Serious topic

MyNameIsCharlie · August 17, 2014, 01:58:45 AM

I know that I rarely am serious, but in this I am totally.

Mrs Charlie still isn't helping with Nicholas, and she criticizes me or our nanny every chance she gets. I have all but quit my job so I can be the best daddy I can be. Her mom is in town, and she has stepped up her game, and is portraying herself as being cut out of being a mommy by saying the nanny and I second guess her at every turn.

She would have to step up and try for me to second guess.

I'm at wits end. I am tired, and frustrated that I've given up on ever starting my own business for being a full time daddy.

Nicholas' birth mother contacted us, she got knocked up again (her 9th) and asked us if we wanted to adopt this one too. We said yes, and Alexander is due mid-October. I don't know how I am to be raising two all on my own. I know single parents do it all the time, but one is already do hard.

I don't know how to get her off the bench and in the game. I am afraid that I'll snap and just end the relationship. I love her, and I don't want to. But the situation is deteriorating.

I don't know how much help you guys will be, and I know I've opened myself up to trolling. I really just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Grapes · August 17, 2014, 02:03:50 AM

Damn, no bel air ending

Septy · August 17, 2014, 02:19:05 AM

So then what does she do all day?

Reciffo_Smmoc · August 17, 2014, 02:36:50 AM

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More Than Mortal · August 17, 2014, 08:49:17 AM

Jesus Christ, man, aren't you married?

Fucking talk to her.

The Lord Ruler · August 17, 2014, 09:35:10 AM

Your wife doesn't sound like she handles responsibility well.

MattyFez · August 17, 2014, 09:36:34 AM

Why are you telling us? Talk to her, or your family.

Korra · August 17, 2014, 10:04:37 AM

You will find no answers here, to your own thing. Talk to her.

MyNameIsCharlie · August 17, 2014, 10:19:04 AM

Quote from: Avatar Korra on August 17, 2014, 10:04:37 AM

You will find no answers here, to your own thing. Talk to her.

I know. I just needed to vent. Like too many guys, I keep it in. Every so often I need to tell somebody before I break.

big sponge · August 17, 2014, 11:15:34 AM

Did you ever talk to her about this?

I also probably have no business commenting on your choices, but if the two of you are having a hard time with just one child it probably wasn't the best idea to agree to adopting a second.

SecondClass · August 17, 2014, 11:21:04 AM

Just get a divorce yo

MyNameIsCharlie · August 17, 2014, 12:57:36 PM

Quote from: Lord Commissar on August 17, 2014, 11:15:34 AM

Did you ever talk to her about this?

I also probably have no business commenting on your choices, but if the two of you are having a hard time with just one child it probably wasn't the best idea to agree to adopting a second.

I have. It leads to a fight over "me making her feel guilty" every time.

And the reason that I agreed to the adoption with those very misgivings is that Alexander will be his full biological sibling. It would be unfair to Nicholas to deny him that. While Mrs Charlie are seemingly on our way to a broken home, Nicholas doesn't have to be alone.

challengerX · August 17, 2014, 01:29:49 PM

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More Than Mortal · August 17, 2014, 02:12:08 PM

Quote from: challengerX on August 17, 2014, 01:29:49 PM

She might be cheating on you. That, or the reality of raising a child has hit her and she thought it would be easy.

The kid's adopted, right? It might be she doesn't want an adopted kid.

As I understand it, Mrs. Charlie is incapable of having children.

Not much choice, there.