Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:24:42 PMQuote from: RC5908 on October 01, 2014, 05:23:24 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 03:23:22 PM Everyone hear is under the impression that because I have money I'm not allowed to not be happy. Literally no one thinks that.Read what everyone is saying. Somehow me having money somehow dictates everything I do and my demeanor.It sounds like a lot of people are claiming that because you have so much money that you should be happy. I'm not drowning in tears of sympathy for the unhappiness of someone whose car costs more than my college education, but my recommendation is to get involved in your community somehow. If you're religious, try volunteering at your church. Find a social group to become a part of. Find value outside of the typical rat race of work and school.
Quote from: RC5908 on October 01, 2014, 05:23:24 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 03:23:22 PM Everyone hear is under the impression that because I have money I'm not allowed to not be happy. Literally no one thinks that.Read what everyone is saying. Somehow me having money somehow dictates everything I do and my demeanor.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 03:23:22 PM Everyone hear is under the impression that because I have money I'm not allowed to not be happy. Literally no one thinks that.
Everyone hear is under the impression that because I have money I'm not allowed to not be happy.
I'm inclined to agree with Mr. P. here.Maybe I could be your new girlfriend?
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:23:22 PMQuote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 04:35:35 PMSo going from what I remember, you have a very nicely paying job and a bucketload of disposable income right?Money doesn't equal happiness, I know that saying is as tired and overused as any out there but it's true.And just as it doesn't equal happiness, you can't just buy altruism to make yourself feel good because that rarely works either. Actually doing things to help people is what might help break that wall, you don't have to blow money on everything but you (I assume) are in a position where you could easily spend time helping others. At least until you find the thing that you truly enjoy doing.That or this is just a passing spate of the blues over the grill >.>Why is it always assumed I don't help people with my time? Why?That is practically my hobby. Hell, it's all I do at school. I'm in a club at school that is entirely centered around leading retreats to help students in their issues. You ask anyone that genuinely knows me and they will agree, but somehow everyone jumps to the money thing. I didn't buy altruism, I didn't even think that something you can buy. But here I am, and no one ever gave me the benefit of the doubt. The reason why the girl I was talking about and I even started doing stuff was because I helped her for 2 years straight and sacrificed over and over again, time, and friends, for her well being and her happiness. Yet I'm just a rich pretentious prick who's living a false altruistic life.You tell me who's being fair.Look, you've clearly got a chip on your shoulder over the whole thing. Which is understandable enough, given how most people do assume that and think you are a lucky shit who should shut up and enjoy your money. But I'm wasn't assuming that you didn't, it was a suggestion for if you weren't already. If you are, then great, but that means that your problem lies elsewhere.And in this case, it's likely just the blues over the girl. It will pass in time and you'll either meet someone else or things might work out in your favour.
Quote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 04:35:35 PMSo going from what I remember, you have a very nicely paying job and a bucketload of disposable income right?Money doesn't equal happiness, I know that saying is as tired and overused as any out there but it's true.And just as it doesn't equal happiness, you can't just buy altruism to make yourself feel good because that rarely works either. Actually doing things to help people is what might help break that wall, you don't have to blow money on everything but you (I assume) are in a position where you could easily spend time helping others. At least until you find the thing that you truly enjoy doing.That or this is just a passing spate of the blues over the grill >.>Why is it always assumed I don't help people with my time? Why?That is practically my hobby. Hell, it's all I do at school. I'm in a club at school that is entirely centered around leading retreats to help students in their issues. You ask anyone that genuinely knows me and they will agree, but somehow everyone jumps to the money thing. I didn't buy altruism, I didn't even think that something you can buy. But here I am, and no one ever gave me the benefit of the doubt. The reason why the girl I was talking about and I even started doing stuff was because I helped her for 2 years straight and sacrificed over and over again, time, and friends, for her well being and her happiness. Yet I'm just a rich pretentious prick who's living a false altruistic life.You tell me who's being fair.
