Why is being a virgin socially unacceptable?

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Also, why do people think that waiting until marriage is ridiculous? Don't you want to be able to say that you were the only one who has fucked your spouse and that no else has ever touched them, and vice versa? Isn't that something special? Something to be proud of? And don't give me all that, "Well it's boring. I need some variety." bullshit. If your sex life with your spouse is boring well than that's your fault.
Your sex life would be boring because you'd suck due to no experience.
A lot of marriages end because they're either sexually incompatible or just flat out suck dick in bed, y'know.

So yes, reserving yourself until you're married is ridiculous.

Marrying or divorcing someone based on sexual performance is ridiculous.
Sexual compatibility is extremely important

Define "sexual compatibility".
>compatible libidos
>willingness to satisfy each other sexually
>sexual attraction towards each other
>accepting of fetishes, kinks, boundaries, etc.

These are things you have to find out before marriage. Sex is an important part of a relationship. That doesn't mean you have to have sex all the time. Some people don't like sex as much as others, that's fine, but if you have a low libido or NO libido and you're with someone who loves sex and wants it frequently, you WILL have problems.
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>compatible libidos
>willingness to satisfy each other sexually
>sexual attraction towards each other
>accepting of fetishes, kinks, boundaries, etc.
None of these things are things that cannot be fixed after marriage. It all comes down to initiative that a couple has to work out their sexual relationship.
I would like you to ask an asexual if they think they can change.

People do not change like that. It doesn't happen. To think it does is stupid and naive.
I said fix, not change. That suggests other ways to solve the problem. You can work your way around sexual incompatibility. It is a stumbling block, but not something that cannot be solved. Like I said, It all depends on the initiative of the couple.
Please, enlighten me with your vast wisdom
You don't have to come off as an arrogant prick. You're making this discussion unpleasant. If you would please enlighten me more on why you disagree without insults or asshatery, this would be a much more educational experience for both sides.
I said you cannot change sexual compatibility. You said you can "fix" it and you did not say how. I want you to tell me how you can "fix" sexual incompatibility.
You can work around it. It is not such a far fetched concept. I keep saying it all comes down to the communication and initiative of the couple but it really doesn't seem like you're reading what I'm saying. Yes, it's a big problem with a lot of relationships, but it can be fixed through communication between partners and so on and so forth. This falls into what I've been saying about people getting to know their spouses and themselves after their marriage rather than before.
In some cases yes, sexual frustrations can be worked out through communication. Often, actually. But what I am talking about is INCOMPATIBILITY. If your wife refuses to go down on you even though you do it for her when she asks, that is uncool and should be talked about. Sometimes it can be solved. I am not denying that, but when someone simply does not enjoy sex as much as you do, you are incompatible and it cannot be fixed or worked around because they will always see it as a chore and not enjoyable.
What I have been referring to this whole time is sexual incompatibility. What is your point?
Sexual incompatibility is a fixed thing. It cannot be changed, worked around or ignored.

End of story.
That's your opinion. I think it's an incorrect opinion as many people have worked around, and may even ignored sexual incompatibility. If you don't believe me, you can just look it up. Sexual incompatibility is a very common and major issue in marriage, but I think it is not as you describe. I don't know if you are speaking from personal experience or just assumptions, but either way, what I have read up on says otherwise. I'm not even sure you entirely understand what sexual incompatibility is at this point, but okay. You've shown your stance on the subject.
Sexual incompatibility is exactly what I described and I'm correct. You are wrong. This isn't just my opinion.
Please, describe it to me again, and if you are correct in what it is, then why would you say there is no way to get around it when so many people have?

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The only "getting around it" depends on how much you put up with doing something you don't like. If that's what your marriage is, then good fucking luck, because you wont make it.


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Also, why do people think that waiting until marriage is ridiculous? Don't you want to be able to say that you were the only one who has fucked your spouse and that no else has ever touched them, and vice versa? Isn't that something special? Something to be proud of? And don't give me all that, "Well it's boring. I need some variety." bullshit. If your sex life with your spouse is boring well than that's your fault.
Your sex life would be boring because you'd suck due to no experience.
A lot of marriages end because they're either sexually incompatible or just flat out suck dick in bed, y'know.

So yes, reserving yourself until you're married is ridiculous.

Marrying or divorcing someone based on sexual performance is ridiculous.
Sexual compatibility is extremely important

Define "sexual compatibility".
>compatible libidos
>willingness to satisfy each other sexually
>sexual attraction towards each other
>accepting of fetishes, kinks, boundaries, etc.

These are things you have to find out before marriage. Sex is an important part of a relationship. That doesn't mean you have to have sex all the time. Some people don't like sex as much as others, that's fine, but if you have a low libido or NO libido and you're with someone who loves sex and wants it frequently, you WILL have problems.
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>compatible libidos
>willingness to satisfy each other sexually
>sexual attraction towards each other
>accepting of fetishes, kinks, boundaries, etc.
None of these things are things that cannot be fixed after marriage. It all comes down to initiative that a couple has to work out their sexual relationship.
I would like you to ask an asexual if they think they can change.

