How do I boost my confidence

Jono · January 31, 2018, 02:59:25 PM

I need to talk to this girl and get her number before it's too late but every time I see her my mind goes blank and I suddenly forget how to communicate with people.

DAS B00T x2 · January 31, 2018, 03:07:01 PM

Grow a beard

Jono · January 31, 2018, 03:15:15 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 31, 2018, 03:07:01 PM

Grow a beard

I'll get one back in a few days

DAS B00T x2 · January 31, 2018, 03:19:02 PM

Quote from: Jono on January 31, 2018, 03:15:15 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on January 31, 2018, 03:07:01 PM
Grow a beard
I'll get one back in a few days

too late. Get one now

Zonda · January 31, 2018, 03:26:26 PM

Send fuck boobies

Jono · January 31, 2018, 03:38:21 PM

Quote from: Zonda on January 31, 2018, 03:26:26 PM

Send fuck boobies

This is a SERIOUS thread

MarKhan · January 31, 2018, 03:57:16 PM

Fap before meeting her so your mind won`t blank out. I think there also are "guides how to meet woman" on this site, you might want check them.

maverick · January 31, 2018, 05:00:26 PM

It’s 2018 my dude just slide in her dms and you don’t have to acknowledge her existence irl.

Dietrich Six · January 31, 2018, 05:12:15 PM

Tell her that, girls love when you tell them you stroke out at the sight of them.

gats · January 31, 2018, 06:37:02 PM

lol nu male

SecondClass · January 31, 2018, 06:43:05 PM

watch fresh off the boat S2E4

Hahahaha very funny Zonda · January 31, 2018, 08:39:31 PM

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challengerX · January 31, 2018, 08:46:23 PM

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A Cheese Potato · January 31, 2018, 11:00:47 PM

YouTube

Jono · February 01, 2018, 02:52:29 AM

Quote from: challengerX on January 31, 2018, 08:46:23 PM

Jono is one fatburger away from a heart attack, and that's a good thing.

I was gonna buy PUBG but I guess I'll just buy a number 6 from Carl's Jr instead tomorrow

challengerX · February 01, 2018, 04:18:28 AM

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Jono · February 01, 2018, 04:46:35 AM

Quote from: challengerX on February 01, 2018, 04:18:28 AM

Quote from: Jono on February 01, 2018, 02:52:29 AM
Quote from: challengerX on January 31, 2018, 08:46:23 PM
Jono is one fatburger away from a heart attack, and that's a good thing.
I was gonna buy PUBG but I guess I'll just buy a number 6 from Carl's Jr instead tomorrow
noooooooooo😭😭😭

Dude just go up to her and be honest. Just tell her you'd like to her to know her.

Does she ever look at you when you look at her?

I've caught her looking at me a couple times.

There was this chance for me where she went to a water cooler. I saw her there when walking back from my lunch break and I was going to talk to her then, already had what I was going to say in my mind ready to go. Then she walks away before I could get there. If I had left my car like literally 20 seconds earlier coming back from my break I could have had my chance.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · February 01, 2018, 04:57:49 AM

Healthy diet, regular exercise and a healthy sleep will do that.

Also, don't act desperate for anything. That's a huge turn-off.

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Jono · February 01, 2018, 05:22:44 AM

There has been plenty. I've walked literally right next to her a couple times and did nothing.

Either way, I'm still going to try.

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Luciana · February 01, 2018, 04:50:09 PM

If you want a serious reply, it's gonna be rather long... But 3 things you can do to appear/practice being more confident. Keep in mind this is very general stuff.

1. Workout. Looking better means you feel better and releases endorphin's all up in your brain

2. Work on eye contact. This one takes practice if you're not confident enough but it's vital. To keep a long story short (google more if you want), when you look away from someone, never look down, look to the side. Looking down sends a signal that you're "below" them, and not at their level. Don't ever look up, looks like you're rolling your eyes.

I know that all sounds small but humans have a keen knack of picking up on those things, be it actively or subconsciously. Studies show that nailing eye contact the right way gives loads of benefits for attraction.

When you keep eye contact, lean back a bit so it doesn't feel too intense. Lean in only when you want to show you're really listening, etc. Also don't just never look away lol, just make them know you have your 100% attention. Trust me, in a world where we're plagued with people looking down at their phones, you're at an advantage by just realizing something like this exists. People want to be heard, want to connect. Do it.

3. Just fucking ask her in a way that's not bad, so something like

"Hey we should grab coffee sometime."

And go from there with that response. It's casual, and not too intimate like a movie, AND the most important part is you're not asking her a question and setting her up for a yes or no answer, you're suggesting something in a more assertive, but not overly assertive, way. Get her number if she agrees to it. Something like "cool, let's swap numbers and find a time that's best for both of us."

Again, you're not asking a question. Also, make sure it's during a weekday. Weekends are too intimate as well.

