hahaha what a fucking loser, the girl especially. You try to comfort her and she goes back to some dude who is abusive to her and shows her the shit you said to comfort her?

Holy shit, good riddance. Tell them both to kill themselves and never bother you again. People who trivialize and pretend to have PTSD for attention really trigger me. Honestly you should find him and whoop his ass.

yeah i agree, but the thing is i don't know 100% that he's lying. he just got back from a trip with a friend of his and apparently the stories """check out""". which stories, i don't know. I know he lived in california and went to public school in compton, but from what i have gathered from his cousins who he lived with at the time, they attended public school there but lived in a gated community. i'm sure he did some illegal stuff with his public school friends but nothing nearly as bad as he likes to portray. but again, i don't know that for a fact.

according to her, his mother 100% confirms the stuff he has to say and the reason his cousins don't back it up is because she doesn't want her family to know all the shit he's been through. (but she's okay letting him tell every random stranger??)

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Shit will blow over. Eventually you just accept it and move on. I lost three years of my life to alcohol and feeling sorry for myself, it's not something I'd recommend.

yeah im not in the business of wallowing in self pity anymore. i have too many responsibilities and goals i need to work for.

still doesn't help that i feel guilty about how things ended with my buddy. but i mean, i genuinely felt all the things i said about him and on some level, if i do feel those things, do i really want him as a friend? or am i just a beggar who can't be a chooser in the friend department?

Friendships are chosen and can be ended at any time. There's no reason to waste time on someone who isn't benefiting you because of "friendship". It's important to be introspective when it comes to emotional matters.

If your friend changed in a way that is unacceptable or you found something out about them that you don't like it's not the end of the world to let them go.

yeah, it's for the best that we're no longer friends, i just hate that i had to betray him like this for it to end. but i guess there really isn't a good way to stop being friends, huh

Best way is for them to end is to fizzle out, but even then it's awkward and feelings are hurt.

Give it time and I'm sure you won't regret your decision.

i'm not sure i actually regret my decision, but it just doesn't feel good, yknow

Yeah I just went back and read what happened, it's hard not to feel guilty about something when someone else spills the beans.

Point is that he isn't the kind of person you want to spend time with and he honestly sounds like he deserves it.

People like him feed on drama and you just gave him his next fix.

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hahaha what a fucking loser, the girl especially. You try to comfort her and she goes back to some dude who is abusive to her and shows her the shit you said to comfort her?

Holy shit, good riddance. Tell them both to kill themselves and never bother you again. People who trivialize and pretend to have PTSD for attention really trigger me. Honestly you should find him and whoop his ass.

yeah i agree, but the thing is i don't know 100% that he's lying. he just got back from a trip with a friend of his and apparently the stories """check out""". which stories, i don't know. I know he lived in california and went to public school in compton, but from what i have gathered from his cousins who he lived with at the time, they attended public school there but lived in a gated community. i'm sure he did some illegal stuff with his public school friends but nothing nearly as bad as he likes to portray. but again, i don't know that for a fact.

according to her, his mother 100% confirms the stuff he has to say and the reason his cousins don't back it up is because she doesn't want her family to know all the shit he's been through. (but she's okay letting him tell every random stranger??)

Is he white?

some of the worst exerts from the convo

me: "you're better off without him, he's an ass"

her: "I don't know if that's true though because look how happy he is now. he has his eyes on all these girls he's talkin to..."

me: "LMAO there are no girls he's talking to. none that are interested, anyway. trust me, i'm friends with all of them. he's just a fucking idiot."

her: "if he really wanted me all he'd have to do is apologise. i feel so unloved. he basically called me a loser and said i wasn't up to his standards anymore because he's moving on up in life and i haven't been able to get a job yet and i'm not in schoool"

me: "he's an idiot and an ass. you don't deserve that. you deserve a lot better. i can't believe he'd say something like that."

her: "the first time he told me to work harder at finding a job was just after i had gone back home after being kicked out of my house. there was just so much disgust in his voice."

me: "i can't understand how he could feel justified in saying something like that when literally all of his expenses his dad pays for. he's the laziest guy i know."

her: "his dad doesn't actually pay for everything and he's working hard though that's why i'm not good enough for him."

me: "his dad transfer him money weekly. his dad just transfered him 1000 bucks spending money for his already paid-off trip to california for a week. he works part time 2 - 3 times a week. there's a lot he doesn't tell us." [this part i'm embellishing a little, i don't actually know if he works 2/3 times a week but i heavily suspect it considering his snap chat stories and such. also i don't know if his dad transfers him money directly or what but i know his mom gets child support from their billionaire father and he doesn't pay a single expense on anything so in reality, yeah, his dad pays for everything.]

me: "90% of his persona is fabricated. [my friend] and i found out a lot of shit last year from his mom." [we didn't actually, we just showed up at his house one day and caught him in the middle of a blatant lie.] "it's a joke. and we all just play along because he must be severely fucked in the head to lie that much and no one wants to force him into a mental breakdown or something. he's still my boy and i'd do anything for him, but..."

her: "what do you mean 90%?"

me: "like, what he says about his life growing up and his issues with his dad and where he gets him money. he likes to pretend he's some street wise gang vet who made his money pushin on the corner but he grew up in a gated christian community until his dad paid for his family to move to canada." [i don't actually know if his dad paid for them to move, i just assume that was the case.] "talk to his cousins, they'll confirm all of it."

her: "[his friend] is in california with him right now and i've talked to him and all the stories apparently check out though...?"

me: "i'm sure he made crazy compton friends when he attended a public shcoool there but he basically learned enough to pretend he was  a part of it convincingly. he never was."

was i too harsh?

he responded with:

him: [his girlfriend] just showed me what you said. consider all ties to me severed."

me: fair enough. imma need those cds back tho, they're p rare"

no response

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hahaha what a fucking loser, the girl especially. You try to comfort her and she goes back to some dude who is abusive to her and shows her the shit you said to comfort her?

