’re putting a lot of stock in this one girl because you don’t have an abundance of other high quality women, or you don’t know if you can get them.

Basically just talk to a lot of girls until you’re comfortable enough to talk to any girl, then you’ll naturally be able to slide in and talk to this girl. Being in a Flow, secure, confident state when talking to a girl is the best place you can come from.

BC · February 04, 2018, 12:25:53 AM

I haven’t read, nor do I want to read 6 pages worth of responses so here’s my take.

If it’s a person you have never spoken to, or had a decent conversation with, start one. Sure it’s daunting but sometimes you have to power through things to get what you want. Find common ground, and go from there. Then you go from there. That’s where you feel out whether you actually like the person or not. Then as things just progress and you guys become more familiar, then ask her for her number if she hasn’t offered it by then. There are subtle ways to ask for it but it depends on the situation.

Then you talk a little longer and then you ask her out

Verbatim · February 04, 2018, 12:29:20 AM

i feel like the internet age has made this shit so much more fucking complicated, especially for introverted people

back in the day, guys literally didn't have anything better to do than to try their luck with girls

now we have so much

BC · February 04, 2018, 12:31:35 AM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 04, 2018, 12:29:20 AM

i feel like the internet age has made this shit so much more fucking complicated, especially for introverted people

back in the day, guys literally didn't have anything better to do than to try their luck with girls

now we have so much

Honestly a pretty fair assessment. A lot of people I’ve known don’t have an interest in even chasing women simply because they are distracted by other things. Some come around to it some don’t. Whether that’s good or bad is up to the person

Genghis Khan · February 04, 2018, 01:50:34 AM

Quote from: BC on February 04, 2018, 12:31:35 AM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 04, 2018, 12:29:20 AM
i feel like the internet age has made this shit so much more fucking complicated, especially for introverted people

back in the day, guys literally didn't have anything better to do than to try their luck with girls

now we have so much

Honestly a pretty fair assessment. A lot of people I’ve known don’t have an interest in even chasing women simply because they are distracted by other things. Some come around to it some don’t. Whether that’s good or bad is up to the person

Girls only make you sad. Life has distracted over a quarter century and don't see it change.