Nearly Two Weeks Ago, I was Sexually Assaulted

 
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I was originally going to post this in Anarchy as an anonymous thread, but I figured that a forum with no rules likely wasn't the greatest place to share something like this. So, it's now 2:30 in the morning and I'm typing this thread up with no clear idea or direction as to where it's going to go. If you want to ask stuff or offer advice, I'll take whatever at this point.

Details are in spoilers in case you honestly don't want to read it.
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Counselor said it was good to just write and get my emotions out of my head, so I'm doing it here. Feel privileged.

The assault happened the last weekend of January, in another dorm room on campus. The guy and I had been chatting and he invited me over to hang out and, because I'm apparently stupid, believed that he was better than he really was. So I went over to meet him and...yeah. Things kind of went downhill from there - he was trying to get me naked and his hands into my crotch as I kept saying no and to stop. Was biting at my neck and telling to relax, he'd take care of things. Only reason he stopped initially was because one of the roommates walked into the living room. 

I blame myself for this, even though everyone says not to. Guess that's normal. Haven't reported it to the police, though my counselor set me up with a Title IX coordinator this week. I think that's good.

Like I said, not really sure where this thread is/was going. Might add more to it as other stuff happens, but yeah.




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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.


 
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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.


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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.


 
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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.

Which is why I didn't plan to report it.

And the legal system does have seperate charges for the various things here. It's not like there's one charge for any offense.


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Shit dude, that's rough. You should get a restraining order against that guy. Sexual assault is never okay.

I apologize for what happened to you.


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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.
Luckily, that's rape, not sexual assault


 
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I apologize for what happened to you.
So you did it? Sicko.


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I apologize for what happened to you.
So you did it? Sicko.

What?

Why the fuck would I do that?


 
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I apologize for what happened to you.
So you did it? Sicko.

What?

Why the fuck would I do that?
It's a joke

saying "I apologize" left it open to say you're the one that did it since you personally apologized for something out of your control. I just found it silly.


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I apologize for what happened to you.
So you did it? Sicko.

What?

Why the fuck would I do that?
It's a joke

saying "I apologize" left it open to say you're the one that did it since you personally apologized for something out of your control. I just found it silly.

I thought joking around wasn't allowed in serious.


 
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Why would you let PSU do that to you?


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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.
Luckily, that's rape, not sexual assault
Hoo boy here we go, another progressive dictionary definition meme. Epic.


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Should really report that, it's a rather serious crime.


 
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So why didn't you walk away?


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Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.
Luckily, that's rape, not sexual assault
Hoo boy here we go, another progressive dictionary definition meme. Epic.
Why is it unsurprising that a conservative is downplaying sexual assault?



 
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You will find out who you are not a thousand times, before you ever discover who you are. I hope you find peace in yourself and learn to love instead of hate.
Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.
Luckily, that's rape, not sexual assault
Hoo boy here we go, another progressive dictionary definition meme. Epic.
Why is it unsurprising that a conservative is downplaying sexual assault?


Icy was obviously asking for it, you don't talk to someone unless you're going to have sex with them


 
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So why didn't you walk away?

The guy was quite a bit taller, more muscular, and his breath smelled of booze. I know I should have fought back more, but I guess in my mind at the time, a drunk, violent dude wouldn't make the situation any better.

It's not like I just sat there and let it happen though. I was telling him no and pushing him back from me.


 
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So wait...

This is gay, sexual assault?


Sorry man, but WOW. Wasn't expecting any guy to say they were sexually assaulted here.


 
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This is gay, sexual assault?

No, it's sexual assault.



 
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So why didn't you walk away?

The guy was quite a bit taller, more muscular, and his breath smelled of booze. I know I should have fought back more, but I guess in my mind at the time, a drunk, violent dude wouldn't make the situation any better.

It's not like I just sat there and let it happen though. I was telling him no and pushing him back from me.
Because he wasn't already being violent by forcing himself on you?

Didn't say that - but getting him angry would have only made the whole situation worse

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What was your plan if nobody walked into the room?

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Well that sucks, glad it didn't go any further.

You should pay some people to kick his ass.


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emigrate or degenerate. the choice is yours
Is that sexual assault? Sounds like the guy just groped you, no offence.

Terms of legal code here in the states, yeah. Sexual assault is generally a big umbrella term used, with more specific examples and stuff under it.
Oh right.

Well as shitty as your experience was, I don't really agree with your laws. Touching someone inappropriately is not at all comparable to full blown penis-in-the-orifice nonconsensual sex.
Luckily, that's rape, not sexual assault
Hoo boy here we go, another progressive dictionary definition meme. Epic.
Why is it unsurprising that a conservative is downplaying sexual assault?


I'm not downplaying anything. Criticizing the law for conflating inappropriate groping under the vague banner of 'sexual assault' is literally the opposite of downplaying.


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conflating [non-consensual] inappropriate groping under the vague banner of 'sexual assault'
They are not the same... how?


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conflating [non-consensual] inappropriate groping under the vague banner of 'sexual assault'
They are not the same... how?
Because I think we should be proportional in how we treat these crimes. Groping is quite evidently not as equally bad as tying someone down and force fucking them in the arse/vagina non-consensually, in the same way that battery is not as bad as murder despite both being morally reprehensible.