I made an unsuccessful private group on bnet

Still living with the guilt

bro

you did not just rape a girl

I knew ember you like my post real nigga

Quote from: Onion on February 23, 2017, 05:03:12 PM

I made an unsuccessful private group on bnet

Still living with the guilt

l m a o

S T O P

Quote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PM

You can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. 

If you don't mind, what happened?

i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.

what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadian

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PM

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PM

You can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. 

If you don't mind, what happened?

i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.

what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadian

what does that mean

You people aren't supposed to be capable of that.

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 06:31:02 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PM

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PM

You can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. 

If you don't mind, what happened?

i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.

what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadian

what does that mean

You people aren't supposed to be capable of that.

Yeah but since they are foreigners they are extremely prone to rape, murder, and the sale of narcotics.
They're just polite about it.

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:32:49 PM

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 06:31:02 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PM

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PM

Quote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PM

You can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. 

If you don't mind, what happened?

i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.

what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadian

what does that mean

You people aren't supposed to be capable of that.

dad, you have no idea what i'm capable of

That's it, I'm getting the belt.

Real friendship is strong enough to handle stuff like this.

well how would you feel if suddenly found out your best friend of 5 years holds unflattering, disrespectful and somewhat unfounded views about yourself that completely and fundamentally insult the person you are and the things you've gone through

yes but i'm trying to make the topic questions more general so people don't flip out again

i see, but that kinda makes it difficult to discuss, because we know next to nothing about the situation

to answer the question in the OP, yes i have, both on and offline

as for what to do about something like that, i would probably just echo what aria said

excuse the platitude, but time really does heal all wounds--maybe not ALL wounds, but something tells me that whatever's happened between you and your friend isn't something that couldn't mend itself over time

i know nothing though

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 08:10:22 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 23, 2017, 07:57:28 PM

Real friendship is strong enough to handle stuff like this.

well how would you feel if suddenly found out your best friend of 5 years holds unflattering, disrespectful and somewhat unfounded views about yourself that completely and fundamentally insult the person you are and the things you've gone through

You probably would've never been my best friend because I'd be able to tell when you disagreed with shit I said or from facial expressions and body language at thing I do or believe in.

I don't know, I've honestly never had something like that happen to me. Could you give us some more details?

i have this friend who is a really big liar. he claims to have grown up in compton and have bullet wounds (which i've never seen) and have ptsd and shit. now, i've never been given any reason to believe any of this, and he's such a frequent liar that i just assumed he was making this stuff up all these years to legitimise his "suffering" or whatever. (some other lies he's told -- he's met and took a photo with dr. dre and eminem, he saw his aunt raise 3 feet off the ground during an exorcism, he was signed with interscope records, etc.) clearly he must have something wrong with him to lie about some many things so frequently, so me and his other friends just sort of go along with it so we don't make him have a mental breakdown or anything.

anyways, he just broke up with his girlfriend and i was talking to her (we're just friends) and she was telling me all this awful shit he was saying to her (calling her a loser, saying he broke up with her because she's not good enough for him anymore cuz he's moving up in the world and she's not) and i was on mdma at the time which makes you more empathetic and stuff so i got really riled up and started coming to her defense, speaking my thoughts about my friend to her using words like "idiot", "ass", "lazy", "liar", etc. i basically told her how his whole life was  alie and that she shouldn't be berated for not being able to find a job by her boyfriend when his rich father pays for his every expense... i was just trying to support her fully because that's what i do when my friends are in a situation, i completely and fully 100% back them in the moment because people are too emotional to handle anything else.

next thing i know, they're back together, and i get a text from him telling me that she showed him what i said and that i should consider all ties between us severed.

the thing is, i meant every word i said. it's actually shit i've been thinking about since i've known the kid, and i didn't mean for it to be as harsh as it came off. it was just my pure, unadulterated thoughts put into text, and it came off extremely poorly.

i may have to clarify some things so don't take this all at face value. i'm also having a tough time seeing this issue from other's perspectives.

Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 08:15:05 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 23, 2017, 08:12:33 PM

Shit will blow over. Eventually you just accept it and move on. I lost three years of my life to alcohol and feeling sorry for myself, it's not something I'd recommend.

yeah im not in the business of wallowing in self pity anymore. i have too many responsibilities and goals i need to work for.

still doesn't help that i feel guilty about how things ended with my buddy. but i mean, i genuinely felt all the things i said about him and on some level, if i do feel those things, do i really want him as a friend? or am i just a beggar who can't be a chooser in the friend department?

Friendships are chosen and can be ended at any time. There's no reason to waste time on someone who isn't benefiting you because of "friendship". It's important to be introspective when it comes to emotional matters.

If your friend changed in a way that is unacceptable or you found something out about them that you don't like it's not the end of the world to let them go.

yeah, it's for the best that we're no longer friends, i just hate that i had to betray him like this for it to end. but i guess there really isn't a good way to stop being friends, huh