So going from what I remember, you have a very nicely paying job and a bucketload of disposable income right?Money doesn't equal happiness, I know that saying is as tired and overused as any out there but it's true.And just as it doesn't equal happiness, you can't just buy altruism to make yourself feel good because that rarely works either. Actually doing things to help people is what might help break that wall, you don't have to blow money on everything but you (I assume) are in a position where you could easily spend time helping others. At least until you find the thing that you truly enjoy doing.That or this is just a passing spate of the blues over the grill >.>
Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on October 01, 2014, 05:34:16 PMI'm inclined to agree with Mr. P. here.Maybe I could be your new girlfriend?You need a pick axe for that gold diggin m8?
I'm a little bothered by the similarity between BC's and RC's names.
Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on October 01, 2014, 05:34:16 PMI'm inclined to agree with Mr. P. here.Maybe I could be your new girlfriend?Depends, are you actually a girl? (Not serious)If you are,Bby cum get sum (srs)
Quote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 05:31:58 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:23:22 PMQuote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 04:35:35 PMSo going from what I remember, you have a very nicely paying job and a bucketload of disposable income right?Money doesn't equal happiness, I know that saying is as tired and overused as any out there but it's true.And just as it doesn't equal happiness, you can't just buy altruism to make yourself feel good because that rarely works either. Actually doing things to help people is what might help break that wall, you don't have to blow money on everything but you (I assume) are in a position where you could easily spend time helping others. At least until you find the thing that you truly enjoy doing.That or this is just a passing spate of the blues over the grill >.>Why is it always assumed I don't help people with my time? Why?That is practically my hobby. Hell, it's all I do at school. I'm in a club at school that is entirely centered around leading retreats to help students in their issues. You ask anyone that genuinely knows me and they will agree, but somehow everyone jumps to the money thing. I didn't buy altruism, I didn't even think that something you can buy. But here I am, and no one ever gave me the benefit of the doubt. The reason why the girl I was talking about and I even started doing stuff was because I helped her for 2 years straight and sacrificed over and over again, time, and friends, for her well being and her happiness. Yet I'm just a rich pretentious prick who's living a false altruistic life.You tell me who's being fair.Look, you've clearly got a chip on your shoulder over the whole thing. Which is understandable enough, given how most people do assume that and think you are a lucky shit who should shut up and enjoy your money. But I'm wasn't assuming that you didn't, it was a suggestion for if you weren't already. If you are, then great, but that means that your problem lies elsewhere.And in this case, it's likely just the blues over the girl. It will pass in time and you'll either meet someone else or things might work out in your favour.Sorry for lashing out then. It didn't know what I was saying wrong that was causing everyone to lash at me. I also added an entire paragraph to the OP explaining this is greater detail. And maybe your right, but I feel as if it's more, because everything pertaining to her just like goes to the back of my mind because all I really want for her is to be happy.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:36:27 PMQuote from: DAS B00T x2 on October 01, 2014, 05:34:16 PMI'm inclined to agree with Mr. P. here.Maybe I could be your new girlfriend?Depends, are you actually a girl? (Not serious)If you are,Bby cum get sum (srs)Honey, give me some makeup and I can be whatever you want.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:35:30 PMQuote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 05:31:58 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:23:22 PMQuote from: Mr Psychologist on October 01, 2014, 04:35:35 PMSo going from what I remember, you have a very nicely paying job and a bucketload of disposable income right?Money doesn't equal happiness, I know that saying is as tired and overused as any out there but it's true.And just as it doesn't equal happiness, you can't just buy altruism to make yourself feel good because that rarely works either. Actually doing things to help people is what might help break that wall, you don't have to blow money on everything but you (I assume) are in a position where you could easily spend time helping others. At least until you find the thing that you truly enjoy doing.That or this is just a passing spate of the blues over the grill >.>Why is it always assumed I don't help people with my time? Why?That is practically my hobby. Hell, it's all I do at school. I'm in a club at school that is entirely centered around leading retreats to help students in their issues. You ask anyone that genuinely knows me and they will agree, but somehow everyone jumps to the money thing. I didn't buy altruism, I didn't even think that something you can buy. But here I am, and no one ever gave me the benefit of the doubt. The reason why the girl I was talking about and I even started doing stuff was because I helped her for 2 years straight and sacrificed over and over again, time, and friends, for her well being and her happiness. Yet I'm just a rich pretentious prick who's living a false altruistic life.You tell me who's being fair.Look, you've clearly got a chip on your shoulder over the whole thing. Which is understandable enough, given how most people do assume that and think you are a lucky shit who should shut up and enjoy your money. But I'm wasn't assuming that you didn't, it was a suggestion for if you weren't already. If you are, then great, but that means that your problem lies elsewhere.And in this case, it's likely just the blues over the girl. It will pass in time and you'll either meet someone else or things might work out in your favour.Sorry for lashing out then. It didn't know what I was saying wrong that was causing everyone to lash at me. I also added an entire paragraph to the OP explaining this is greater detail. And maybe your right, but I feel as if it's more, because everything pertaining to her just like goes to the back of my mind because all I really want for her is to be happy.It's quite alright, but it really does sound like she is the problem. Well not in a negative way, but you know what I mean <.<Try to find a way to put it out of your mind, but these things always pass in time. If they don't... make a sitcom about it >.>
So here's the dealio:I just got engaged; been dating this girl for over five years. Just before I met this girl, there was another girl I was really into but didn't have the balls to ask out, even though I knew she'd say yes. Ended up following similar career paths and I'd see her almost daily, and the conflict of still feeling attracted to someone (and not just physical attraction) while being in a committed relationship is really hard.Just let her go. End your contact with her. She's poison to your soul, and you should move on.
