Discuss Social Gathering bullshit ITT

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 01:19:05 PM

Oh joy. I got invited out to dinner. The invitation extends to me and my mother. So here's the deal. If I piss off and don't show up like a supportive gentlemen, I'd look quite bad. But I don't entertain the fucking idea of sitting there for an hour, eating food and not talking cause I've nothing to say. Or actually, stifling what I could talk about since I'd lose the hosts faster than a teacher trying to explain complex math to a kindergartener.

And I really, really fucking don't like the idea of putting on a fake smile and doing the small talk routine.

So discuss your all time favorite social event/dealing with people or shit you don't feel like kind of moment while I go and do something with my sorry bones and fix my garage door.

Turkey · March 29, 2015, 01:20:17 PM

Who invited you? Is it an invitation to your mom, and they extended it to you, or vice versa?

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 02:49:00 PM

Quote from: HurtfulTurkey on March 29, 2015, 01:20:17 PM

Who invited you? Is it an invitation to your mom, and they extended it to you, or vice versa?

Some older folks. Friends/acquaintences with my mother. But it was an invitation for the both of us. If I back out it would be rather insulting.

I'd wager the invite came when he was in here a couple days ago at 7 in the morning waiting to see if another guy showed up that he'd ask for help to, instead I asked what he needed help with and fixed his garage door for him.

He's not a bad guy. He's just got a sense of humor I don't particularily enjoy. And the last thing I want to do is sit around in public this evening.

Raw Sugar · March 29, 2015, 03:01:13 PM

Holy shit a grown man acting like a bitch. Id be surprised but this is how a lot of guys are these days.

True Turquoise · March 29, 2015, 03:02:34 PM

I like to go out to diners.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 03:10:16 PM

Quote from: Raw Sugar on March 29, 2015, 03:01:13 PM

Holy shit a grown man acting like a bitch. Id be surprised but this is how a lot of guys are these days.

Heyo join the club. I'd be surprised too except that it's all so played out. Cep't that while I complain, unlike most around me out here, I try to keep the civility and friendliness alive.

No matter how much I detest something, I do things more for other folk's sake.

Like I'm going to say, "Hey mom, go fuck yourself I don't feel like being social. Show up for the evening occassion alone."

So take a seat. Folks will dissappoint you.

I'd say surprise except that you're not supposed to say that when it's rape.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 03:12:52 PM

Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:02:34 PM

I like to go out to diners.

But only if they're actual diners right? Cause then it warrents takeout otherwise.

True Turquoise · March 29, 2015, 03:13:17 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 03:12:52 PM

Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:02:34 PM
I like to go out to diners.

But only if they're actual diners right? Cause then it warrents takeout otherwise.

yeah

Naru · March 29, 2015, 03:14:41 PM

I enjoy going out with the family gatherings with the part of the family I usually talk to.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 03:15:12 PM

Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:13:17 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 03:12:52 PM
Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:02:34 PM
I like to go out to diners.

But only if they're actual diners right? Cause then it warrents takeout otherwise.
yeah

Just to clarify. We're talking diner as in those nice red chairs? Those red apolstry seats. The silver barstool chairs around the main table with more red?

Love those seats.

Every other style can go fuck itself.

True Turquoise · March 29, 2015, 03:17:16 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 03:15:12 PM

Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:13:17 PM
Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 03:12:52 PM
Quote from: True Turquoise on March 29, 2015, 03:02:34 PM
I like to go out to diners.

But only if they're actual diners right? Cause then it warrents takeout otherwise.
yeah

Just to clarify. We're talking diner as in those nice red chairs? Those red apolstry seats. The silver barstool chairs around the main table with more red?

Love those seats.

Every other style can go fuck itself.

if i can get to those >.>

Girl of Mystery · March 29, 2015, 03:20:27 PM

idk
i enjoy going out for a meal with family and family friends

Ásgeirr · March 29, 2015, 03:22:18 PM

Ive never gone out to eat.

Friends have been going to bars lately but i really dont feel like going to one myself.

Not Comms Officer · March 29, 2015, 03:32:28 PM

There was this one party I was invited to by some older friends of mine, and everyone there 30 or so. It was like heaven since I was able to get along with everyone so well unlike people who are my age. And a lot of them were researchers, professors, or students at Stanford (one of the top universities in the country), so that was an added bonus. The party was also a drinking party as well, and the hosts just let me drink anyways despite me being 19 at the time since most of the people there were foreigners from countries where the drinking age is 18 or less.

R o c k e t · March 29, 2015, 03:34:38 PM

I enjoy socializing, sometimes even with people I don't even know.
That way I don't have to wonder what questions to ask, because any will do.

gats · March 29, 2015, 03:39:47 PM

I like social gatherings, they help me feel less miserable. As long as there's alcohol, no one likes sober gatherings.

Raw Sugar · March 29, 2015, 04:25:46 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 03:10:16 PM

Quote from: Raw Sugar on March 29, 2015, 03:01:13 PM
Holy shit a grown man acting like a bitch. Id be surprised but this is how a lot of guys are these days.

Heyo join the club. I'd be surprised too except that it's all so played out. Cep't that while I complain, unlike most around me out here, I try to keep the civility and friendliness alive.

No matter how much I detest something, I do things more for other folk's sake.

Like I'm going to say, "Hey mom, go fuck yourself I don't feel like being social. Show up for the evening occassion alone."

So take a seat. Folks will dissappoint you.

I'd say surprise except that you're not supposed to say that when it's rape.

Why even bother complaining if you're gonna do it anyway though? It just makes you sound like you're miserable and angsty. If you don't want to go say, "sorry no thank you." That's how you decline like an adult.
If you are going to go, wear that fake smile just like everyone else at the gathering and try to enjoy yourself. It's like you've already planned to have a bad time.

