You can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?
I made an unsuccessful private group on bnetStill living with the guilt
Quote from: Onion on February 23, 2017, 05:03:12 PMI made an unsuccessful private group on bnetStill living with the guiltl m a o
Quote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PMYou can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.
Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PMQuote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PMYou can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadian
Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PMQuote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PMQuote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PMYou can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadianwhat does that mean
Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 06:31:02 PMQuote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PMQuote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PMQuote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PMYou can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadianwhat does that meanYou people aren't supposed to be capable of that.
Quote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:32:49 PMQuote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 06:31:02 PMQuote from: DAS B00T x2 on February 23, 2017, 06:06:12 PMQuote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 05:30:26 PMQuote from: MyNameIsCharlie on February 23, 2017, 05:03:30 PMYou can try to make it right, but it's not always possible. If you did something bad enough that you feel that you can't live with it, apologies may never be enough. If you don't mind, what happened?i said awful things about one of my best friends. the kind of things that are so fundamentally disrespectful that i would never even want forgiveness because i dont feel i deserve it.what the fuck bro, I thought you were a canadianwhat does that meanYou people aren't supposed to be capable of that.dad, you have no idea what i'm capable of
is this at all related to that other thread you made that was kinda vague
Real friendship is strong enough to handle stuff like this.
Shit will blow over. Eventually you just accept it and move on. I lost three years of my life to alcohol and feeling sorry for myself, it's not something I'd recommend.
yes but i'm trying to make the topic questions more general so people don't flip out again
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 23, 2017, 08:12:33 PMShit will blow over. Eventually you just accept it and move on. I lost three years of my life to alcohol and feeling sorry for myself, it's not something I'd recommend.yeah im not in the business of wallowing in self pity anymore. i have too many responsibilities and goals i need to work for.still doesn't help that i feel guilty about how things ended with my buddy. but i mean, i genuinely felt all the things i said about him and on some level, if i do feel those things, do i really want him as a friend? or am i just a beggar who can't be a chooser in the friend department?
Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 08:10:22 PMQuote from: challengerX on February 23, 2017, 07:57:28 PMReal friendship is strong enough to handle stuff like this.well how would you feel if suddenly found out your best friend of 5 years holds unflattering, disrespectful and somewhat unfounded views about yourself that completely and fundamentally insult the person you are and the things you've gone throughYou probably would've never been my best friend because I'd be able to tell when you disagreed with shit I said or from facial expressions and body language at thing I do or believe in. I don't know, I've honestly never had something like that happen to me. Could you give us some more details?
Quote from: challengerX on February 23, 2017, 07:57:28 PMReal friendship is strong enough to handle stuff like this.well how would you feel if suddenly found out your best friend of 5 years holds unflattering, disrespectful and somewhat unfounded views about yourself that completely and fundamentally insult the person you are and the things you've gone through
Quote from: branches on February 23, 2017, 08:15:05 PMQuote from: Dietrich Six on February 23, 2017, 08:12:33 PMShit will blow over. Eventually you just accept it and move on. I lost three years of my life to alcohol and feeling sorry for myself, it's not something I'd recommend.yeah im not in the business of wallowing in self pity anymore. i have too many responsibilities and goals i need to work for.still doesn't help that i feel guilty about how things ended with my buddy. but i mean, i genuinely felt all the things i said about him and on some level, if i do feel those things, do i really want him as a friend? or am i just a beggar who can't be a chooser in the friend department?Friendships are chosen and can be ended at any time. There's no reason to waste time on someone who isn't benefiting you because of "friendship". It's important to be introspective when it comes to emotional matters.If your friend changed in a way that is unacceptable or you found something out about them that you don't like it's not the end of the world to let them go.