Why does music almost always make me feel depressed?

 
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My stupidity is self evident.
All I can really think of is that you're probably already depressed and music just brings it out.

Kupo hit the nail on the head.
Wouldn't I know if I were perpetually depressed?
Hmm, not necessarily <.<
And I wouldn't say you are perpetually depressed either, unless you have dysthymia that is...

I would hazard a guess at the depression you had still being present even if it's not active as such <.<

I couldn't really tell without going over a whole bunch of questions with ya, and I don't know if the mains are the most appropriate place for that >.>
mfw meta is literally triggered by music<.<

I get triggered by missing spaces.
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music<.<

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<.<
PM?
Or facebook.

Whichever's easiest.

Facebook is probably easier, I'm just going to grab my breakfast and some tea and then we can start >.>


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PM?
Or facebook.

Whichever's easiest.

Facebook is probably easier, I'm just going to grab my breakfast and some tea and then we can start >.>
>breakfast at dinner time

Fucking bongs


 
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PM?
Or facebook.

Whichever's easiest.

Facebook is probably easier, I'm just going to grab my breakfast and some tea and then we can start >.>
>breakfast at dinner time

Fucking bongs
It gets worse when you realise it's 40 minutes past midnight, here.

I'm having soup with bread.


 
 
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PM?
Or facebook.

Whichever's easiest.

Facebook is probably easier, I'm just going to grab my breakfast and some tea and then we can start >.>
>breakfast at dinner time

Fucking nocturnals

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Bizarre. Music, at least to me, no matter the genre or tone makes me paint scenes in my head. Anything, I have something going on in the background. Shame I have NO determination to actually make something out of it in drawing or writing.


 
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Okay, here we go. Haven't got much time on my hands, and I'm all a jumbled up mess of thoughts at the moment. But, let's see if I can make a piece of the puzzle clear.

I don't get that particular way around music. But I experience a similar feeling in crowds. When I'm in a crowd of people, I'm not really all there. And as you said, it's a hollow, empty feeling. But it borders almost on depression. I watch the actions of people, one by one, in bits and pieces. And I feel very much "outside" of things.

Now, as you said, the psychological implications are a curiosity. I can only go off what I've looked at in myself. But down to brass tacks.

In regards to crowds, I think it's a longing. A longing to have a place. A moment, in the crowd, a respective part to play as part of the flow of the crowd. But I can't do it alone. As such, when I watch people, couples and friends, it stings a little bit.

This is a the manifestation of my awareness that I no longer wish to be entirely alone. But, it also hinges on our good old friend depression, and self pity.

Which leads me to the true point here.

When I'm down a little bit, and I listen to music, I feel the same way. Same as you. I feel sad. No matter the tune.

So, here's what it comes down to.

The music itself is not your focus. Because you were, and still are subject to depression. What your focus should be is the fact that you have a hole. You have a void, that rests somewhere, about something in your life that isn't being filled.

And when you're down, and you listen to tunes, your subconscious goes to work. See, while you might not actively know it, your subconscious mind does. You're missing something.

Here's the chain for me.

I go into a big crowd. I see lots of people. Having a good time. Couples and friends. I get a little bit sad. But I don't know why. I listen to music. I still get sad. The music, no matter how happy, makes me sad.

And that's because the active part of my head is not aware that in all likelyhood, the sub-conscious part is stuck, jammed on one gear. It lingers to that moment I was in, that I played no part of. And I think it's trying to force you seeing things.

The sub-conscious mind is extremely tricky to navigate, tricky to read, and tricky to understand. I know myself though. And I know exactly how I work. Even still, some days I'm sad. But I know why.

So, to you, the best I can give, is to do a lot of self reflection. Because no doubt, you're missing something. Your waking mind doesn't see it. But your subconscious does.

That sadness in the music, is more of a deflection. It makes you sad. Makes you self pity.

And what happens in self pity?

You say, "Oh poor me. I don't have this. I don't have that."

"I don't have this."

You have a void needing to be filled.

That's my two cents anyway. Could be a crock of shit to you. But it wasn't for me since that's how I found out about what I didn't have that I wanted. A tinge of self pity.

The sub-conscious mind is a tricky little fucker, no?
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Right, I have some more time and I've collected myself up a little better.

The waking mind and the sub-conscious are always at war. They contest one another, constantly. The waking mind is your reality. It's the one you're familiar with, and see every day. Which is why, your subconscious contradicts your beliefs. Because often, people make barriers for themselves. False realities to accept and deal with the world around them.

Look at smokers. You tell them they should stop. It's not healthy for them. That right there should be enough. You're smoking ash and toxic chemicals that wittle your body down piece by piece until you die.

But they say, "oh but I'm addicted. I can't beat it."

That's a lie. People lie to themselves all the time without knowing it. The waking mind will come up with any excuse, any reality that suits them. But the sub-conscious always knows. And that's a fact. You know when docs put people into a state of hypnosis? A controlled state, almost like sleep, where the sub-conscious emerges, like it does when you dream.

That's how they find buried shit. Because the sub-conscious knows. It remembers. It picks up, on all the little things your active mind misses. Like subliminal messaging.

But, even when you're awake, your sub-conscious still holds power. Because it plays games. And you have to look for the contradictions in yourself. Like I said, I'd go into crowds, feel sad, listen to music, and then feel sad, even if I listened to happy music to cheer me up.

I got depressive, and a little bit of self pity slipped in. And one day, I spotted it. I said, "Wait what the fuck? Why am I being all mopey about people? Why am I being mopey about being alone? I've always been alone. I like alone."

Not quite. I like alone. But sharing it with another would be better.

And now, my waking mind knows.

But it's not easy. Because this is your sub-conscious we're talking about here. And sometimes, those contradictions in your thoughts and actions, are so fucking small they aren't even there.

Another suggestion to you, since you probably have access to more than I do, is to go to one of those docs that specializes in that sort of stuff.

But, I'd go with self examination first. Because if you go to one of those docs, you might dig up way more than you want to.

Tell you what? You drink any sort of alcohol?

Try getting tipsy. Or drunk. Get a friend to write shit down. Make a list of questions they can ask you. You know why?

When you're drunk, you're free. Your brain is drunk, and your inhibitions are set loose. That's why drunk people mouth off. They get into fights. They say stupid shit. Because they have nothing holding them back. Nothing holding back what they're thinking.

If you drink, then that might be another way to learn a little bit more about yourself.

And, I have one more example for you about how people lie to themselves.

Talk to a drunk person about some of the shit they said the other night. What do they say?

"Oh I was drunk."

The waking mind, deflecting, and avoiding the sub-conscious mind, which was set free, only briefly.

There you go Meta. Canadian Manchild delivers.

Hope it helps.