Tell Girl A that you can hang with who you wanna hang with.
Does it have to be recent girl issues or are we just sharing stories?
Quote from: Snake on January 30, 2015, 10:18:58 PMDoes it have to be recent girl issues or are we just sharing stories?Sharing stories
So, I guess if we're sharing stories, I can share one of mine.First, there are a few things you should know about me.1) I'm a hard-core romantic. I've been criticised by many for having "unrealistic expectations of love", which basically equates to me very rarely falling in love or even into an infatuation.And,2) I'm an all-or-nothing kind of guy. I either give it my best and go all-in, or I just don't even try. In everything I do, be it school, work, video games, etc. This connects with my previous statement of rarely falling in love because, well, I only want to fall in love with those who I truly love. Don't want to waste mine and someone else's time.So, now that we've covered that, allow me to begin.I will try to summarise my first (and last prior to the one I'm about to share with you) romantic experience shortly. I fell in love with her, she had a boyfriend. Using my "charm" and "wit" (I hesitate to use her words, because I don't agree with them), she ended up falling in love with me. For a few glorious months, we were purely, fantastically, irrevocably in love with each other. I can't remember the last time I was so happy. But it didn't last. She ended up moving away at the height of our relationship (sadly, it hadn't evolved to the point of physical relations, due to us both being religious at the time.) This was 5 years ago. I hadn't even thought about another woman. That was, until this next one.About a year ago, I was forced to relocate cities (don't want to get into it). This pissed me off for many reasons, the main one being my friends that I would have to leave behind. Because just like my romantic philosophy, I carry my "all-or-nothing" mentality into pretty much everything I do, including those who I deem my friends. This means I had very few friends, but the ones I did have were extremely close to me.But what are you going to do? I reluctantly sucked it up and moved. I would be continuing my education elsewhere, and wasn't happy about it. Or, I wasn't initially happy with it. But on the first day of classes, I met her.She was this exotic beauty from Australia, packed with the accent and everything. She read comics to the point where she knew more than I did (which isn't anything substantial, but certainly quite a bit above average). She was an avid fan of A Song of Ice and Fire, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, Metal Gear, Halo, etc. She. Was. Perfect. On top of that, she had a guy's name (which is sort of my fetish - girls with guy names.) So for the first time in years, I had begun to venture out of my shell. And I must say, I was rusty. I don't even know why she gave me the time of day, to be honest. But for some reason, she would still talk to me.Being the freak I am, I didn't ask her out. Months went by, and the two of us were talking on a regular basis for that entire time. Finally, the Holiday Season comes around. I want to get her something nice, so I start looking online for some sort of gift. I came across this sweet Clone Trooper Lamp that I just knew she'd love (don't worry, she likes the originals more than the prequels. But we both agreed Clone Troopers were BA.) Me, being me, orders it online just in time for Christmas.So, it arrives, I've finished wrapping it, etc. I invite her over to my house a few days prior to Christmas when my parents aren't home. This would help me accomplish 2 things.1) I could give her the gift.And,2) It could potentially lead to something a bit more physical.Alright, so she arrives at my door, I invite her in. We get to chit-chatting (at this point in time, I think a new Metal Gear V trailer was released, so I show her that), and I ask her what her plans are for the break (we hadn't got off school yet, 3 or 4 more days to go, IIRC). Conversation went something like this.>me, sitting at my desk, trying to find article about something>casually ask, "so, what are your plans for the break?">not sure how this hasn't come up before, we talk everday>she answers, "Oh, not much. I'm flying back to Australia tomorrow to spend Christmas with my girlfriend."Girlfriend.She had a girlfriend. The second girl I've ever even considered starting a romantic relationship with in my life, and she has a girlfriend.Trying not to look too broken, I continue, business as usual. She must've noticed something was wrong and took it as a hint, because she left rather abruptly after "getting a text from her sister".That was the last time I saw her. Right when she left, I started to bawl. She was the one good thing going on in my life. And now that was gone. I fell into a pit of depression. My grades plummeted. I believe I failed 2 courses and managed to get 50's in the others. My social life (which was basically non-existent anyway) completely disintegrated. My body, which was pretty well-maintained, began to lose any form of muscle it had. I found myself not getting out of bed for weeks straight because I didn't have a reason to. It was the worst time of my life.It's a bit better now, but I still can't shake this feeling of "what's the point?" I feel like I have no purpose in life, and it's not getting any better.And that's my story. I hope you enjoyed. The best thing to come out of it was this sweet lamp that I still have.
