Girlfriend or Career ?

OnionBeetle · June 30, 2016, 11:08:04 AM

Hello friends, I have a hypothethical question for you and would be interest to hear your reasoning for answer.

Lets imagine that you have been offered a place at your dream job, it pays well and you very much like everything about it, you try get this job for long time and now is your chance.

Only problem is that you have to move across the world to work there and that means goodbye to your gf. But you also like your gf very much too because she is good at cooking and many other things.

Here is question, there is no right answer but just want to see what you would do. Do you pick your gf over job or job over gf? For sake of question lets just say there is no compromise can happen is one or other.

PSU · June 30, 2016, 11:14:10 AM

if its just my gf?

Then I'm taking the job.

Zonda · June 30, 2016, 11:16:23 AM

Idk tbh

Tyger · June 30, 2016, 11:18:22 AM

Why wouldn't my gf come with me

If she's not willing to come with you to help you attain your dreams and mad skrilla she's not wife material anyway

OnionBeetle · June 30, 2016, 11:19:32 AM

Quote from: Tyger on June 30, 2016, 11:18:22 AM

Why wouldn't my gf come with me

If she's not willing to come with you to help you attain your dreams and mad skrilla she's not wife material anyway

I see what you're saying, let me add a little bit more to the question then.

She can't come with you for reason beyond her control, but she would have come otherwise.

Verbatim · June 30, 2016, 11:23:07 AM

assuming i had one, i would discuss the matter with her, and base my decision off that

BaconShelf · June 30, 2016, 11:30:46 AM

Career every time.

MyNameIsCharlie · June 30, 2016, 11:36:49 AM

If it were when I didn't have kids and an ex-wife...

If she truly loved me enough, she'll move with me. If she doesn't love me enough to do that, then she isn't worth staying for. It's a now vs future dilemma. She shouldn't ask that I pass up my future for her wish to stay here.

But, that's me in my early 20's. Now? I don't know. Both of us have kids and the other parents in the kids' lives. It isn't so easy to uproot and go.

I'm curious to what others ITT would do if the situation were reversed. What if your GF got the offer. Would you go or stay?

OnionBeetle · June 30, 2016, 11:43:12 AM

That is interesting question you make Charlie, it is a good idea to look at it from the other persons perspective.

Coco · June 30, 2016, 11:56:09 AM

Depends: how serious is your relationship? How good is your current job? How good is hers?

OnionBeetle · June 30, 2016, 12:06:52 PM

Quote from: Coco on June 30, 2016, 11:56:09 AM

Depends: how serious is your relationship? How good is your current job? How good is hers?

in context of this question lets say that ;

- relationship is serious but you are no married or engaged

- current job is ok, you're making around 12 dollar an hour

- her job is better than yours but once again is not making amazing money

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Dietrich Six · June 30, 2016, 12:18:26 PM

Career. Plenty of bitches in the ocean

Naru · June 30, 2016, 12:24:51 PM

Career is what matters.

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Desty · June 30, 2016, 12:58:22 PM

Quote from: OnionBeetle on June 30, 2016, 11:08:04 AM

But you also like your gf very much too because she is good at cooking and many other things.

LOL

Desty · June 30, 2016, 12:59:35 PM

OT: I'd go for a year or so to get the experience, then move back and get jobs more easily

Kitsune 狐 · June 30, 2016, 01:00:37 PM

Why not both and move her ass out there with you? She could get a working visa and find work there as well.

gats · June 30, 2016, 01:03:38 PM

Career.

Quote from: Tyger on June 30, 2016, 11:18:22 AM

Why wouldn't my gf come with me

If she's not willing to come with you to help you attain your dreams and mad skrilla she's not wife material anyway

maybe she has her own career where you live already?

Tyger · June 30, 2016, 01:04:17 PM

Quote from: gats on June 30, 2016, 01:03:38 PM

Career.

Quote from: Tyger on June 30, 2016, 11:18:22 AM
Why wouldn't my gf come with me

If she's not willing to come with you to help you attain your dreams and mad skrilla she's not wife material anyway
maybe she has her own career where you live already?

But she's a women

Elai · July 01, 2016, 01:37:59 AM

Girlfriend, easily. Not even a question in my mind, given she meets all of my current standards.

Jono · July 01, 2016, 06:33:57 AM

Career, easily

Money > everything

Dietrich Six · July 01, 2016, 09:15:10 AM

Quote from: Callus on July 01, 2016, 01:37:59 AM

Girlfriend, easily. Not even a question in my mind, given she meets all of my current standards.

What if she doesn't meet all your standards?

Turkey · July 01, 2016, 09:21:02 AM

If it was temporary, I'd put the relationship lb hold and do the long distance game until it's done.

We'd have to talk about it first, though.

Elai · July 01, 2016, 02:48:54 PM

Quote from: Dietrich Six on July 01, 2016, 09:15:10 AM

Quote from: Callus on July 01, 2016, 01:37:59 AM
Girlfriend, easily. Not even a question in my mind, given she meets all of my current standards.

What if she doesn't meet all your standards?

Then I wouldn't date her, simple as that.

DAS B00T x2 · July 01, 2016, 02:53:05 PM

Fuck bitches, get money.