Quote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 04:55:07 PMI'm gonna say it's probably a phase.To cope...maybe set goals for you to achieve? Stuff that you can do on your own, without any help. Things that'll take work to accomplish.*cough*
I'm gonna say it's probably a phase.To cope...maybe set goals for you to achieve? Stuff that you can do on your own, without any help. Things that'll take work to accomplish.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMSure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?*sigh*Yeah, I know this feeling all too well...
Sure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:54:16 PMQuote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:52:13 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMSure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?*sigh*Yeah, I know this feeling all too well...Then you know my struggle. Congrats on the engagement though!uhm...I think this comment is directed at the wrong person...
Quote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:52:13 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMSure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?*sigh*Yeah, I know this feeling all too well...Then you know my struggle. Congrats on the engagement though!
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 06:06:39 PMQuote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:55:12 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:54:16 PMQuote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:52:13 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMSure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?*sigh*Yeah, I know this feeling all too well...Then you know my struggle. Congrats on the engagement though!uhm...I think this comment is directed at the wrong person...Sorry! The engagement is for turkey hahaExcuse me while I go cry in that corner over there.
Quote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:55:12 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:54:16 PMQuote from: Nuka on October 01, 2014, 05:52:13 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMSure, I'd love to move on, but no one compares. You get me?*sigh*Yeah, I know this feeling all too well...Then you know my struggle. Congrats on the engagement though!uhm...I think this comment is directed at the wrong person...Sorry! The engagement is for turkey haha
The only reason why she doesn't want to date me aside from feeling that I'm better then her, is that I'm a few months younger (and yes, it is that stupid.) But it's not like she doesn't want to, she says and openly talks about how I make her happy and how I would be an amazing boyfriend, she just can't get over that fact. It's weird.
This is typical teenage stuff. Now look at it this way:You've got lots of wealth, a good family, a good education, a social life, and are decently attractive. When you are done with college or whatever you won't have crippling debts. You have 3x what most people have when they are 50. You'll probably see 90% more of the world then I'll see in my lifetime. You'll probably get the opportunity to do more then most in your lifetime.You've already got the survival part down. I dream of achieving what you have so that I can move on to my real passions. Don't take advantage of it. Challenge yourself. Find a passion. Help the world. Thats what I would do.Don't take anything I said as rude, you can have billions and be unhappy. Your problem is imagining closed doors. What you need to realize is in a couple years, the list of open doors you'll have is so much larger than most it's ridiculous.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 05:46:26 PMThe only reason why she doesn't want to date me aside from feeling that I'm better then her, is that I'm a few months younger (and yes, it is that stupid.) But it's not like she doesn't want to, she says and openly talks about how I make her happy and how I would be an amazing boyfriend, she just can't get over that fact. It's weird.This is code for "I don't like you for very much outside of sexual thrill".Right now you're an emotional dildo to her. Don't be an emotional dildo.