Jive Turkey · March 29, 2015, 04:28:36 PM

I hate how at a party it's harder to get in unless you have girls with you

Jive Turkey · March 29, 2015, 04:31:04 PM

@ OP if I am invited to something I ALWAYS put as much effort into going as I can. Get comfortable w being uncomfortable ect. You are not above these people, force yourself to go

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 05:21:07 PM

Quote from: Jive Turkey on March 29, 2015, 04:31:04 PM

@ OP if I am invited to something I ALWAYS put as much effort into going as I can. Get comfortable w being uncomfortable ect. You are not above these people, force yourself to go

Or alternatively, I can get comfortable trying to live comfortably in a life that I prefer. I don't find the idea of fake smiles and pointless small talk entertaining. It's a fucking waste of time. Especially with people I wouldn't call friends. If you know anything about me you know that I measure my time and I value it because I've got higher chances of no longer having any time on my clock left in the future.

Over the course of those two hours or so that will be spent, I could actually be doing shit.

Do you know what I say to "get comfortable being uncomfortable?"

"Fuck that shit."

I'm not above anybody. But I've the wonderful ability of choice that same as any other. So when I build my nice little home, far away from it all later this year.

I will certainly choose to live in peace and quiet.

TB · March 29, 2015, 05:24:19 PM

eh, I enjoy going out for dinner with family or friends or whatever.
It's always nice just getting together and discussing stuff.

OT: You really should go and try to put on a kind demeanor.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 05:31:03 PM

Quote from: Raw Sugar on March 29, 2015, 04:25:46 PM

sound like you're miserable.

I'm glad your so blatently astute. What gave it away?

Another thing. Reputation, in this town, word of mouth, is a wonderful thing to put up with. If I ditch the thing it'll get shotgunned all round' town.

I don't normally care about reputation. But what disgusts me is the fact that you can hear rumors behind your back.

And then turn around on the people speaking them and recieve pleasantries and fake smiles.

I'm not a fan of beating around the bush bullshit. And lately, it's quite tiresome to hear talk of that sort. Last thing I want, is to have to listen to that tripe.

So just this once, I'll be nice. I'll dodge the rumor bullet. But I sure won't like it. Some things get too deep under my skin some days. Social crap like this, is high on the list. I'm not in the mood or the tolerance range for it these days.

TB · March 29, 2015, 05:32:43 PM

Quote from: Oss on March 29, 2015, 03:22:18 PM

Ive never gone out to eat.

How...?

R o c k e t · March 29, 2015, 05:32:55 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 05:21:07 PM

Quote from: Jive Turkey on March 29, 2015, 04:31:04 PM
@ OP if I am invited to something I ALWAYS put as much effort into going as I can. Get comfortable w being uncomfortable ect. You are not above these people, force yourself to go
I don't find the idea of fake smiles and pointless small talk entertaining. It's a fucking waste of time. Especially with people I wouldn't call friends.

Then don't wear a fake smile, and don't have pointless small talk? Try to change that, make that time meaningful. You do talk as if you plan on having a bad time.

People can surprise you sometimes. If anything, hey its a free meal.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 05:34:08 PM

Quote from: TBlocks on March 29, 2015, 05:24:19 PM

eh, I enjoy going out for dinner with family or friends or whatever.
It's always nice just getting together and discussing stuff.

OT: You really should go and try to put on a kind demeanor.

You say that is if I'm not friendly in person no matter how irritable I am. If there's one thing I'm half decent at, it's trying to get along with everybody. Trouble, and causing it, is overrated.

Sigma617 · March 29, 2015, 05:34:29 PM

I never get invited out anymore anyway.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 05:40:09 PM

Quote from: Val 'Ketam on March 29, 2015, 05:32:55 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 05:21:07 PM
Quote from: Jive Turkey on March 29, 2015, 04:31:04 PM
@ OP if I am invited to something I ALWAYS put as much effort into going as I can. Get comfortable w being uncomfortable ect. You are not above these people, force yourself to go
I don't find the idea of fake smiles and pointless small talk entertaining. It's a fucking waste of time. Especially with people I wouldn't call friends.

Then don't wear a fake smile, and don't have pointless small talk? Try to change that, make that time meaningful. You do talk as if you plan on having a bad time.

People can surprise you sometimes. If anything, hey its a free meal.

Not when you can read them like an open book. Not when you've lived in a small town for roughly 12 years or so and many faces are transparent. And a free meal he says.

I'm so cheery these days that I actually forget to eat. I go through my entire day, or two, and then suddenly realize halfway or at the end of the day.

"Oh hey, I haven't eaten." Slips my mind and I don't even notice. Considering how irrelevant food is to me these days, is it worth sitting around in public forcing myself to make conversation?

Not particularily.

Sandtrap · March 29, 2015, 05:42:02 PM

Quote from: Sigma617 on March 29, 2015, 05:34:29 PM

I never get invited out anymore anyway.

Did you ever flip the tables?

Invite everybody instead of being invited?

Sigma617 · March 29, 2015, 05:45:17 PM

Quote from: Sandtrap on March 29, 2015, 05:42:02 PM

Quote from: Sigma617 on March 29, 2015, 05:34:29 PM
I never get invited out anymore anyway.

Did you ever flip the tables?

Invite everybody instead of being invited?

Lol. That never works. You should know that.

I lied anyway. Today I was invited to my friend's son's party at Chuckie Cheese.

I was going to go but I don't have a car and I didn't feel like asking anyone to give me a ride.

Ásgeirr · March 29, 2015, 05:49:59 PM

Quote from: TBlocks on March 29, 2015, 05:32:43 PM

Quote from: Oss on March 29, 2015, 03:22:18 PM
Ive never gone out to eat.

How...?

No one has invited and we havent gone with my family either.