Well for starters, do you have an age approximation on your compatriot?
Quote from: Deadtrap on October 24, 2015, 07:32:22 PMWell for starters, do you have an age approximation on your compatriot?They're 18.
Try bringing the conversation to really weird places every time she talks to you. If all you ever talk about is tentacle raping futa goo ponies or whatever, eventually she'll just stop messaging you.
Quote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:32:59 PMQuote from: Deadtrap on October 24, 2015, 07:32:22 PMWell for starters, do you have an age approximation on your compatriot?They're 18.Oh shit. Right. That's going to be something really difficult to work around. Do you know if it's their first deal with the "I love you thing" or have they had that before?
Quote from: Deadtrap on October 24, 2015, 07:34:37 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:32:59 PMQuote from: Deadtrap on October 24, 2015, 07:32:22 PMWell for starters, do you have an age approximation on your compatriot?They're 18.Oh shit. Right. That's going to be something really difficult to work around. Do you know if it's their first deal with the "I love you thing" or have they had that before?They're tricky, because they are kind of socially inept, they have been abused pretty badly, they've had a couple relationships which ended up being trash. I'm one of those only people she's probably had one with that's actually a decent person. So it's really confusing for her and I.
Quote from: Engrapadora on October 24, 2015, 07:32:54 PMTry bringing the conversation to really weird places every time she talks to you. If all you ever talk about is tentacle raping futa goo ponies or whatever, eventually she'll just stop messaging you.Unless she's really worth itOT:First thing's first, what do you want? Do you reciprocate?
Whatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.
Quote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.
Quote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:41:54 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.life's too short to get hung up on this kind of thing.If you want a relationship, pursue it.If you don't, make that clear.Playing along to not hurt someone's feelings is worse than just telling them.
Quote from: Epsira on October 24, 2015, 07:36:44 PMQuote from: Engrapadora on October 24, 2015, 07:32:54 PMTry bringing the conversation to really weird places every time she talks to you. If all you ever talk about is tentacle raping futa goo ponies or whatever, eventually she'll just stop messaging you.Unless she's really worth itOT:First thing's first, what do you want? Do you reciprocate?To be honest I just wish it could be over and I wish she could just go on being happy without me.
I have tried to make things work between us for a while. We seemed to come to a rather amazing realization that when we argue we both share the same feelings, when we're both getting our feelings hurt.
That wasn't something I expected to happen, but still, I don't know if I will be able to handle it. I've been extremely emotionally hurt by this person before. Then again, I don't think they mean to do it.
Well, colour me a little bit stumped on that one. If you're not into the whole relationship deal, then it's not going to work. And there's a 90% chance that there isn't a fucking chance in hell that you can let her off gently without causing problems.That kind of mental instability can't be reasoned with. She's got her sights on you square and she's likely going to be blind to reason and logic.Honestly, I have a few ideas as to what you could do. But I doubt if they'd work. I'm sorry to say here, but I can't help. And I don't think there's any walking away from this cleanly.
Quote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:44:23 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:41:54 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.life's too short to get hung up on this kind of thing.If you want a relationship, pursue it.If you don't, make that clear.Playing along to not hurt someone's feelings is worse than just telling them.That's the thing though. That happened before. I couldn't tell them that I wasn't interested in them, so they felt like they were lead on. It's really fucking confusing for me, because I'd never had anything like this happen to me before. This is probably one of the most confusing things I have ever had to deal with. Also one of the most painful.
Quote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:47:00 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:44:23 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:41:54 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.life's too short to get hung up on this kind of thing.If you want a relationship, pursue it.If you don't, make that clear.Playing along to not hurt someone's feelings is worse than just telling them.That's the thing though. That happened before. I couldn't tell them that I wasn't interested in them, so they felt like they were lead on. It's really fucking confusing for me, because I'd never had anything like this happen to me before. This is probably one of the most confusing things I have ever had to deal with. Also one of the most painful.have you met this girl face to face yet?
Quote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:47:55 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:47:00 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:44:23 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:41:54 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.life's too short to get hung up on this kind of thing.If you want a relationship, pursue it.If you don't, make that clear.Playing along to not hurt someone's feelings is worse than just telling them.That's the thing though. That happened before. I couldn't tell them that I wasn't interested in them, so they felt like they were lead on. It's really fucking confusing for me, because I'd never had anything like this happen to me before. This is probably one of the most confusing things I have ever had to deal with. Also one of the most painful.have you met this girl face to face yet?No.
Quote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:39:39 PMQuote from: Epsira on October 24, 2015, 07:36:44 PMQuote from: Engrapadora on October 24, 2015, 07:32:54 PMTry bringing the conversation to really weird places every time she talks to you. If all you ever talk about is tentacle raping futa goo ponies or whatever, eventually she'll just stop messaging you.Unless she's really worth itOT:First thing's first, what do you want? Do you reciprocate?To be honest I just wish it could be over and I wish she could just go on being happy without me. If this means you want to cut off contact, then I'd just be honest, say "I'm not interested" and call it a day. I've done it before and it worked out.
QuoteI have tried to make things work between us for a while. We seemed to come to a rather amazing realization that when we argue we both share the same feelings, when we're both getting our feelings hurt. What do you argue about?
QuoteThat wasn't something I expected to happen, but still, I don't know if I will be able to handle it. I've been extremely emotionally hurt by this person before. Then again, I don't think they mean to do it.If you're comfortable enough talking to them, clarify boundaries on what's kosher to say and what isn't.
Quote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:49:41 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:47:55 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:47:00 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:44:23 PMQuote from: Loaf on October 24, 2015, 07:41:54 PMQuote from: DietrichSix on October 24, 2015, 07:41:11 PMWhatever you do, let Jim down easy. He's a sweetheart.Hahahahaha nice.life's too short to get hung up on this kind of thing.If you want a relationship, pursue it.If you don't, make that clear.Playing along to not hurt someone's feelings is worse than just telling them.That's the thing though. That happened before. I couldn't tell them that I wasn't interested in them, so they felt like they were lead on. It's really fucking confusing for me, because I'd never had anything like this happen to me before. This is probably one of the most confusing things I have ever had to deal with. Also one of the most painful.have you met this girl face to face yet?No.Yeah man, I would just end it.Dating crazy girls is no fun, no matter what you do it won't be good enough.
Nope. I'm sorry man. We're walking into some higher based psychological issues and other minefields that are way the fuck out of my league. Anything I say at this point would just makes thing worse. Sorry.
Quote from: Deadtrap on October 24, 2015, 07:59:03 PMNope. I'm sorry man. We're walking into some higher based psychological issues and other minefields that are way the fuck out of my league. Anything I say at this point would just makes thing worse. Sorry.I understand. I do have a psychologist, I will probably bring it up with them.