Anyone else find it hard to become emotionally attached?

gats · January 18, 2015, 05:55:26 PM

I've come to realize that I can’t get emotionally attached to people. I mean, I'm very sociable, talkative and can get along with most people, even though I'm also very introspective. I'm that kind of person that gets along with everybody. I don't have a problem making friends, people usually like me. The problem is, I can’t get emotionally attached in a deeper level, like in a relationship.

It makes me feel like a heartless prick. Here's one thing that really bothered me recently, my sister goes to university abroad and she had to leave recently because her classes started again. She hugged me and cried when she said bye to me but I felt nothing. I'm like this with everyone even my parents whom I love. I never miss people nor do I get upset if someone I know dies. I don't think living like this is very healthy, I want to feel emotional towards others it'd probably help with my mental state, even possibly make me happier.

Sigh, anyone care to discuss? Do you feel like this? Do you know what I can do? Yeahhhh....

A Cheese Potato · January 18, 2015, 05:56:41 PM

Yeah me too, except also I'm not sociable either haha

clum clum · January 18, 2015, 05:57:03 PM

I find it all too easy to get emotionally attached. It's one of my shortcomings. I get too attached to people.

I'm not sociable, either.

DAS B00T x2 · January 18, 2015, 05:58:39 PM

Sometimes... I think I try and stop myself on a subconscious level now.

Tyger · January 18, 2015, 06:00:42 PM

No I'm normal

gats · January 18, 2015, 06:01:28 PM

Quote from: Tyger on January 18, 2015, 06:00:42 PM

No I'm normal

From my point of view I'm normal and you're all weird.

Yu · January 18, 2015, 06:01:36 PM

No and yes, with people I can associate and can get along with, I actually get attached easily, but everyone else, I don't, I simply can't.

Super Irish · January 18, 2015, 06:01:57 PM

I get most of that, then there's the occasional someone that just breaks the mold, for reasons unknown.

Then it sucks when something happens, as then your emotionally invested. Although this may sound cold, I'd see being "detached" in your way beneficial. You are still aware the event is a sad one, but aren't as effected by it (well you may not have felt sad and teary, but you didn't feel cheerful and giggly at a funeral, did you?).

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Mad Max · January 18, 2015, 06:03:41 PM

I'm the opposite.

gats · January 18, 2015, 06:05:46 PM

Quote from: challengerX on January 18, 2015, 06:02:18 PM

Quote from: gooootsby on January 18, 2015, 06:01:28 PM
Quote from: Tyger on January 18, 2015, 06:00:42 PM
No I'm normal
From my point of view I'm normal and you're all weird.
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Quote from: Mad Max on January 18, 2015, 06:03:41 PM

I'm the opposite.

Do you think you're better off (in terms of happiness) since you can easily form emotionally attachments?

Epsira · January 18, 2015, 06:07:42 PM

I'm aware of something similar to this. I don't say "I love you" to anyone and in general I don't really have strong emotional attachment to anyone.
I don't want to sound presumptuous, but I'm aware my situation has factors originating from childhood. You might have experiences that conditioned you to shut people out.
Personally, I don't have an issue with it. I plan on living a solitary existence anyway.
I also don't have conventional views on the importance of family.

In my "love life" it's "worse." When I do start feeling affections for others I immediately shoot those sentiments down and distance myself from them until they dissipate. I don't desire a family of my own.

Mad Max · January 18, 2015, 06:08:12 PM

Quote from: gooootsby on January 18, 2015, 06:05:46 PM

Quote from: Mad Max on January 18, 2015, 06:03:41 PM
I'm the opposite.
Do you think you're better off (in terms of happiness) since you can easily form emotionally attachments?

My initial thought is "yes" but it certainly can be a hindrance sometimes, especially with the ladies.

gats · January 18, 2015, 06:12:51 PM

Quote from: Epsira on January 18, 2015, 06:07:42 PM

I'm aware of something similar to this. I don't say "I love you" to anyone and in general I don't really have strong emotional attachment to anyone.
I don't want to sound presumptuous, but I'm aware my situation has factors originating from childhood. You might have experiences that conditioned you to shut people out.
Personally, I don't have an issue with it. I plan on living a solitary existence anyway.
I also don't have conventional views on the importance of family.

