It's almost like awkward shit happens in life and then you get over it.I'm the most socially anxious person on this forum—I can't even order food—and I understand that.Obviously we're two different people who work differently, but shit, that's such a frustrating mentality.
It's almost like awkward shit happens in life and then you get over it.
>"irl"Fuck me dead, I hope this dies soon.
Okay, but your example has me sitting next to someone because the reason I'm there has nothing to do with it. I'll hang out with people I don't know if friends are there, so that I can just chat with my friends if it starts getting awkward. I feel like it would be socially disfunctional to enter an awkward situation and continue to stay in it just because you don't want to leave it.I wouldn't go out of my way to hang out with someone from the internet because it presents a situation that will become awkward without the out of just not replying anymore (which just makes things more awkward irl) or using a third party to change the dynamic.
small talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other things
There are plenty of reasons not to want to meet people you talk to on the Internet. Awkwardness is not one of them.
Quote from: Verbatim on August 08, 2017, 12:33:52 AM>"irl"Fuck me dead, I hope this dies soon.it's just the fastest way to say it. I'm not typing out "in reality" or "in real life" on my phone keyboard every time just because I don't want to use acronyms.
Quote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:40:08 AMsmall talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other thingsI work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.
I wanna go to a mall and whistle at jailbait with Detrich.
Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:39:55 AMQuote from: Verbatim on August 08, 2017, 12:33:52 AM>"irl"Fuck me dead, I hope this dies soon.it's just the fastest way to say it. I'm not typing out "in reality" or "in real life" on my phone keyboard every time just because I don't want to use acronyms.No, it's not the acronym, you already know my feelings on this. The Internet is real life. That is my point. There is no distinction between "reality" and "the Internet." They are both the same. We're not a bunch of unreal NPCs on some MMORPG. We're real people, and to insinuate otherwise is incredibly insulting and grandma-esque.The correct terms are "online" and "offline," or you could even say "in person."Or you can continue to use incorrect language for the sake of convenience, that's your prerogative. I'm not the language police.
Quote from: Verbatim on August 08, 2017, 12:40:24 AMThere are plenty of reasons not to want to meet people you talk to on the Internet. Awkwardness is not one of them.How do you define "awkward", out of curiousity. I have a feeling that I'm using it much more liberally than you.
Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:42:32 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:40:08 AMsmall talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other thingsI work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issuerepresenting a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different from
Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:43:26 AMQuote from: Verbatim on August 08, 2017, 12:40:24 AMThere are plenty of reasons not to want to meet people you talk to on the Internet. Awkwardness is not one of them.How do you define "awkward", out of curiousity. I have a feeling that I'm using it much more liberally than you.Emotionally, it describes a feeling of mild to moderate social discomfort, similar to embarrassment but less extreme, typically associated with breaking some kind of social rule or moré and feeling ashamed about it (giving a high-five to someone who wasn't offering you one, )People with social anxiety, such as you and I, tend to be prone to this feeling, and our lack of interest in social endeavors tends to compound it.The only difference is that I don't consider it a deal-breaker. I don't think we have different definitions of "awkward," I just think we respond to it differently. I consider my response a little bit healthier.
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Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:49:03 AMI understand you viewsNo. This is one of those things where, if you completely understood, you would agree.I find your standards dated and nonsensical and I don't understand them. I don't understand why physical interaction matters so much when you use arbitrary things like voice inflection to define "true" interaction, as if Skype doesn't exist, and as if I haven't made YouTube videos with my voice in them. Like come on now, give me a break.
If you just admitted it doesn't make any sense, I wouldn't have an issue.
Quote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:45:16 AMQuote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:42:32 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:40:08 AMsmall talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other thingsI work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issuerepresenting a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different fromDude, I go to fucking concerts all the time. The concept of "talking to people" is not new to me, I just have no interest in talking to people for the sake of talking to them. It's pointless, and the pointlessness really activates my almonds.
Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:52:55 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:45:16 AMQuote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:42:32 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:40:08 AMsmall talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other thingsI work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issuerepresenting a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different fromDude, I go to fucking concerts all the time. The concept of "talking to people" is not new to me, I just have no interest in talking to people for the sake of talking to them. It's pointless, and the pointlessness really activates my almonds.if youre so good at it then why is it weirdi just dont understand its not pointless. ive met loads of people offline that i started talking with over the internet and, granted there is an adjustment period but its overall an insightful opportunity to understand someone you thought you knew on a deeper levelmy best friend and i can read each other like books because we spend a good amount of time conversing over text, but the physical perspective just enhances the understanding so much.pretty much the driving force behind my desire to meet so many of you is to see how you act in a physical setting. its largely backed by psychological interest and it will give me a far greater perspective on our community. far from pointless.
I'm referring to awkward "situations", not just feeling awkward. Hanging out with a friend, but you're both just kind of sitting silently an not interacting for 15+ minutes? I'd feel fine doing that (happens all the time), but I'd still describe it as an awkward situation.
Quote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 01:02:25 AMQuote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:52:55 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:45:16 AMQuote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 12:42:32 AMQuote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 12:40:08 AMsmall talk pro tip: ask about petsits dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusiveeven if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a childusually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other thingsI work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issuerepresenting a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different fromDude, I go to fucking concerts all the time. The concept of "talking to people" is not new to me, I just have no interest in talking to people for the sake of talking to them. It's pointless, and the pointlessness really activates my almonds.if youre so good at it then why is it weirdi just dont understand its not pointless. ive met loads of people offline that i started talking with over the internet and, granted there is an adjustment period but its overall an insightful opportunity to understand someone you thought you knew on a deeper levelmy best friend and i can read each other like books because we spend a good amount of time conversing over text, but the physical perspective just enhances the understanding so much.pretty much the driving force behind my desire to meet so many of you is to see how you act in a physical setting. its largely backed by psychological interest and it will give me a far greater perspective on our community. far from pointless.It's weird because I don't want to do it, so doing it anyway would make no sense. I have no idea how to be more straightforward than that.
In that sense, I suppose I would have a more conservative definition of an "awkward situation," but it's not exactly something I can pinpoint so much as I can give a bunch of meaningless examples.
I wouldn't say that I've interacted with Brad Pitt just because he read my mean tweet on Kimmel. Hearing isn't an intercation because it doesn't provide feedback (either through a vocal response or facial expressions).I'd think you could gather that it's a personal standard by the fact that I haven't told anyone they're wrong for disagreeing. I just need something more for it to feel real.
im using weird as a synonym for awkward. how is doing something you dont want to do awkward. its nonsensical sure but not awkward.
People put on more of a facade """""in real life""""" than they do on the Internet.
It's weird because I don't want to do it, so doing it anyway would make no sense. I have no idea how to be more straightforward than that.
Quote from: Verbatim on August 08, 2017, 01:09:44 AMPeople put on more of a facade """""in real life""""" than they do on the Internet.You should know better than to assume that I'm at my realest here lmao
Quote from: Aria on August 08, 2017, 01:04:05 AMIt's weird because I don't want to do it, so doing it anyway would make no sense. I have no idea how to be more straightforward than that.because that's very circularyou're not obligated to explain further than that, but you can't act like there isn't more to it
Quote from: Snake on August 08, 2017, 01:06:18 AMim using weird as a synonym for awkward. how is doing something you dont want to do awkward. its nonsensical sure but not awkward."I really hate putting toothpicks under my toenails, but you know what? I'm going to go ahead and do that right now anyway just because."That does not sound weird to youlike at all
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