A year or so back, a buddy of mine who I frequently have game nights on MCC with me, basically chewed me out. He told me I have to start initiating things more, at the time he always sent me invites on Xbox and texted me telling me to get on so we can play some Halo or Minecraft because we both knew we were both free and up for it but he was always the one started the invitations. Nothing has really changed since then and it's been running on two years. It's not just with him either, back in 2013, before my father's condition worsened my second oldest brother was practically dark for prolonged periods of time. I relied on talking to him via Skype but I always waited for him to start a conversation and I never would even though it showed him online and available. I didn't know much about his predicaments since he was living in Manhattan but he's gotten better at talking to me since the beginning of 2014.

I'm afraid of attempting to talk to the friends I really care about out of fear of rejection. The last thing I want is for someone to tell me they're angry with me, or that they're angry and are actively ignoring me and attempting to talk to them would only make it worse. I would rather have someone upset with me but have a situation that is repairable over someone being angry at me and leaving me in the dark or losing the friendship. I also don't want to come off as imposing on them or clinging to them desperately. Even though I'm told attempting to talk to them wont bother them and that most times they're just really busy, I get very paranoid if I try to talk and I'm only met with silence.

I don't know how to prevent it. It started after I graduated and was basically a NEET for six months but lately it's been eating at me more so than usual these past couple of months and I have a hard time focusing on work or enjoying my free time because of it. There are people I want to talk too but I'm afraid they're angry or upset at me, or that I would be bothering them if I tried, or that they're bored of interacting with me. I get afraid of saying something to them so I don't say anything and then when I continue to get silence I start to freak out.

Does anyone have advice on a situation or know of somebody who has had a situation like this and relieved it?

In my case I usually don't have anything that I think my close friends would be interested in, when I do have something I share, but it typically doesn't go very far. And I've always felt since I was a kid that the people I know, friends included don't really bother starting conversations with me since they don't think I'm as fun to talk to as their other friends, so I find myself feeling rather lonely because of that.

I dunno bro.
I don't talk to people because I don't want to be a bother...

Bother me with some loli doujins and I'll return the favor.

Quote from: Yu on March 01, 2016, 09:49:45 PM

Quote from: DAS B00T 2016 on March 01, 2016, 09:46:44 PM

I dunno bro.
I don't talk to people because I don't want to be a bother...

Bother me with some loli doujins and I'll return the favor.

Does that mean your penis is working again?

Its making a comeback, not quite like how it was 4 years ago, fapping twice a day, but its getting there.

I'm a pretty boring person with nothing going for them so I don't talk much to people. (Which I actually hate because I feel like I seriously need the shit, and I don't like that I haven't really gotten to know very many people any better) However, I started to not give a fuck and talked a lot to certain dudes on xbox until I got sick to the point where I was so distant we moved our separate ways. And now I hardly talk to anyone again.

From my experience though, not talking makes shit worse.

Don't lose contacts or burn bridges. Don't be a lonely boy like me.

I don't want to. But I'm so afraid of the possibility of people rejecting me since that's all people have ever done, it gets so tiring.

Why? You do anything that deserves rejection? Accept and embrace humility and no one can put you down any further. If someone doesn't like you simply for who you are then they aren't worth the effort to command their respect.

On mobile at the gym but I'll make a helpful post when I get on desktop unless I forget

I avoid initiating things, its just a hassle. Would rather be in peace.

What the fuck is happening in this thread.

Lonely people being lonely.

I'm the same way, only even if they initiate it I don't always respond either.  I'm just not always up to talking or doing stuff, I've gone a couple months without talking to anyone.  I'm mostly afraid of losing any small amount of free time I have, I've become really possessive over every minute of my time the last couple years because of my shit job. 

I very rarely initiate discussion, and if I do I get very worried about it. Recently, I was going to a uni interview and decided to ask a friend if they wanted to meet up, and for the longest time I was debating with myself whether I should send it or not. I had wrote the message like 4 times before actually sending it. It all worked out well in the end, I genuinely had nothing to be worried about.

You shouldn't worry about talking to friends, presumably since you call them "friend" they know you well and you know them, worrying about it and not talking to them will just push them away further than saying something that you think is stupid. I'm trying to do it myself. When it comes to people you may not know well, I understand the concern, but just try to be yourself around the people you do know.

I can sympathise. MY friends often have a go at me because I'm part of group conversations on facebook but never actually say anything, just sit there and watch.