My eyes get watery when I walk past people in the street (social anxiety)

Big Boss · April 12, 2015, 09:03:49 PM

I've looked it up and I've got some results, turns out it looks like a form of social anxiety or something. Does anyone else experience this? When I'm walking and somebody is coming from the opposite direction my eyes always screw up and get a bit watery and it's annoying.

I also get a bit hot headed (literally) and don't know what to say when somebody stops me for a chat when I'm out.

Any tips of dealing with this would be great...

Hahahaha very funny Zonda · April 12, 2015, 09:13:16 PM

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Big Boss · April 12, 2015, 09:22:23 PM

Quote from: ねこ on April 12, 2015, 09:13:16 PM

Holy shiet that was me last year I would get hotheaded and nervous when someone would be coming at me from the opposite direction, It's when I realized that it was probably from being at my house the whole time with no one to talk to, so I started going outside with friends and do stuff It's gone already

It's weird because I'm rarely alone, I live with friends by uni. But when I'm out and get caught alone my head gets sweaty and I fumble my words...

Hahahaha very funny Zonda · April 12, 2015, 09:25:37 PM

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Super Irish · April 13, 2015, 06:29:39 AM

Holy shit, that's what that is?

I get it sometimes, and then it's annoying because I can't see comfortably and then people glance over, making it worse.

What a shitty defence mechanism.

Big Boss · April 13, 2015, 08:22:45 AM

Quote from: ねこ on April 12, 2015, 09:25:37 PM

Quote from: Big Boss on April 12, 2015, 09:22:23 PM
Quote from: ねこ on April 12, 2015, 09:13:16 PM
Holy shiet that was me last year I would get hotheaded and nervous when someone would be coming at me from the opposite direction, It's when I realized that it was probably from being at my house the whole time with no one to talk to, so I started going outside with friends and do stuff It's gone already

It's weird because I'm rarely alone, I live with friends by uni. But when I'm out and get caught alone my head gets sweaty and I fumble my words...
Ahh I see, the only thing I can say is maybe start working out? I'm saying this because it seems you have confidence but, only when you're with them.

Oh it's not even confidence, I can talk to people just fine usually, I really have no idea why it happens. Hell I aint even fat, I have a girlfriend and I work out. My brain just messes up alone.

Mat Cauthon · April 13, 2015, 08:34:04 AM

Quote from: SuperIrish on April 13, 2015, 06:29:39 AM

What a shitty defence mechanism.

"Hey me, it's your body, I know you feel threatened, so let me do something that would cause you to die if you were actually in mortal danger."

GG nature

Hahahaha very funny Zonda · April 13, 2015, 01:16:09 PM

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Raw Sugar · April 13, 2015, 01:20:26 PM

No. When I'm out, what ever I say to people is a repeat of what I always say.
"Hi how are you. I'm doing fine thank you. Blah blah blah. Have a nice day. See you around."

Ásgeirr · April 13, 2015, 02:23:59 PM

Ive always gotten nervous when im passing by people.

aREALgod · April 13, 2015, 02:27:29 PM

Have you ever thought it may be because you're walking into a breeze? The only times my eyes have ever watered like that is when there's a breeze in my direction while I'm walking and I'm trying to keep my eyes open.

rC · April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM

The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be

challengerX · April 13, 2015, 03:32:07 PM

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rC · April 13, 2015, 03:33:12 PM

Quote from: challengerX on April 13, 2015, 03:32:07 PM

Quote from: ARSE5908 on April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM
The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be
I feel like this post is sexual somehow

It might as well be. Like, the more you fuck women, the less uncomfortable you'll be doing it. You definitely won't come to like it, but it'll get easier to bear over time.

gats · April 13, 2015, 03:50:31 PM

Quote from: ARSE5908 on April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM

The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be

^this is pretty much the best way to help yourself in any situation that gives you anxiety.

Ásgeirr · April 13, 2015, 04:07:06 PM

Quote from: gats on April 13, 2015, 03:50:31 PM

Quote from: ARSE5908 on April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM
The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be

^this is pretty much the best way to help yourself in any situation that gives you anxiety.

It really depends

The Lord Slide Rule · April 13, 2015, 04:14:38 PM

You sure it's not just because they don't know what a shower is?

PSU · April 13, 2015, 09:02:16 PM

Quote from: gats on April 13, 2015, 03:50:31 PM

Quote from: ARSE5908 on April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM
The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be

^this is pretty much the best way to help yourself in any situation that gives you anxiety.

This.

I had, and still kind of do have, anxiety. I still won't let anyone else drive me in a car. But I just forced myself to talk to people and I forced myself into uncomfortable situations.

Casper · April 13, 2015, 11:11:54 PM

My eyes don't water, but I have the hardest time making eye contact with people.

Mat Cauthon · April 14, 2015, 02:48:40 AM

Quote from: gats on April 13, 2015, 03:50:31 PM

Quote from: ARSE5908 on April 13, 2015, 03:11:49 PM
The more you put yourself into an uncomfortable situation, the less uncomfortable it'll be

^this is pretty much the best way to help yourself in any situation that gives you anxiety.

Like Oss said, it depends on the person.
Doing that will either help them a lot or cripple them further.

Mr. Psychologist · April 14, 2015, 04:06:00 AM

Hmm, well there have already been some very good points made ITT so there isn't much point repeating them here, what I could suggest is a way to try working around it.

As has been pointed out by Byrne/Oss, it depends on the person but from what it sounds like you should be fine to go ahead with exposing yourself to the situations to build up a tolerance.

If you get a friend who you trust to help you with this it should work without too much trouble. So you pick a street to walk down, with your friend and just walk up and down it a few times, a busier one is better but not quite a city centre chaos one >.>

Then you have your friend walk behind you at some distance in greater increments to see whether the eye watering/anxiety onsets and at what point it does >.>
That way you have a friend nearby to reassure you but you should still be getting used to the walking solo without said anxiety onsetting >.>

Magos Domina · April 14, 2015, 04:19:02 AM

You do not have Social Anxiety.

Forgewolf · April 14, 2015, 09:28:01 AM

My eyes get watery just thinking that my eyes are watery

Word Wizard · April 14, 2015, 10:13:06 AM

Quote from: Forgewolf on April 14, 2015, 09:28:01 AM

My eyes get watery just thinking that my eyes are watery

My panties get watery just thinking of you.

challengerX · April 14, 2015, 11:06:50 AM

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Forgewolf · April 15, 2015, 12:18:29 AM

Quote from: Sly Instinct on April 14, 2015, 10:13:06 AM

Quote from: Forgewolf on April 14, 2015, 09:28:01 AM
My eyes get watery just thinking that my eyes are watery
My panties get watery just thinking of you.

Pics or it didn't happen bitch