Now that I graduated and started working, I find myself telling my parents that's I'm too busy to talk or be around
I don't really want to fall into the trap of being the kid that never talks to them and then dumps them in a nursing home

One of my coworkers calls her mom before we clock in, during lunch, and sometimes after we clock out, every day. Although she’s Hispanic and her mom lives in Puerto Rico; from what she tells me, their culture is very family oriented.

MEANWHILE, my mom and sister live about half an hour away and I straight up never see them. My mom says she knows I’m okay because I’m not calling her. I remember calling her a few weeks back to see if she wanted to go out for dinner and her first response after I said hello was “what’s wrong?” of all things.

It really just depends on a lot of things as you get older. There’s just nothing really for us to talk about. She knows I’m a bit of a workaholic and all I do in what little free time I give myself is just recoup, chores, or video games with friends online. I still love my mom and the idea of her death fills me complete dread, since she’s getting pretty old as she had me pretty late in life. At the same time too, she’s a stereotypical boomer and it’s hard to take her anywhere without her embarrassing herself and the rest of us.

If you’re really worried, the best thing you can do is still try to communicate with them even if you can’t visit. They’ll definitely appreciate it.

I live with my mother and grandmother.

I usually see my dad around twice a week.

See my mom at least once a fortnight, haven't seen my father since early March? It wasn't by choice or for socialising reasons because I hate him.

Every time I look in the mirror.

I haven't seen my dad in 11 years.  I haven't physically seen my mother the past year since moving across the country, but we've video called a few times and talk almost every day for at least a few minutes.  Sure she can be a pain in my ass, but I'd rather have that than the days when the phone calls stop

I live with my mom

Don't you hate her tho
Still planning on moving?

Thanks to Corona, I could not fly over to my dad nor drive to my mom because the country did not permit non-essential journeys out of the country or further than 5km from your place of residence. So that sucked. Now I see my mom about once every two months, still haven't seen my dad since 2019-ish I think.

Usually once every few months. I live about 2hrs away from where they are so if they come to visit it's usually if they're up in the area anyway and we go out for lunch or something. Every few months I get the train back home to stay over for the weekend if I have some stuff I need to do back there. Usually text every 1-2 weeks or so. I don't really dislike my parents or anything but I have very little to say to them in general, we have nothing really much in common.