I've been blessed to have only experienced close deaths recently. The kind of thing that would devastate a younger me really had no impact when it came. I attribute it to years of desensitization through the internet and video games. I feel bad about it sometimes. I'm a cold dude, and not in the positive sense.So it's hard for me to sympathize with the losses others experience. I really want to, but it's alien to me at this point.
I sort of have to be by myself. When I'm around others we obviously talked about the good times, laughed sadly, etc.But a lot of times I'm alone. Or confide to my significant other. At least when I had one. Best friend also is nice. Basically, I actually just kind of get away from the family and talk to an outside party since they're not as affected by it and have a cooler head. That calmness soothes me.Edit: And for what it's worth, I'm sorry you're going through pain like that. It's never fun.
I've been around a fair number of people who've gone up and died. Some were family, others were close friends. Some where people I knew on a regular basis. I cried for a time and continued about with what I had to do. I can understand the empty feeling that never quite leaves you in their absence. Some people have that effect on you. But then I realize that I don't have to dwell on thier absence alone. I've got the memories of time spent with them.In some situations, some days, I'd ask myself, "what would this person do or say?" I know them well enough to remember their mannerisms and personality. I imagine what they would do at the present moment alongside me. It gives me some measure of comfort and humor.
No idea, no one I actually cared for in my family has died at the moment. Grandma, I don't talk to her really, uncle, well I don't care really (just his life before and hidden details from his son), and a brain dead cousin, all died from what I remember. I can't really sympathize with what you're dealing with, but I never really felt sad for those deaths. All I said was, well, its bound to happen and we can only just remember them for the good they've caused.
Eh. I sort of realised/ accepted a long time ago that everything dies at some point, and there's no point crying over it because its waste of time and it won't change anything.It sucks, but I'm not going to let something like that affect how I live my life even for a day. I know, at least, anyone close enough for me to care about would expect me to be able to get on with business.
Quote from: Naru on September 19, 2016, 01:16:47 AMNo idea, no one I actually cared for in my family has died at the moment. Grandma, I don't talk to her really, uncle, well I don't care really (just his life before and hidden details from his son), and a brain dead cousin, all died from what I remember. I can't really sympathize with what you're dealing with, but I never really felt sad for those deaths. All I said was, well, its bound to happen and we can only just remember them for the good they've caused.Jeez. We have some non sympathetic people here. Then yet again this is Sep7agon...
Quote from: Decimator Omega on September 19, 2016, 02:26:32 AMQuote from: Naru on September 19, 2016, 01:16:47 AMNo idea, no one I actually cared for in my family has died at the moment. Grandma, I don't talk to her really, uncle, well I don't care really (just his life before and hidden details from his son), and a brain dead cousin, all died from what I remember. I can't really sympathize with what you're dealing with, but I never really felt sad for those deaths. All I said was, well, its bound to happen and we can only just remember them for the good they've caused.Jeez. We have some non sympathetic people here. Then yet again this is Sep7agon...like i said, no one i deeply cared about has died. i really cant be sad for someone ive never had a connection with, like you did with your loved one, so its hard to imagine
Death in the family...
