I have long hair and act effeminate, but I'm a white cis male. My younger brother even has long nails, still a cis white male.

and yet you both probably still look like guy, so your effeminate nature probably doesn't override that at all

what's your point

are you this dense on purpose

and even if someone were confused, you would just correct them, as people do

i used to have long hair as a kid, and people would mistake me for a girl on occasion--and i would correct them

they would apologize, and i would say, "that's okay"

and then i would fucking forget about it

this is so unbelievably fucking simple, i have to wonder how you function socially at all

You've obviously never come across somehow where this is a problem. Not everyone is as easy going as you are.

You've obviously never come across somehow where this is a problem. Not everyone is as easy going as you are.

if there's a transgirl (someone who is biologically male but identifies as female), chances are, they're going to present themselves as such, and you'll know just by looking at them that they identify as female

but if you're genuinely not sure, there are easy ways to work around it--i'm not going to school you through them all, because again, these are basic social things that everyone should have gathered by the time they became 5

one way is to avoid using third person pronouns around them, because it's not like you NEED them anyway if you're speaking directly to them

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 03:20:11 PM

You've obviously never come across somehow where this is a problem. Not everyone is as easy going as you are.

if there's a transgirl (someone who is biologically male but identifies as female), chances are, they're going to present themselves as such, and you'll know just by looking at them that they identify as female

but if you're genuinely not sure, there are easy ways to work around it--i'm not going to school you through them all, because again, these are basic social things that everyone should have gathered by the time they became 5

one way is to avoid using third person pronouns around them, because it's not like you NEED them anyway if you're speaking directly to them

Avoiding using his or her (or xer) preferred pronouns is a pretty shit thing to do.

Tyger never got back to me on what the problem was. And today was great, I'm feeling more comfortable around QT every time we do a meetup.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:15:08 PM

Huh.

"all the time" relative to how easy it is

so basically never, but even when it does happen, it's really not a big deal if you mistake someone's gender

if they make a big deal out of it, then they're a bitch

that's my point

Sure thing verb. You are right in that it makes them an asshole. They're basically baiting a wrong answer just to get mad about it.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:16:49 PM

Avoiding using his or her (or xer) preferred pronouns is a pretty shit thing to do.

not if you're speaking directly to them, which is what i just said

this message is being typed for you, so i'm using second-person pronouns (you, your, etc.), not third-person pronouns

second-person pronouns do not signify gender, so you're completely safe

When speaking directly to the person yes this can be avoided. It's still a tip toe procedure though.

Ian, just be cool. Chances are she's already made up her mind about you, now it's just time to let it play out.

When speaking directly to the person yes this can be avoided. It's still a tip toe procedure though.

i just think you're making it sound way more difficult than it needs to be

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:21:41 PM

When speaking directly to the person yes this can be avoided. It's still a tip toe procedure though.

i just think you're making it sound way more difficult than it needs to be

It's more just me being frustrated because I was chewed out for a solid thirty minutes for misgendering someone.

Totally innocent mistake on my part but that's not how it was viewed.

Oh God really? How the Hell do I figure out this view on me?

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:41:44 PM

Girls figure out pretty early on whether or not they're willing to date you. It's very hard to convince them otherwise.

Asking is the easiest and most direct method. You could pussyfoot around for six months though, if you're a big fan of wasting time.

I don't have six months. I have until the end of July if I'm lucky.

But the problem is I physically am unable to bring myself to escalate things. Asking someone out on a date? I'll just open my mouth and nothing will come out.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:45:40 PM

You could pussyfoot around for six months though, if you're a big fan of wasting time.

Fear and anxiety will do you no favors. It's hard but it's not impossible. What are you hoping to get out of the relationship?

What do you mean by the relationship? Like what am I hoping with what I have now or later?

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 04:52:32 PM

What are you hoping to get out of the relationship?

If she is leaving so soon, what's the point of pursuing her?

Why should distance keep me from that? I'm not saying distance doesn't make it harder, but it's not impossible.

Every girl I meet that lives within my radius just isn't my type. And I find that she seems to mesh well with my morals and beliefs. Should I pass her up for somebody I don't match well with just because she lives somewhere else? I don't particularly agree with that logic.

Quote from: Dietrich Six on June 21, 2016, 05:11:23 PM

If she is leaving so soon, what's the point of pursuing her?

I would ask her soon then. No time like the present.