It's a small thing I've been asking myself, I never really had "good" friends, I moved before I got more close with them, hanging out and telling the funniest things. I hit a dead end with a "friend" I know several days ago, I don't know how I ended up with him and why I hung out with the guy. He got butthurt because 2 texts I sent him were me asking for help, and to top it off, he doesn't bother telling me his problems, but instead he goes to my lady friend who is in Texas (we're in AZ) than anybody who lives minutes away from him. Hell, he always listens to women which can get pretty annoying and I busted my ass trying to get him to attend college. What do I get? A message back from him saying why he listens to my lady friend for the most stupid shit saying "because she sends me nudes". What type of friend says that to someone who knows that they love that person?

He never bothered wanting to fix a broken relationship between a person I love and myself, all he did was just listen to her blindly and ignore me. What kind of fucking friend wants to move in with the person I love and not fucking tell me? Of course I'm gonna be pissed and of course I'm going to say no because she's mine and you have your own fucking house.

Honestly, I think of most friends as trash I can toss, I may not feel much emotion after just not giving a fuck about them. I can go a long time cutting off communication with people if I wanted to, yea, it may seem bad, but that's what I can do. Seriously, I have maybe a good 7 people I hang out with now, not including my so called "friend".

A friend is someone who understands you and wants to help you through good or worse, in my opinion. Someone who blindly listens to people without reason is just retarded, they must question it and resist the listening because they know it'll be bad for the other person they know.

What makes a friend?

/rant and discussion

I dunno really.

Ive got 4 really good friends (out of a 10 person 'group' of friends) that id take a bullet for. They would do the same.

Loyalty and obedience.

Friends are people you enjoy spending time with.

Best friends are practically family. You may harass one another on the surface, but when push comes to shove you'd take a bullet for them.

Obedience implies one is higher than the other.

Exactly.

I expect them to be obedient in situations when they're subordinate to me for whatever reason, and I return the favour. Of course, though, there's always a measure of loyalty in obedience.

Whatever though, we're getting into semantics and that's just a waste of time when we're basically saying the same thing.

Essentially >.>

Someone who wouldn't get mad at me over something stupid

Tough question, seeing as I don't have any friends in person anymore. I've got one in about a six hour proximity to me. But that's it. So, I guess the best I can do is use myself as an example.

I listen. Listen when they want to talk and I do more than that. I read between the lines and try to get them to talk when they're feeling down because I know how much talking helps.

I give advice when I can, if I can, I go over problems with them when they're having them. I jump in, no complaints or questions asked when they need help.

I've jumped into fights, jumped in my vehicle to pick people up or take them to the hospital, or just gave them a hand with moving shit.

I check up on them when I can and just try to make stuff better. And of course, there's fun too. Try to have fun and make things fun.

It seems to be a decent way of doing things. I've picked my friends wisely and I know how far I can trust them and how much I can ask of them.

Maybe it's not the best way of things because I admit that I care too much. I care too much and that comes back to bite me in the ass. But nobody can ever tell me that I sure as fuck wasn't a good friend and that I didn't try.

Tough question, seeing as I don't have any friends in person anymore. I've got one in about a six hour proximity to me. But that's it. So, I guess the best I can do is use myself as an example.

I listen. Listen when they want to talk and I do more than that. I read between the lines and try to get them to talk when they're feeling down because I know how much talking helps.

I give advice when I can, if I can, I go over problems with them when they're having them. I jump in, no complaints or questions asked when they need help.

I've jumped into fights, jumped in my vehicle to pick people up or take them to the hospital, or just gave them a hand with moving shit.

I check up on them when I can and just try to make stuff better. And of course, there's fun too. Try to have fun and make things fun.

It seems to be a decent way of doing things. I've picked my friends wisely and I know how far I can trust them and how much I can ask of them.

Maybe it's not the best way of things because I admit that I care too much. I care too much and that comes back to bite me in the ass. But nobody can ever tell me that I sure as fuck wasn't a good friend and that I didn't try.

How was your trip?