I am most likely an alcoholic

Busta Nut · January 08, 2017, 03:41:40 AM

I've find found that since I've been able to drink that my happiness has been found in a bottle. I don't know how to rectify this. Any advice?

Jive Turkey · January 08, 2017, 04:10:52 AM

Tough one.

My good friend is an alcoholic. I actually got him sober for a good month and a half by getting him invested in exercise/bodybuilding. Drinking would hamper his progress and his workouts would suffer. So he was forced to stop drinking if he wanted to keep up with me. do you exercise?

Azumarill · January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM

Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

You need to learn to enjoy alcohol in moderation, OP. South Park actually tackled this one pretty well, racism aside- you need to be mindful & disciplined.

More Than Mortal · January 08, 2017, 09:53:08 AM

I'm in the same boat, to be honest, although it's not limited to alcohol.

I don't have the first idea how to rectify it, really.

Desty · January 08, 2017, 10:30:00 AM

I was addicted to sugar. I didn't eat sugar to be happy though, I ate it to stop feeling bad. I got out of it by not having access to it and by distracting myself with other things.

If it's happiness you seek, then it'd seem to me that you haven't found a reason to live. For that I can't help you 100%, but I can pull out a list of things you might want to dedicate your life to, but in the end it's usually the things you've already gotten yourself into that you care about more.

If you haven't found that one thing, then I honestly can't blame you for going to alcohol, because why not? There's no reason not to. You might feel bad because of the alcohol, but if you stop things are just gonna be stagnant, and it's better to live between bliss and suffering than nothing.

I've found that the more normie your interests are the happier you get. There's a reason so many people do certain things, and that's because it satisfies basic needs.

Desty · January 08, 2017, 10:32:01 AM

My reason to live? I like martial arts, and talking shit. I also really like people, because it's fun understanding them. It's like reading books, but things are much more realistic. I guess I get my happiness and my highs from the above, and when I'm sick of people I turn to martial arts.

The thing about fighting is that it's one of the most basic things any creature can do. If you play football, it can break into a fight, but a fight can't break into a fight. If you've got 5 apples, and I want them, I can try to convince you, steal them, or buy them from you, but you can decline all of these. If I were to forcefully take them, you wouldn't be able to decline.

Elai · January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM

Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM

Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week

DAS B00T x2 · January 08, 2017, 11:36:08 AM

Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM

Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week

You could trade those cigs in on a box mod and chuck some sick clouds, bro, and be totally like, more healthy.

Elai · January 08, 2017, 11:49:32 AM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 08, 2017, 11:36:08 AM

Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM
Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week
You could trade those cigs in on a box mod and chuck some sick clouds, bro, and be totally like, more healthy.

sometimes i just have no idea what youre saying

Azumarill · January 08, 2017, 01:21:12 PM

Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM

Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week

working out? sure. i was warning against the suggestion that he get invested in bodybuilding.

Azumarill · January 08, 2017, 01:28:57 PM

Quote from: Desty on January 08, 2017, 10:32:01 AM

If I were to forcefully take them, you wouldn't be able to decline.

your "victim" could just hit you in the back of the head with a rock once you start walking away you know. or shoot you. or stab you. or taze you

Turkey · January 08, 2017, 01:32:27 PM

Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM

Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

That's legitimately how addiction is treated, though. Quitting chemical addictions cold-turkey can sometimes be fatal (and is very often unsuccessful), so a lot of rehab programs first attempt to substitute the fatal addiction for a more beneficial one. Working out is pretty common. A new response to stressors is the key.

Edit: Oh, you meant bodybuilding, like potentially unhealthy weight loss and such (I presume).

i am karjala takaisin · January 08, 2017, 01:40:45 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 08, 2017, 11:36:08 AM

Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM
Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week
You could trade those cigs in on a box mod and chuck some sick clouds, bro, and be totally like, more healthy.

he's saying you gotta vápe your problems away broseidon

DAS B00T x2 · January 08, 2017, 01:57:06 PM

Quote from: halo3 recon for sale on January 08, 2017, 01:40:45 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 08, 2017, 11:36:08 AM
Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM
Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week
You could trade those cigs in on a box mod and chuck some sick clouds, bro, and be totally like, more healthy.
he's saying you gotta vápe your problems away broseidon

Yo he gets it. VAPE NATION brah

Desty · January 08, 2017, 02:06:22 PM

Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 01:28:57 PM

Quote from: Desty on January 08, 2017, 10:32:01 AM
If I were to forcefully take them, you wouldn't be able to decline.
your "victim" could just hit you in the back of the head with a rock once you start walking away you know. or shoot you. or stab you. or taze you

Yeah, then they'd be the one who forcefully takes back what they want. If I'm not coming out on top in every fight then obviously I'll lose.

Desty · January 08, 2017, 02:13:31 PM

but if the other person acts up, and a fight happens, then in a real bare handed fight, destroying your opponent is the sign of victory.

Martial arts is actually about tricks, so faking defeat is a solid move to get an advantage over a stronger opponent.

R o c k e t · January 09, 2017, 12:34:38 AM

Quote from: Desty on January 08, 2017, 10:32:01 AM

but a fight can't break into a fight.

Friends of the people fighting can start fighting each other.

R o c k e t · January 09, 2017, 12:35:28 AM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 08, 2017, 01:57:06 PM

Quote from: halo3 recon for sale on January 08, 2017, 01:40:45 PM
Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 08, 2017, 11:36:08 AM
Quote from: Eli on January 08, 2017, 11:02:51 AM
Quote from: Azumarill on January 08, 2017, 04:32:11 AM
Jive's suggestion trades one addiction for another, truth be told.

you say that like the two addictions are equally harmful

id trade my addiction to cigarettes for working out any day of the week
You could trade those cigs in on a box mod and chuck some sick clouds, bro, and be totally like, more healthy.
he's saying you gotta vápe your problems away broseidon
Yo he gets it. VAPE NATION brah

WE
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IT
YOU
VAPE

Desty · January 09, 2017, 01:50:02 AM

Quote from: R o c k e t on January 09, 2017, 12:34:38 AM

Quote from: Desty on January 08, 2017, 10:32:01 AM
but a fight can't break into a fight.

Friends of the people fighting can start fighting each other.

Those friends are a variable. They're not a part of the actual fighting, and sometimes there isn't anyone watching.

Sαndtrap · January 09, 2017, 01:36:19 PM

Don't know if what I'll post is beneficial. It's a double edged sword somewhat.

You get stuck on "finding" happy in every waking moment like a broken record. Then you're unhappy because you can't find it. The only advice I can give is what's pulled me along up to this point.

Nevermind happy. Nevermind misery. Focus on a task. Occupy your mind with things of importance in your life, occupy your time with actions towards these important things. Keep moving, keep focusing. You don't dwell on misery when your mind is focused on something important like a task or a list of them.

I'd say get your head out of the bottle first but that's hard to do when you don't have anything to look forward to. So instead, find something else to occupy your mind and your time other than the bottle.

Korra · January 09, 2017, 04:32:33 PM

Start with drinking beverages that contain less alcohol in them, in other words downgrade. Continue until you hit water bottles.

To be honest, I have no idea.

Ushan · January 10, 2017, 12:33:40 AM

What's your poison?

rC · January 10, 2017, 08:49:22 AM

Dude get some strawberry sunkist. It tastes just as bad as a four loko, you'll be set.