Maybe I'm just a stereotypical teenager going through that stage
I now have a serious problem with the OP. OP claims to just want people's opinions on the matter and claims to not be offended, and yet he's incredibly defensive about what people are saying - to the point of trying to correct them - and insistent on the irrelevance of his wealth despite being the only person to consistently bring it up. Conclusion: OP needs to screw his fracking head on straight and get on with his life.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 01, 2014, 12:33:05 PMMaybe I'm just a stereotypical teenager going through that stageGiven your age and what little I know about you, this honestly seems most likely. 17 is too young for an existential crisis, especially one triggered by a girl, and the kind of hormone imbalances that cause these excessive emotions are very common in teenagers. The way you described the girl as "absolutely perfect" in particular strongly points to it being typical teenage angst. Just try to keep doing what you've been doing and you should get over it.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 02, 2014, 01:15:17 PMQuote from: Meta Cognition on October 02, 2014, 12:09:33 PMI now have a serious problem with the OP. OP claims to just want people's opinions on the matter and claims to not be offended, and yet he's incredibly defensive about what people are saying - to the point of trying to correct them - and insistent on the irrelevance of his wealth despite being the only person to consistently bring it up. Conclusion: OP needs to screw his fracking head on straight and get on with his life.The topic has nothing to do with it, people bring it up. People who respond to the actual OP got an actual response from me.Your point? I'm just frustrated that people are quick to ignore everything I say and jump to it. This topic isn't even remotely about it.Then why make the title of the thread "Somehow I'm still unhappy". That implies that despite all your wealth and good fortune, you're still unhappy. You brought it up man.
Quote from: Meta Cognition on October 02, 2014, 12:09:33 PMI now have a serious problem with the OP. OP claims to just want people's opinions on the matter and claims to not be offended, and yet he's incredibly defensive about what people are saying - to the point of trying to correct them - and insistent on the irrelevance of his wealth despite being the only person to consistently bring it up. Conclusion: OP needs to screw his fracking head on straight and get on with his life.The topic has nothing to do with it, people bring it up. People who respond to the actual OP got an actual response from me.Your point? I'm just frustrated that people are quick to ignore everything I say and jump to it. This topic isn't even remotely about it.
Quote from: BC1096 on October 02, 2014, 03:33:58 PMQuote from: challengerX on October 02, 2014, 01:27:28 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 02, 2014, 01:15:17 PMQuote from: Meta Cognition on October 02, 2014, 12:09:33 PMI now have a serious problem with the OP. OP claims to just want people's opinions on the matter and claims to not be offended, and yet he's incredibly defensive about what people are saying - to the point of trying to correct them - and insistent on the irrelevance of his wealth despite being the only person to consistently bring it up. Conclusion: OP needs to screw his fracking head on straight and get on with his life.The topic has nothing to do with it, people bring it up. People who respond to the actual OP got an actual response from me.Your point? I'm just frustrated that people are quick to ignore everything I say and jump to it. This topic isn't even remotely about it.Then why make the title of the thread "Somehow I'm still unhappy". That implies that despite all your wealth and good fortune, you're still unhappy. You brought it up man.It implies nothing, I talk about how I have a good family and I'm not socially awkward and how I have a pretty good life, yet somehow im not happy. Where does wealth come into play...He's just making assumptions. It wasn't exactly implied.
Quote from: challengerX on October 02, 2014, 01:27:28 PMQuote from: BC1096 on October 02, 2014, 01:15:17 PMQuote from: Meta Cognition on October 02, 2014, 12:09:33 PMI now have a serious problem with the OP. OP claims to just want people's opinions on the matter and claims to not be offended, and yet he's incredibly defensive about what people are saying - to the point of trying to correct them - and insistent on the irrelevance of his wealth despite being the only person to consistently bring it up. Conclusion: OP needs to screw his fracking head on straight and get on with his life.The topic has nothing to do with it, people bring it up. People who respond to the actual OP got an actual response from me.Your point? I'm just frustrated that people are quick to ignore everything I say and jump to it. This topic isn't even remotely about it.Then why make the title of the thread "Somehow I'm still unhappy". That implies that despite all your wealth and good fortune, you're still unhappy. You brought it up man.It implies nothing, I talk about how I have a good family and I'm not socially awkward and how I have a pretty good life, yet somehow im not happy. Where does wealth come into play...
Somehow I am still unhappy
