Depression/Good starting alcohol

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · February 07, 2018, 05:42:41 PM

Quote from: Ian on February 07, 2018, 05:33:25 PM

I’ll think about it, but I’m still struggling to figure out what to do the next time I see her. She completely ignored a conversation I tried starting Sunday night and I’ve been praying not to see her since because just knowing I’ll have to see her gives me a pit in my stomach.

Quote from: FatherlyNick on February 07, 2018, 05:28:45 PM
Quote from: Dietrich Six on February 07, 2018, 04:41:22 PM

From my experience, cutting ALL contact is the best way to get over them. Pretend they no longer exist for a year or two. Do not check up on them on fb or irl.

It will be very hard for the first month, but then after you will feel relieved and able to focus on yourself again.
The absolute worst thing you can do now is try to get back what was never really there.

Ian · February 07, 2018, 05:47:57 PM

I work with her....

Quote from: FatherlyNick on February 07, 2018, 05:42:41 PM

From my experience, cutting ALL contact is the best way to get over them. Pretend they no longer exist for a year or two. Do not check up on them on fb or irl.

It will be very hard for the first month, but then after you will feel relieved and able to focus on yourself again.
The absolute worst thing you can do now is try to get back what was never really there.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · February 07, 2018, 05:48:58 PM

Most importantly - give yourself time to 'mourn'.

Cry if you feel like it. Cry a lot, its okay. Talk to the closest people about how you feel.
And I'm sorry man, sometimes things don't work out.

FatherlyNick - fuck putin · February 07, 2018, 05:50:22 PM

Quote from: Ian on February 07, 2018, 05:47:57 PM

I work with her....

Quote from: FatherlyNick on February 07, 2018, 05:42:41 PM
From my experience, cutting ALL contact is the best way to get over them. Pretend they no longer exist for a year or two. Do not check up on them on fb or irl.

It will be very hard for the first month, but then after you will feel relieved and able to focus on yourself again.
The absolute worst thing you can do now is try to get back what was never really there.

Oh fuck man. Workplace romance is risky for this exact reason. I have no idea how to deal with this. Life spared me.

February 07, 2018, 05:59:24 PM

Oh shit I'll be at Downtown Disney on March 16th. We should meet up. I'm going to carpool with family because we barcrawl then.

SecondClass · February 07, 2018, 06:08:30 PM

When we seek to destroy others we often hurt ourselves, because it is the self that wants to be destroyed.

Mint · February 07, 2018, 09:08:13 PM

What Jive said. Learn and grow. Also, just do the normal thing and be an asshole to her.

FishBlues · February 07, 2018, 10:06:31 PM

We sneak hand sanitizer in rehab

Ushan · February 07, 2018, 10:21:09 PM

It's not going to help, it'll only postpone processing your feelings, and you'll come out of it feeling like you've just wasted a bunch of time doing nothing in particular.