What does "insecure" mean?

Verbatim · March 28, 2016, 04:01:08 PM

Tell me in your own words what "insecure" means. What makes a person insecure?

Generally, I always thought that to be insecure meant that you lacked confidence or personal validation of some sort.

Apparently, people who judge others are insecure--even though that doesn't make any sense. If anything, judgmental people are the most secure people on the planet. So I don't know what the fuck that's all about.

OnionBeetle · March 28, 2016, 04:05:08 PM

I would describe it verbatim the way you described it 'you lacked confidence or personal validation of some sort.'

As for the whole judging thing, I don't know how that relates to being insecure about yourself.

SecondClass · March 28, 2016, 04:09:10 PM

It means you're unsure and contemptuous about your place in the world. You tell yourself these stories about yourself, but you're insecure that they're true. Which is why you have to bring down others and look externally at what they do, to feel more secure that you're doing better than them.

Jive Turkey · March 28, 2016, 04:12:14 PM

some people say it as a cop out word to use against someone who does something that might make them feel inferior (that makes more sense saying it in my head)

"Oh he has a big truck so he must be insecure about something" ect whatever

Generally I see it as low confidence about certain aspects, physical or mental, about yourself.

I don't see judging someone an indication of insecurity at all. If I judge the fat Walmart mom buying gallons of ice cream and bags chips does that make me insecure about my own weight? Nah

Verbatim · March 28, 2016, 04:16:30 PM

Quote from: SecondClass on March 28, 2016, 04:09:10 PM

It means you're unsure and contemptuous about your place in the world. You tell yourself these stories about yourself, but you're insecure that they're true. Which is why you have to bring down others and look externally at what they do, to feel more secure that you're doing better than them.

Even if I factually am? I couldn't possibly be more "sure" about my place in the world right now. Nothing about my habitual judging of other people takes away from that--in fact, it merely reinforces it. I've self-actualized that I'm really good at judging people, so I do it, and I will continue to do it for the rest of my life. I'm so comfortable with it, I never want to let that go.

How insecure of me. It's so insecure to be secure.

snee0rp · March 28, 2016, 04:21:00 PM

Thin skin--easily assblasted/butthurt/OFFENDED.

Very good trolling target. Takes the bait every time.

Verbatim · March 28, 2016, 04:22:41 PM

Quote from: Jive Turkey on March 28, 2016, 04:12:14 PM

some people say it as a cop out word to use against someone who does something that might make them feel inferior (that makes more sense saying it in my head)

"Oh he has a big truck so he must be insecure about something" ect whatever

Generally I see it as low confidence about certain aspects, physical or mental, about yourself.

I don't see judging someone an indication of insecurity at all. If I judge the fat Walmart mom buying gallons of ice cream and bags chips does that make me insecure about my own weight? Nah

Yeah, exactly. With your big truck example, it almost reveals that the person accusing the truck owner of insecurity is actually the insecure one himself. Lots of people are jealous, indignant, or otherwise in their feelings over other people's achievements. So they try to paint them as superficial, as a way to validate themselves--because they don't have anything else to feel validated over.

In reality, deep down (or maybe not so deep down), they just want that big truck, and they're upset that someone else has it.

I'm sure that's not the case for everybody, but that's how it comes across to me a lot of the time.

Elai · March 28, 2016, 04:24:40 PM

Generally, SecondClass is right, I find: people judge to validate themselves. But I'm not going to pretend that judgement and security are somehow mutually exclusive.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM

If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim

Verbatim · March 28, 2016, 04:36:58 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM

If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim

With a caption reading, "Reference: the exact opposite of insecurity."

Elai · March 28, 2016, 04:37:48 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on March 28, 2016, 04:36:58 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim
With a caption reading, "Reference: the exact opposite of insecurity."

Lol'd.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:38:59 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on March 28, 2016, 04:36:58 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim
With a caption reading, "Reference: the exact opposite of insecurity."

