You guys,

Custody doesn't work the way you think it does. I would have to show that she is a danger to her children to get full. Besides, I do want her in their lives. Adopted or no, she is their mommy. I can't take that away from them or her. Remember, that even when the recent past is negative, we were married for 15 years. There was some good times there too. I will always love her, how could I not?

But, whatever she chooses, wherever she goes at this point, I can't be with her anymore. She did betray me, and she is showing no signs she wants to reconcile.

That sucks. But on the bright side, a lot of the evidence attests to the fact that SHE is incapable of taking responsibility of the children, something the court is definitely gonna factor in. Like you said, nothing's certain, but the odds definitely seem in your favour for custodial rights from what you've told us.

Judges can be stupid.

I witnessed this first hand in my parents divorce.