I mean I wouldn't outright say gender doesn't exist. It does. Gender is a form of self expression, be it man/boy, woman/girl, androgynous, agender (meaning you just don't associate with gender at all), genderqueer/genderfluid, etc. I don't really think that anyone is 100% one gender and that humanity as a whole is a wide spectrum (purple blob) that fades to different colors all over. No one is 100% masculine or feminine, and if you say that you are, you're lying. But that doesn't mean gender doesn't exist if a man is emotional or a woman is a cold hearted badass killer (a la stupid gender sterotypes).
it exists as an idea, i'll concede to that
in the same way that, like,
laws exist.
they're complex cultural abstractions--
social constructs, if i dare use that term again
and all that really means is that gender is immaterial
but by saying it
doesn't exist, you're rejecting everything that makes the concept so pernicious and cumbersome
that's my intent, anyway