People do not change like that. It doesn't happen. To think it does is stupid and naive.
I said fix, not change. That suggests other ways to solve the problem. You can work your way around sexual incompatibility. It is a stumbling block, but not something that cannot be solved. Like I said, It all depends on the initiative of the couple.
Please, enlighten me with your vast wisdom
You don't have to come off as an arrogant prick. You're making this discussion unpleasant. If you would please enlighten me more on why you disagree without insults or asshatery, this would be a much more educational experience for both sides.
I said you cannot change sexual compatibility. You said you can "fix" it and you did not say how. I want you to tell me how you can "fix" sexual incompatibility.
You can work around it. It is not such a far fetched concept. I keep saying it all comes down to the communication and initiative of the couple but it really doesn't seem like you're reading what I'm saying. Yes, it's a big problem with a lot of relationships, but it can be fixed through communication between partners and so on and so forth. This falls into what I've been saying about people getting to know their spouses and themselves after their marriage rather than before.
In some cases yes, sexual frustrations can be worked out through communication. Often, actually. But what I am talking about is INCOMPATIBILITY. If your wife refuses to go down on you even though you do it for her when she asks, that is uncool and should be talked about. Sometimes it can be solved. I am not denying that, but when someone simply does not enjoy sex as much as you do, you are incompatible and it cannot be fixed or worked around because they will always see it as a chore and not enjoyable.
What I have been referring to this whole time is sexual incompatibility. What is your point?
Sexual incompatibility is a fixed thing. It cannot be changed, worked around or ignored.

End of story.
That's your opinion. I think it's an incorrect opinion as many people have worked around, and may even ignored sexual incompatibility. If you don't believe me, you can just look it up. Sexual incompatibility is a very common and major issue in marriage, but I think it is not as you describe. I don't know if you are speaking from personal experience or just assumptions, but either way, what I have read up on says otherwise. I'm not even sure you entirely understand what sexual incompatibility is at this point, but okay. You've shown your stance on the subject.
Sexual incompatibility is exactly what I described and I'm correct. You are wrong. This isn't just my opinion.
Please, describe it to me again, and if you are correct in what it is, then why would you say there is no way to get around it when so many people have?

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Nobody has ever gotten around it because it's something you are born with and something that will ALWAYS cause problems. Even if the couple stays together it's because they're idiots who do not have a healthy relationship that anyone should ever want.

Tell me, do you think an asexual could be in a healthy marriage with a nymphomaniac? If you say yes you're a fool.
A nymphomaniac and an asexual likely wouldn't have to have sex or get married to figure out they might not be for one another.


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I'm getting an odd vibe from this place that sex, or anything related to love is being spoken as "not a big deal" or "pretty boring" to make people feel better about themselves or something.

Obviously not all of you but uhm... it's not a big deal unless you guys treat it as such, which seems to be a thing here for some reason.


 
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I'm getting an odd vibe from this place that sex, or anything related to love is being spoken as "not a big deal" or "pretty boring" to make people feel better about themselves or something.

Obviously not all of you but uhm... it's not a big deal unless you guys treat it as such, which seems to be a thing here for some reason.
Love and sex are pretty different. To me love is a big deal, and like I said while I like sex I just think it's a bit overrated.
I think it's only overrated to people who think about it too much or make excuses for not having it.

Sex is great, so is love. Anyone saying it's not is lying to themselves to help them feel better. But I'm not getting into how sex is different for everyone else, don't have time for it.


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As a married man I'm going to have to agree with the people saying you NEED to have sex before marriage to see if you are compatible.

I've been married for about a year and a half now. If my wife and I weren't sexually comparable, we would have been divorced by now. Sex isn't the biggest thing in a marriage, but it is still a big deal.


 
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As a married man I'm going to have to agree with the people saying you NEED to have sex before marriage to see if you are compatible.

I've been married for about a year and a half now. If my wife and I weren't sexually comparable, we would have been divorced by now. Sex isn't the biggest thing in a marriage, but it is still a big deal.
Wow a married person here? Good for you.


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Like a lot of things, I assume they do it to make them feel better about themselves. I find it annoying. Because of it there is a stigma for people who are virgins and they will actually lie about their virginity just so they don't look like a loser. 


 
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...Is being a virgin socially unacceptable? I don't think it is. I don't think people give a fuck.


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then why would you say there is no way to get around it when so many people have?
It's easy to be content with something when you've never known it any other way.


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Nobody gives a shit if you're a virgin except for high schoolers, and their opinion literally means nothing.


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Nobody gives a shit if you're a virgin except for high schoolers, and their opinion literally means nothing.
Pretty much


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Also, why do people think that waiting until marriage is ridiculous? Don't you want to be able to say that you were the only one who has fucked your spouse and that no else has ever touched them, and vice versa? Isn't that something special? Something to be proud of? And don't give me all that, "Well it's boring. I need some variety." bullshit. If your sex life with your spouse is boring well than that's your fault.
Your sex life would be boring because you'd suck due to no experience.
A lot of marriages end because they're either sexually incompatible or just flat out suck dick in bed, y'know.

So yes, reserving yourself until you're married is ridiculous.
Is it impossible to get experienced after you're married?


 
 
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OT- I dunno. I don't really get it aside from the whole thing of if being something people use to one-over somebody else. But I prefer being able to spend my free time doing something worthwhile.


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lmao what?

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