I think you're mixing up confidence with security. Just because it feels like you're the shit doesn't mean you know you are the shit.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:39:45 PM

Quote from: Eli on March 28, 2016, 04:37:48 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on March 28, 2016, 04:36:58 PM
Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim
With a caption reading, "Reference: the exact opposite of insecurity."
I suck cock, preferably Verbatim's cock

challengerX · March 28, 2016, 04:40:16 PM

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Elai · March 28, 2016, 04:40:57 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:39:45 PM

I suck cock, preferably Verbatim's cock

Wow. I mean, I don't think Verbatim is the most secure of individuals either, but the response was pretty funny, you have to admit.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:41:56 PM

Quote from: challengerX on March 28, 2016, 04:40:16 PM

I wonder where I would be in the dictionary

If there's a word for situational autism you'd be there. "ChallengerX is a fairly normal person, but when he plays Halo 3 he acts like some mlg tard"

challengerX · March 28, 2016, 04:44:21 PM

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Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:45:21 PM

Quote from: Eli on March 28, 2016, 04:40:57 PM

Quote from: Eli on March 28, 2016, 04:39:45 PM
I suck cock, preferably Verbatim's cock

Wow. I mean, I don't think Verbatim is the most secure of individuals either, but the response was pretty funny, you have to admit.

A) I didn't mean that you suck his cock just for that one instance where liking his reply wasn't enough to show your appreciation, but rather overall
B) I've lost my sense of taste both in food and in emotional things, so I can't really tell if that was funny by normal standards

Elai · March 28, 2016, 04:46:46 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:45:21 PM

A) I didn't mean that you suck his cock just for that one instance where liking his reply wasn't enough to show your appreciation, but rather overall

People do that all the time, but alright.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:49:35 PM

Quote from: Eli on March 28, 2016, 04:46:46 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:45:21 PM
A) I didn't mean that you suck his cock just for that one instance where liking his reply wasn't enough to show your appreciation, but rather overall

People do that all the time, but alright.

Yeah, when something is worth your appreciation in both forms.

Ian · March 28, 2016, 04:54:03 PM

I generally want to appear boastful about myself but ultimately I have to admit I'm pretty insecure. Probably more so than anyone else on this site.

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM

If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:54:17 PM

but real talk, Verbatim is childish, or autistic. Whatever you want to call someone who only wants to win regardless of what battle it is, instead of prioritizing due to what's to gain, which is often a better relationship or understanding of the person.

DAS B00T x2 · March 28, 2016, 04:54:36 PM

Quote from: Gaara444 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:03 PM

I generally want to appear boastful about myself but ultimately I have to admit I'm pretty insecure. Probably more so than anyone else on this site.

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim

I'll vouch for this.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:55:16 PM

Quote from: Gaara444 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:03 PM

I generally want to appear boastful about myself but ultimately I have to admit I'm pretty insecure. Probably more so than anyone else on this site.

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim

Wow, I never knew that. Thank you for sharing this, it must have been difficult to open up to me like that, but I appreciate it.

Ian · March 28, 2016, 04:55:44 PM

However I refuse to humble myself with Das. I'm fucking better than him damn it!

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:36 PM

I'll vouch for this.

Verbatim · March 28, 2016, 04:56:18 PM

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:54:17 PM

but real talk, Verbatim is childish, or autistic.

Neither.

The rest of your post was incoherent, as usual.

Desty · March 28, 2016, 04:56:41 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:36 PM

Quote from: Gaara444 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:03 PM
I generally want to appear boastful about myself but ultimately I have to admit I'm pretty insecure. Probably more so than anyone else on this site.

Quote from: Desty on March 28, 2016, 04:32:33 PM
If you looked up insecurity there'd be a pic of Verbatim
I'll vouch for this.

Oh please, you've fallen into a black hole where the only thing coming in is stuff that supports your beliefs. Your way of handling data is borderline autistic. The charm has worn off, but you're oblivious to these things because of the darkness in that hole, or your autism.

DAS B00T x2 · March 28, 2016, 04:57:10 PM

Quote from: Gaara444 on March 28, 2016, 04:55:44 PM

However I refuse to humble myself with Das. I'm fucking better than him damn it!

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 28, 2016, 04:54:36 PM
I'll vouch for this.

No you're not

Ian · March 28, 2016, 04:58:02 PM

Yes I am.

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 28, 2016, 04:57:10 PM

No you're not

DAS B00T x2 · March 28, 2016, 04:58:20 PM

Quote from: Gaara444 on March 28, 2016, 04:58:02 PM

Yes I am.

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 28, 2016, 04:57:10 PM
No you're not

Ian pls