U need to fall in love with someone else

You’re not over her because your brain is being reminded of her and you were never REALLY over her, just got her out of your head enough. Reminded through dreams/friends/imagination

i just don't think that's true. i've been with other girls romantically and felt some spark (not true love or anything but definitely romantic feelings), i haven't just been "sleeping around" in an attempt to get over her. there's actually a girl at work i'm talking to right now and if i was as naive as i used to be about women i'd probably be head over heels for her. i do feel like i'm over her. like i said to challenger, i've seen pics/videos of her on instagram and stuff and remember genuinely thinking to myself "Wow, I feel nothing. That's awesome."

i really tried to get her out of my head but like i said my friend group is kinda involved with her so it was more difficult than it could have been. i had to just focus on other things and i felt like i genuinely came to the point where i'm no longer into her. 29/30 days of the month i feel nothing. one bad dream flashback and it's like K.O. for a day or two.

Contact her if you’d like, nothing wrong with that. But prepare for the worst if you’re gonna do that, just so you don’t feel like you’re back in the same place because you can never really move backwards. Would be interesting to interact with eachother after 2 years, and manage things differently thanks to your new confidence/skills/mentality.

what's the worst case scenario?

No, you did ask for it, implicitly, by posting your drawing and moreover calling it funky. Look, I'm not saying that your drawing is bad (because it isn`t), it just left hand seems weird for me. It`s sketch anyway, sketches are meant to be redrawn and redrawn again.

it is a bad drawing actually, like most of my experimental stuff, and no, i didn't ask for it. i called it funky because i was playing with the proportions and posing, getting a little goofy, and it shows. most of us don't post here for criticism (at least, i don't, unless i specifically ask for it from like aria or aether), it's more to document our progression as artists. there are a lot of other places i use for criticism that go beyond exceptionally obvious things like "the hands look weird lol." you completely missed the point of the exercise.

i completely understand why people dont want the n word used. it makes sense to me -- it has a history of prejudice and suffering -- i get it. what i don't understand is why black people are okay with other black people using it. that shit boggles my mind. either it's so bad that no one can use it, or there are certain contexts where its okay.

i know thats not really the point here, but it felt somewhat appropriate.

I haven't had any heartbreaks recently to complain about, and it's been two years since my last one. Usually, I feel fine, able to talk/be with other girls no problem, picture myself with them, etc. and I don't really even consider my last relationship most days. But every once in awhile, I'll get a flashback that puts me right back into the position I used to be during or right after the events of the breakup. Could be a face I associate with that time or a bad dream, doesn't matter. When the feelings resurface though I end up being thrown back into this pit of self-loathing that I've spent 2 years climbing out of for a couple of days at a time.

I ask because I don't want to lose that time, nor do I want to have a crippling weakness like that. So, what's the healthiest way to deal with it? I think 2 years away from her and that situation and other romantic interests/new hobbies and goals are things I've already exhausted (and they were helpful, but not obviously 100% effective), so maybe try to get some sort of closure by talking to her? Or am I just telling myself that in an attempt to see her again.

It's worth noting that with previous relationships, I've been able to completely sever ties with the person and that's been effective, but that's not really feasible with this one. I have good friends that are close to her situation so she's always bound to come up in conversation casually.

If the answer is just to soldier on and deal with it, that's fine, but psychologically I don't want this baggage with me all the time and I just don't think that's the best option.

I realise what kind of position I put myself in with a thread like this but I figured if even one person has something insightful to say it'd probably be worth it.

Quote from: Eli on May 26, 2018, 07:07:38 AM

how is battle royale killing gaming holy shit its just a game mode

imagine thinking that capture the flag was killing the industry

wave based survival modes are killing gaming

how about developers forgetting what medium they work for and continually make interactive films are whats killing gaming

how is battle royale killing gaming holy shit its just a game mode

imagine thinking that capture the flag was killing the industry

You've never once told me that.

Quote from: Eli on May 25, 2018, 09:20:03 PM

Withholding the Halo 3 1v1 is also for pussies.

Having no life outside of an internet forum is also for pussies.

I was busy.

Fuck the bullshit, repost the Halo 3 1v1, I never got to see it.

Withholding the Halo 3 1v1 is also for pussies.

I imagine we probably won't make it that long.

It's pretty poetic how he told someone to "get cancer and die" and then proceeded to get cancer and die.

man you are just something else

You wanted me to say Han Soylo?

No, what I want is for you to die.

Quote from: Eli on May 24, 2018, 12:47:45 PM

Quote from: challengerX on May 24, 2018, 12:41:40 PM

It's all pretty much the same when it comes to America. If you're white you're white, you're not 1% this 7% that you're just a white American. Obviously you're not all from the same countries but it doesn't really matter in America. A white American is pretty much anybody whose ancestors were European. You're missing the point of my post intentionally and I'm not sure why.

Oh, okay. Yeah, it's not really like that here. That's why I was asking. There's a huge difference in general behaviour and culture from people who's ancestors were from the United Kingdom or Germany, and say, Italy or Spain. So despite the fact that they all have white skin, they don't really posses many similarities beyond that. It just doesn't make sense to clump a bunch of people together like that.

Yeah America isn't like that.

Why is America like that, then?

Quote from: Eli on May 24, 2018, 10:38:46 AM

Quote from: challengerX on May 24, 2018, 09:31:07 AM

YouTube

4:42

The absolute state of white people. Stop kowtowing to the blacks. Represent your race and your background with some fucking pride and stop listening to their garbage music. You don't owe them shit and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

what race are white people to you

What do you mean?

Well you're saying "white people" need to represent their race with pride... but "white people" aren't really a race to me, so I'm asking you what race white people are to you.

Yeah, that dance is dope