Is chivalry dead?

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:43:36 PM

Story time!

Alright, so today while I was eating lunch in one of my college's diners before my afternoon class, I saw a pretty girl sitting alone. After contemplating if I should or shouldn't sit next to her for like five minutes, I decided to go for it. So, after sitting down with her and engaging in some small talk, she said that she had to go to class. What did I do? I tried to be nice and grab her garbage to throw away for her, but she snatched it away and said, "Don't worry, I'm not gonna have sex with you." What the fuck?

Why is it that in this day and age, being friendly and acting like a gentleman towards a girl you've just met is considered a bad thing? I feel that girls see a guy doing this and instantly believe that they're just trying to get in their pants, which is definitely not the case all the time, especially in my situation.

What do y'all think? Is chivalry dead/dying?

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Risay117 · September 30, 2014, 06:47:10 PM

I do not know why, but if you try to be nice to people they think you want something from them. True i have some fucked up thoughts, but fuck i will not bang any girl i find on the street. I prefer to get to know them before i figure if i like her or not. Still not planning on dating till moving out, or something happens before that.

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:47:34 PM

Quote from: Lady Noelle on September 30, 2014, 06:45:26 PM

Do not worry OP, I am not going to have sex with you.

but I never...

ah fuck it

cxfhvxgkcf-56:7 · September 30, 2014, 06:47:50 PM

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Assassin 11D7 · September 30, 2014, 06:48:16 PM

We don't have many Knights left fighting each other as far as I know, so yeah it would be more or less.

Wait, we aren't talking about killing each other honorably? nvm

Spoiler

Blame our shitty society for establishing such expectations.

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:49:21 PM

Quote from: Risay117 on September 30, 2014, 06:47:10 PM

I do not know why, but if you try to be nice to people they think you want something from them. True i have some fucked up thoughts, but fuck i will not bang any girl i find on the street. I prefer to get to know them before i figure if i like her or not. Still not planning on dating till moving out, or something happens before that.

This is pretty much how I am. I'm not a fan of one night stands or meaningless sex with strangers, I actually enjoy getting to know girls to see if I could possibly date them.

Has this strategy worked so far? Nope, considering the fact that I've never been in a committed relationship, but I gotta stay patient.

Septy · September 30, 2014, 06:49:27 PM

Why would you make this thread OP. I'm not going to have sex with you

Mr. Psychologist · September 30, 2014, 06:49:31 PM

I was going to make some fadora/supreme gentlemen jokes but ehhhh

Just try not to shoot up your college over this Mmkay?

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:50:09 PM

Quote from: Nuka on September 30, 2014, 06:48:34 PM

Yes, it's dead. It was a stupid concept anyways.

Why do you think it's stupid?

DAS B00T x2 · September 30, 2014, 06:50:17 PM

In the old sense, yes. Just being polite to folks shouldn't be forgotten though, and shouldn't be seen as an attempt to court someone.

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DAS B00T x2 · September 30, 2014, 06:51:17 PM

Quote from: Officer Nasty on September 30, 2014, 06:50:09 PM

Quote from: Nuka on September 30, 2014, 06:48:34 PM
Yes, it's dead. It was a stupid concept anyways.
Why do you think it's stupid?

There was the whole "placing women on a pedestal and doing everything for them because they're unable/too delicate to do it themselves" thing...

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:52:06 PM

Quote from: Septy on September 30, 2014, 06:49:27 PM

Why would you make this thread OP. I'm not going to have sex with you

cum on bby i kno u wan sum of dis dick

Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 06:54:11 PM

Quote from: Mr Psychologist on September 30, 2014, 06:49:31 PM

I was going to make some fadora/supreme gentlemen jokes but ehhhh

Just try not to shoot up your college over this Mmkay?

i would never do such a thing

Septy · September 30, 2014, 06:54:48 PM

Quote from: Officer Nasty on September 30, 2014, 06:52:06 PM

Quote from: Septy on September 30, 2014, 06:49:27 PM
Why would you make this thread OP. I'm not going to have sex with you
cum on bby i kno u wan sum of dis dick

And now you want me to cum on babies

challengerX · September 30, 2014, 06:54:48 PM

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Dopameme · September 30, 2014, 07:01:03 PM

Quote from: Nuka on September 30, 2014, 06:53:17 PM

Quote from: Officer Nasty on September 30, 2014, 06:50:09 PM
Quote from: Nuka on September 30, 2014, 06:48:34 PM
Yes, it's dead. It was a stupid concept anyways.
Why do you think it's stupid?
Gender roles blah blah blah.
In this day and age, women want to feel independent and that they can do things on their own without being treated like they need a man's help every step of the way.

I'd understand if it was something more serious than simply taking garbage out for them. I do the same thing with my guy friends because I'm a nice guy and I like doing things for people.

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Before you go off complaining about me saying this, why do you think men try to be "chivalrous" in the first place anyway?

Honestly, it's completely true that for a lot of women, guys are only nice with them if they want to sleep with them.

While it's true that I only sat with this girl in the first place because I thought she was attractive, I was genuinely interested in talking and getting to know her. Girls shouldn't just automatically assume that guys only want their poon when they talk and be polite to them, just like how guys shouldn't assume that girls are sluts by the way they dress.

Septy · September 30, 2014, 07:04:11 PM

Nasty did everyone stop and look at you when she blurted that out?

Mad Max · September 30, 2014, 07:18:32 PM

Well, being that she is a pretty girl, she probably assumed that you wanted to fuck her, just like a lot of other people that give her attention. I give her credit for being open with you, though.

PSU · September 30, 2014, 08:06:11 PM

Yep and bitches killed it.

CIS · September 30, 2014, 11:27:18 PM

What is it with you and this whole fantasy of being in college and having friends? We all know your life is like this

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Mega Sceptile · October 01, 2014, 12:01:49 AM

Chivalry died when women wanted equality.

TB · October 01, 2014, 12:54:34 AM

:L it's not just chivalry man. Being generally nice is dying out. Everywhere I go people are mean to each other and just don't do nice things. Finding a nice person is lucky in this day and age.

Super Irish · October 01, 2014, 02:45:27 AM

Didn't you get the memo? Chivalry was outdated, it got replaced with cynicism and "city people". (You know, the ones who if you say hello would react like you've just dropped your pants and shat on the floor).

Then again, it might be just the country and it's norms. Whenever I go back to my home country, I notice everyone's a bit more social and easy-going. You're way more likely for a random stranger to drop by and have a conversation.

Death · October 01, 2014, 02:46:05 AM

It died when all of this feminazi stuff emerged...

Bright Wind Eternal Stars · October 01, 2014, 03:33:09 AM

I am generally just nice to people regardless of sex or attractiveness. I hold doors, offer to help bus tables, help people carry stuff if need be at a restaurant, try to get water for dogs especially if they are service animals, and so on. Sure if the girl is pretty and we connected I will be be extra nice and attentive, but that is beacause I want to get to know her better not get in her pants. Perhaps since I am more handsome than most guys my age (what others have reported not my opinion) I have some sort of privilege just like prettier woman do and can get away with more than the average guy,

Isara · October 01, 2014, 04:24:12 AM

Personally, it would annoy me when someone that I just met tried to be full of chivalry. I wouldn't mind a male friend, or someone that I know, but when it's a total stranger I just had a small talk with... It's like yelling "I have an interest in you, yet I don't know you at all!" and certain days you just don't want to hear any of that.