does anyone think it's bizarre how women say "love" and guy say "dude"?

Loaf · October 08, 2015, 11:28:34 AM

I have been thinking lately that I wonder if I would ever be comfortable in referring to people as "love" or "darling" or "honey". It just sounds so much sweeter than saying dude, bro, or whatever. Idk, I just feel like the social conformists would give me back lash.

Jim · October 08, 2015, 11:29:14 AM

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nͫiͤcͫeͤ · October 08, 2015, 11:29:36 AM

tfw when a cute girl calls you darling and you dont even know her

Korra · October 08, 2015, 11:32:20 AM

Smoke weed every day

Mad Max · October 08, 2015, 11:33:37 AM

Have you literally ever posted anything of value?

Coomer · October 08, 2015, 11:35:27 AM

It's soft

Loaf · October 08, 2015, 11:35:28 AM

Quote from: Mad Max on October 08, 2015, 11:33:37 AM

Have you literally ever posted anything of value?

You seem to be kinda biased.

Ásgeirr · October 08, 2015, 11:35:32 AM

SWEETHEART

Dietrich Six · October 08, 2015, 12:21:57 PM

My ex has recently begun to call me dude, my dude, brah, etc.

It's pretty weird tbh.

Winy · October 08, 2015, 12:24:33 PM

Girls call other girls, "Love?"

My girlfriend and I sometimes say that to each other, but I'd never use it with anyone else.

Verbatim · October 08, 2015, 12:28:18 PM

Only condescending middle-aged lesbians call people "love".

Everyone American calls each other "dude"--even women.
Saying "dudette" is just asking to be punched in the face.

The only thing I think is weird is calling girls "chicks".
Like, I do it, but sometimes I wonder if it bothers some women. It seems kinda patronizing.

Verbatim · October 08, 2015, 12:31:08 PM

Then again, you never hear "chick" unless the person you're referring to isn't there, or is out of earshot.

Like, "Look at that chick over there," or... "She's some chick from class..." You never hear someone call anyone a chick directly.
That would be weird, I think.

Probably not worth thinking about too hard, though.

Kiwicake · October 08, 2015, 12:35:22 PM

Dunno what you're talking about, sweetie

October 08, 2015, 02:58:40 PM

My old girlfriend in HS would call me love and darling even before we started dating

Then again, she was a pretentious french girl, so....

Verbatim · October 08, 2015, 03:00:15 PM

i've never heard "darling" used unironically

Jive Turkey · October 08, 2015, 03:01:03 PM

October 08, 2015, 03:01:11 PM

Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 03:00:15 PM

i've never heard "darling" used unironically

I've heard it used unironically pretty often

TB · October 08, 2015, 03:01:36 PM

Quote from: Carsonogen on October 08, 2015, 03:01:11 PM

Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 03:00:15 PM
i've never heard "darling" used unironically
I've heard it used unironically pretty often

eggsalad · October 08, 2015, 03:02:10 PM

Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 12:31:08 PM

Then again, you never hear "chick" unless the person you're referring to isn't there, or is out of earshot.

Like, "Look at that chick over there," or... "She's some chick from class..." You never hear someone call anyone a chick directly.
That would be weird, I think.

Probably not worth thinking about too hard, though.

I think it has to do with the fact it's never used to describe guys like dude is. So when you're referring to someone in the third person it's effectively the gendered pronoun.

Similarly I don't think anyone refers to girls as "dudes" in the third person.

Onion · October 08, 2015, 03:02:52 PM

I call men I've never met "mate" and women "love."

Verbatim · October 08, 2015, 03:03:40 PM

Quote from: eggsalad on October 08, 2015, 03:02:10 PM

Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 12:31:08 PM
Then again, you never hear "chick" unless the person you're referring to isn't there, or is out of earshot.

Like, "Look at that chick over there," or... "She's some chick from class..." You never hear someone call anyone a chick directly.
That would be weird, I think.

Probably not worth thinking about too hard, though.
I think it has to do with the fact it's never used to describe guys like dude is. So when you're referring to someone in the third person it's effectively the gendered pronoun.

Similarly I don't think anyone refers to girls as "dudes" in the third person.

you're right lol

that's sooooo fucking weird

eggsalad · October 08, 2015, 03:07:36 PM

Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 03:03:40 PM

Quote from: eggsalad on October 08, 2015, 03:02:10 PM
Quote from: Fuddy-duddy on October 08, 2015, 12:31:08 PM
Then again, you never hear "chick" unless the person you're referring to isn't there, or is out of earshot.

Like, "Look at that chick over there," or... "She's some chick from class..." You never hear someone call anyone a chick directly.
That would be weird, I think.

Probably not worth thinking about too hard, though.
I think it has to do with the fact it's never used to describe guys like dude is. So when you're referring to someone in the third person it's effectively the gendered pronoun.

Similarly I don't think anyone refers to girls as "dudes" in the third person.
you're right lol

that's sooooo fucking weird

linguists must have fun talking about this topic
if youre addressing a group of people of mixed gender "hey guys" is acceptable but "going out with the guys" means hanging out with males

what have we as a culture DONE