In my "love life" it's "worse." When I do start feeling affections for others I immediately shoot those sentiments down and distance myself from them until they dissipate. I don't desire a family of my own.

In a way I do one day want a family of my own, my only worry is because of what I've said in the OP I'll be a terrible father and I'd rather not bring a child into this world if I'm not going to be a good dad.

Epsira · January 18, 2015, 06:15:13 PM

Quote from: gooootsby on January 18, 2015, 06:12:51 PM

Quote from: Epsira on January 18, 2015, 06:07:42 PM
I'm aware of something similar to this. I don't say "I love you" to anyone and in general I don't really have strong emotional attachment to anyone.
I don't want to sound presumptuous, but I'm aware my situation has factors originating from childhood. You might have experiences that conditioned you to shut people out.
Personally, I don't have an issue with it. I plan on living a solitary existence anyway.
I also don't have conventional views on the importance of family.

In my "love life" it's "worse." When I do start feeling affections for others I immediately shoot those sentiments down and distance myself from them until they dissipate. I don't desire a family of my own.
In a way I do one day want a family of my own, my only worry is because of what I've said in the OP I'll be a terrible father and I'd rather not bring a child into this world if I'm not going to be a good dad.

I'd say you being conscientious of your impact on others is a good start towards those things.

Ingy · January 18, 2015, 06:29:47 PM

I do too

That's why I attach myself to online forums

I only hope that my lack of attachment for things in real life means that when I do find something worth loving, it will be a great love

Forgewolf · January 18, 2015, 07:05:48 PM

Quote from: gooootsby on January 18, 2015, 05:55:26 PM

I never miss people nor do I get upset if someone I know dies. I don't think living like this is very healthy, I want to feel emotional towards

Essentially the same thing with me. I'm proud of it though, because I don't need attention from others in order to be content and happy. Anyone I know who can't be alone for even a day kind of bother me.

Risay117 · January 18, 2015, 07:06:48 PM

Hard for me to get attached and also easy for me to forget but most of all when i get attached it is hard for me to forget.

Ásgeirr · January 18, 2015, 07:07:02 PM

Yes

Though it depends

True Turquoise · January 18, 2015, 07:08:00 PM

The people I have become emotionally attached to is on an extreme level. But I don't do that a lot. It is hard.

Muffin Master · January 18, 2015, 07:15:31 PM

I don't get easily attached to people, and by now it's easy to just sever friendships and such if someone gives me bullshit. It may be a slightly more lonely way, but it filters out all the shit people and you can still know plenty of others. I'd like to open up to people easier but you learn not to do that once you've witnessed your fair share of dishonest people.

Korra · January 18, 2015, 07:16:39 PM

I get too attached with people I like.

Ushan · January 18, 2015, 07:16:58 PM

With people yes, with animals no.

Grapes · January 18, 2015, 07:18:49 PM

I get more emotionally attached to fictional characters more than real human beings... lol

Naoto · January 18, 2015, 07:19:14 PM

I get emotionally attached to a lot of things.

Spoiler

by my dick.

gats · January 18, 2015, 07:22:40 PM

Quote from: Jill Valentine on January 18, 2015, 07:16:39 PM

I get too attached with people I like.

That's good. Even to people I like I feel nothing. Not even my own mother, I'm ashamed.

Korra · January 18, 2015, 07:28:14 PM

Quote from: gooootsby on January 18, 2015, 07:22:40 PM

Quote from: Jill Valentine on January 18, 2015, 07:16:39 PM
I get too attached with people I like.
That's good, even to people I like feel nothing. Not even my own mother, I'm ashamed.

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Miia · January 18, 2015, 07:29:39 PM

It's funny, I have the exact opposite problem. I get attached WAAAAY too easily.

Hahahaha very funny Zonda · January 18, 2015, 07:43:45 PM

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