SpoilerQuote from: Snake on January 30, 2015, 11:13:23 PMSo, I guess if we're sharing stories, I can share one of mine.First, there are a few things you should know about me.1) I'm a hard-core romantic. I've been criticised by many for having "unrealistic expectations of love", which basically equates to me very rarely falling in love or even into an infatuation.And,2) I'm an all-or-nothing kind of guy. I either give it my best and go all-in, or I just don't even try. In everything I do, be it school, work, video games, etc. This connects with my previous statement of rarely falling in love because, well, I only want to fall in love with those who I truly love. Don't want to waste mine and someone else's time.So, now that we've covered that, allow me to begin.I will try to summarise my first (and last prior to the one I'm about to share with you) romantic experience shortly. I fell in love with her, she had a boyfriend. Using my "charm" and "wit" (I hesitate to use her words, because I don't agree with them), she ended up falling in love with me. For a few glorious months, we were purely, fantastically, irrevocably in love with each other. I can't remember the last time I was so happy. But it didn't last. She ended up moving away at the height of our relationship (sadly, it hadn't evolved to the point of physical relations, due to us both being religious at the time.) This was 5 years ago. I hadn't even thought about another woman. That was, until this next one.About a year ago, I was forced to relocate cities (don't want to get into it). This pissed me off for many reasons, the main one being my friends that I would have to leave behind. Because just like my romantic philosophy, I carry my "all-or-nothing" mentality into pretty much everything I do, including those who I deem my friends. This means I had very few friends, but the ones I did have were extremely close to me.But what are you going to do? I reluctantly sucked it up and moved. I would be continuing my education elsewhere, and wasn't happy about it. Or, I wasn't initially happy with it. But on the first day of classes, I met her.She was this exotic beauty from Australia, packed with the accent and everything. She read comics to the point where she knew more than I did (which isn't anything substantial, but certainly quite a bit above average). She was an avid fan of A Song of Ice and Fire, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, Metal Gear, Halo, etc. She. Was. Perfect. On top of that, she had a guy's name (which is sort of my fetish - girls with guy names.) So for the first time in years, I had begun to venture out of my shell. And I must say, I was rusty. I don't even know why she gave me the time of day, to be honest. But for some reason, she would still talk to me.Being the freak I am, I didn't ask her out. Months went by, and the two of us were talking on a regular basis for that entire time. Finally, the Holiday Season comes around. I want to get her something nice, so I start looking online for some sort of gift. I came across this sweet Clone Trooper Lamp that I just knew she'd love (don't worry, she likes the originals more than the prequels. But we both agreed Clone Troopers were BA.) Me, being me, orders it online just in time for Christmas.So, it arrives, I've finished wrapping it, etc. I invite her over to my house a few days prior to Christmas when my parents aren't home. This would help me accomplish 2 things.1) I could give her the gift.And,2) It could potentially lead to something a bit more physical.Alright, so she arrives at my door, I invite her in. We get to chit-chatting (at this point in time, I think a new Metal Gear V trailer was released, so I show her that), and I ask her what her plans are for the break (we hadn't got off school yet, 3 or 4 more days to go, IIRC). Conversation went something like this.>me, sitting at my desk, trying to find article about something>casually ask, "so, what are your plans for the break?">not sure how this hasn't come up before, we talk everday>she answers, "Oh, not much. I'm flying back to Australia tomorrow to spend Christmas with my girlfriend."Girlfriend.She had a girlfriend. The second girl I've ever even considered starting a romantic relationship with in my life, and she has a girlfriend.Trying not to look too broken, I continue, business as usual. She must've noticed something was wrong and took it as a hint, because she left rather abruptly after "getting a text from her sister".That was the last time I saw her. Right when she left, I started to bawl. She was the one good thing going on in my life. And now that was gone. I fell into a pit of depression. My grades plummeted. I believe I failed 2 courses and managed to get 50's in the others. My social life (which was basically non-existent anyway) completely disintegrated. My body, which was pretty well-maintained, began to lose any form of muscle it had. I found myself not getting out of bed for weeks straight because I didn't have a reason to. It was the worst time of my life.It's a bit better now, but I still can't shake this feeling of "what's the point?" I feel like I have no purpose in life, and it's not getting any better.And that's my story. I hope you enjoyed. The best thing to come out of it was this sweet lamp that I still have. Cool.
Quote from: The Hån on January 30, 2015, 10:08:31 PMTell Girl A that you can hang with who you wanna hang with.Told her it was already handled. She is also a chick who turned me down once which is funny. Mainly cause i am younger than her.
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Quote from: Elegiac on January 30, 2015, 11:31:20 PM@Snaketl;drOnly loved two women in my life, one of them moved away from me five years ago, haven't seen her since. Haven't loved another woman since. Except for the one I fell in love with last year, who after 4 months of flirting, told me she was going back home for Christmas to be with her Girlfriend.I had bought her a Clone trooper lamp as a gift, but gave it to myself instead.
Quote from: Snake on January 30, 2015, 11:48:08 PMQuote from: Elegiac on January 30, 2015, 11:31:20 PM@Snaketl;drOnly loved two women in my life, one of them moved away from me five years ago, haven't seen her since. Haven't loved another woman since. Except for the one I fell in love with last year, who after 4 months of flirting, told me she was going back home for Christmas to be with her Girlfriend.I had bought her a Clone trooper lamp as a gift, but gave it to myself instead.Sorry to hear it, buddy
Quote from: Risay117 on January 30, 2015, 10:12:26 PMQuote from: The Hån on January 30, 2015, 10:08:31 PMTell Girl A that you can hang with who you wanna hang with.Told her it was already handled. She is also a chick who turned me down once which is funny. Mainly cause i am younger than her.ok if it was handled whats the problem here?