And always keep in mind that by NOT asking, you're going to be sitting here on Sept, wondering what could have been, and beat yourself up over it. Just ask, the worst that can happen is that you get turned down.

Well, she COULD laugh at you, but that will never happen, and if it did, she wasn't someone to go chasing after in the first place at all now was she?

Good luck, cunt. Don't fuck up.

Verbatim · February 01, 2018, 04:58:12 PM

basically it's not worth it

Luciana · February 01, 2018, 04:58:43 PM

I should also remind you, and anyone reading, that even if you're not too confident with your looks, as long as you clean up well, you're mostly fine. A lot of people look ugly due to their style (hair, clothes, etc), and less because of their actual features. Not saying they don't exist (because they most certainly do), but yeah.

Luciana · February 01, 2018, 04:59:52 PM

Quote from: Verbatim on February 01, 2018, 04:58:12 PM

basically it's not worth it

Made me laugh

anyway, even outside of relationships, developing the first 2 things is something I believe that leads to a happier life. Being more charismatic in general and not a social outcast afraid of talking to people will benefit you in any social situation, really.

Verbatim · February 01, 2018, 05:01:18 PM

Quote from: Luciana on February 01, 2018, 04:58:43 PM

I should also remind you, and anyone reading, that even if you're not too confident with your looks, as long as you clean up well, you're mostly fine. A lot of people look ugly due to their style (hair, clothes, etc), and less because of their actual features. Not saying they don't exist (because they most certainly do), but yeah.

i do agree with this a lot

some people are just fucked, but the vast majority of people would look nice if they tried (or cared)

but it's also okay to not care, if you're willing to have an uphill battle when it comes to finding women (and it WILL be an uphill battle)

Genghis Khan · February 01, 2018, 05:05:54 PM

Quote from: Luciana on February 01, 2018, 04:50:09 PM

If you want a serious reply, it's gonna be rather long... But 3 things you can do to appear/practice being more confident. Keep in mind this is very general stuff.

1. Workout. Looking better means you feel better and releases endorphin's all up in your brain

2. Work on eye contact. This one takes practice if you're not confident enough but it's vital. To keep a long story short (google more if you want), when you look away from someone, never look down, look to the side. Looking down sends a signal that you're "below" them, and not at their level. Don't ever look up, looks like you're rolling your eyes.

I know that all sounds small but humans have a keen knack of picking up on those things, be it actively or subconsciously. Studies show that nailing eye contact the right way gives loads of benefits for attraction.

When you keep eye contact, lean back a bit so it doesn't feel too intense. Lean in only when you want to show you're really listening, etc. Also don't just never look away lol, just make them know you have your 100% attention. Trust me, in a world where we're plagued with people looking down at their phones, you're at an advantage by just realizing something like this exists. People want to be heard, want to connect. Do it.

3. Just fucking ask her in a way that's not bad, so something like

"Hey we should grab coffee sometime."

And go from there with that response. It's casual, and not too intimate like a movie, AND the most important part is you're not asking her a question and setting her up for a yes or no answer, you're suggesting something in a more assertive, but not overly assertive, way. Get her number if she agrees to it. Something like "cool, let's swap numbers and find a time that's best for both of us."

Again, you're not asking a question. Also, make sure it's during a weekday. Weekends are too intimate as well.

And always keep in mind that by NOT asking, you're going to be sitting here on Sept, wondering what could have been, and beat yourself up over it. Just ask, the worst that can happen is that you get turned down.

Well, she COULD laugh at you, but that will never happen, and if it did, she wasn't someone to go chasing after in the first place at all now was she?

Good luck, cunt. Don't fuck up.

What if you're some overweight dude

Luciana · February 01, 2018, 05:07:04 PM

Quote from: Genghis Khan on February 01, 2018, 05:05:54 PM

What if you're some overweight dude

1. Workout. Looking better means you feel better and releases endorphin's all up in your brain

even then, chubby people can look good if they know what they're doing

Verbatim · February 01, 2018, 05:10:08 PM

the problem with working out is that you will never know if a girl likes you for you, or for your body

so i'd find that plan viscerally unappealing no matter what

TB · February 01, 2018, 05:11:05 PM

Quote from: Luciana on February 01, 2018, 04:50:09 PM

On top of all of that and to your point about the first 2 points just being good things to develop in the first place, learning to listen is another great tool for general use. Paraphrasing is a good way to do this.

Asking questions is another great way to get anyone talking. An interesting sort of thing is that people love talking about themselves. So asking questions (without sounding like you're interrogating them of course) is a great way to keep up conversation. "How was work today?" "Oh that's good / bad, that must've felt pretty ________. What did you say to them?" stuff like that.

An advantage to this is that if she starts asking questions about you and stuff you're doing it's a decent indicator she might be interested.

Also just in general listening is a pretty good habit to acquire.