Holy shit, good riddance. Tell them both to kill themselves and never bother you again. People who trivialize and pretend to have PTSD for attention really trigger me. Honestly you should find him and whoop his ass.

yeah i agree, but the thing is i don't know 100% that he's lying. he just got back from a trip with a friend of his and apparently the stories """check out""". which stories, i don't know. I know he lived in california and went to public school in compton, but from what i have gathered from his cousins who he lived with at the time, they attended public school there but lived in a gated community. i'm sure he did some illegal stuff with his public school friends but nothing nearly as bad as he likes to portray. but again, i don't know that for a fact.

according to her, his mother 100% confirms the stuff he has to say and the reason his cousins don't back it up is because she doesn't want her family to know all the shit he's been through. (but she's okay letting him tell every random stranger??)

Is he white?

he has white skin but he claims he's half black/jew/arabic. whatever suits the situation best. the other half of him is greek.

Total bullshit, ain't no white dudes doing it out on Compton. Dude probably sold an eighth of weed to his buddy and was a "drug dealer"'

that's what i'm saying, this guys is full of shit STEADY

i'm actually surprised the response i got here, did not expect this at all

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hahaha what a fucking loser, the girl especially. You try to comfort her and she goes back to some dude who is abusive to her and shows her the shit you said to comfort her?

Holy shit, good riddance. Tell them both to kill themselves and never bother you again. People who trivialize and pretend to have PTSD for attention really trigger me. Honestly you should find him and whoop his ass.

yeah i agree, but the thing is i don't know 100% that he's lying. he just got back from a trip with a friend of his and apparently the stories """check out""". which stories, i don't know. I know he lived in california and went to public school in compton, but from what i have gathered from his cousins who he lived with at the time, they attended public school there but lived in a gated community. i'm sure he did some illegal stuff with his public school friends but nothing nearly as bad as he likes to portray. but again, i don't know that for a fact.

according to her, his mother 100% confirms the stuff he has to say and the reason his cousins don't back it up is because she doesn't want her family to know all the shit he's been through. (but she's okay letting him tell every random stranger??)

lmao

Who the fuck cares. Are you supposed to be impressed he was some thug in Compton? Ooh wow. Nice accomplishment. He's making it up to try and be interesting because he has no personality. People always like to talk like they're a badass because they lived in a bad neighborhood. The only thing he should have to say about it is it sucks. There's nothing cool or interesting about it.

I think what a lot of people don't understand is that like if you're from a certain area people think of you as a stereotype. There is such a thing as normal kids in shitty neighborhoods who study hard and stay out of trouble and spend their time in the house playing videogames and using the Internet.

i think, if it were true, i just insulted some tough shit he went through as a kid, and that's where the sense of betrayal would be coming from on his end. no one likes having their suffering devalued.

Oh please. This dude is full of shit.

yeah i know. not sure why im letting it bother me.

im actually not nearly as bothered as i was when i made the thread. the response here was pretty good, im glad i didnt do anything wrong.

He's a dumbass. I hope he talks that nonsense to the wrong person some day and somebody checks his ass.

Why not you, why not now?

LOL He sold drugs in Compton? A white dude? Holy shit lmao. Every single block in Compton is gang turf. I'm not exaggerating. You don't sell drugs on a gang's territory unless you're in the gang.

Too bad you didn't tell us about this guy sooner we could've trolled the shit out of him.

you could still do it if you wanted.

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LOL He sold drugs in Compton? A white dude? Holy shit lmao. Every single block in Compton is gang turf. I'm not exaggerating. You don't sell drugs on a gang's territory unless you're in the gang.

Too bad you didn't tell us about this guy sooner we could've trolled the shit out of him.

you could still do it if you wanted.

If there's any thing worse than a thug it's a wannabe thug. And he's abusive to some depressed girl. Man I'm really triggered by this dude. Beat him up or something, what a scumbag.

unfortunately im a pretty small and physically unimpressive dude and hes about 6ft and pretty beefy

not much i can do

Looks like this is already wrapped up but I'll drop my two cents.

First off, if you're feeling guilty over anything, remember that there's no god, and that you won't burn in hell for what you did.

Second. Friends will come and go. Over 90% of them will be passerby. There's two tiers of what you might consider "friends."

First is what you'd call an actual friend. This is somebody you get along with, your views match up relatively well, there's an open relationship between you two that works easy. It's not one sided. They have your back and you have theirs. The difference with these people is that your relationship can withstand time, aging, and the odd disagreement. These relationshsips are rare.

The second group is just what I call aqcuaintences. You know them, you're friendly with them, you can probably do some things with them and talk about a few subjects. But when it comes to asking them for help, or talking about a certain subject, you avoid it like it's their own personal landmine. You have to step over these personal landmines in order for them to be friendly. You know that you can only trust them up to a certain point.

Most of what people consider friendships turn out to be that ^ With time and age, these relationships often break down due to either how much one of you changes or the other doesn't. You can even be the friendly one for the entire duration of the relationship and these people will find a reason to get mad at you one day. You'll see.

Third point. Your pal is a trouble maker and so is the lady. The frequency of lying should have tipped you off. And you divulging details to the lady and having her break that trust just immediately flags her as a drama starter. These are people you want nothing to do with. Even if he's being a sack of shit to her, every last person has a choice. She really wouldn't stay with him if she didn't want to.

if i did then i wouldnt be here