Female journalist hires a male escort and feels "validated"

Turkey · February 06, 2016, 12:34:45 PM

http://elitedaily.com/dating/male-escort-dinner-party/1224073/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=EG&utm_content=1224073

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I wanted to bring a guy with me to spite my cousin, but there was no one in sight: I currently am not dating anyone seriously, and the only male friends I have are gay or straight and taken. I live in No Man’s Land.
[...]
I’m straight-up worn out from hearing, “You’re pretty cool and smart, so why can’t you find a guy?” Society condones asking women questions like this without stopping to consider how they feel.

Well, I wanted to f*ck with society. I wanted to change the rules. I reached a point where I was so bored with my love life that I was willing to try anything once.

If I was going to do this, I was going to do this right. So, on my own volition, I dropped $150 on a male escort from Rent A Gent. Yes, you read that correctly. I rented a gent.

[...]

I’d never fallen for a guy like Alec, but I found his lack of complication intriguing. His confession that he wanted to get married someday (as we sat among many afraid-of-commitment Millennials) was refreshing. I don’t know if it was the alcohol or the fact that he was unavailable, but I fell in love for the night.

“I’m just your project,” he’d joke. He had a point. Though, later on, the thing felt so natural that I forgot I’d hired someone to pretend to love me.

When the party died down, my cousin pulled me aside. “I’m proud of you,” he said. “You found someone who deserves you.”

There it was: the validation I’d always craved. It was ear candy. It was a kind of acceptance I’d never felt before, and its impermanence didn’t detract from my satisfaction.

Just to preface, I really have no problem with services like these; if someone wants to pay hundreds of dollars per hour to hang out with an attractive person, it's their business. What really gets me about this article is how this story would be vilified in today's society if the roles were switched; if some white guy in a dry spell hired a hot ethnic woman to look good in front of family and wrote an article like this, sites just like this would be shitting all over him for objectifying women and being a sexist. But when a woman does it, it's a heartwarming story of validation and romance.

Super Irish · February 06, 2016, 12:55:48 PM

You should swap the genders around and post it somewhere, watch them roll up with pitchforks. Better still, maybe leave out the journalist's gender and change the escort to female and watch those who "fight for equality" assume the journalist is a man and then go apeshit.

"Journalist hires female escort to feel 'validated' by family". Bam, instead shitstorm.

Spoiler

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I wanted to bring a gal with me to spite my cousin, but there was no one in sight: I currently am not dating anyone seriously, and the only female friends I have are lesbian or straight and taken. I live in No Woman’s Land.
[...]
I’m straight-up worn out from hearing, “You’re pretty cool and smart, so why can’t you find a girl?” Society condones asking questions like this without stopping to consider how they feel.

Well, I wanted to f*ck with society. I wanted to change the rules. I reached a point where I was so bored with my love life that I was willing to try anything once.

If I was going to do this, I was going to do this right. So, on my own volition, I dropped $150 on a female escort from Rent A Lady. Yes, you read that correctly. I rented a lady.

[...]

I’d never fallen for a girl like Alice, but I found her lack of complication intriguing. Her confession that she wanted to get married someday (as we sat among many afraid-of-commitment Millennials) was refreshing. I don’t know if it was the alcohol or the fact that she was unavailable, but I fell in love for the night.

“I’m just your project,” she’d joke. She had a point. Though, later on, the thing felt so natural that I forgot I’d hired someone to pretend to love me.

When the party died down, my cousin pulled me aside. “I’m proud of you,” he said. “You found someone who deserves you.”

There it was: the validation I’d always craved. It was ear candy. It was a kind of acceptance I’d never felt before, and its impermanence didn’t detract from my satisfaction.

SecondClass · February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM

No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Turkey · February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM

Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM

No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.

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eggsalad · February 06, 2016, 03:11:34 PM

Quote from: Turkey Sanders on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

jesus christ i hate these bitchy web authors
and i hate more the fact that they are hired because they have a market

SecondClass · February 06, 2016, 07:41:13 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 06, 2016, 02:47:44 PM

But really why would a man become a prostitute out of desperation instead of a criminal like the large majority of other men?

I'd like to see a study on that. Because stripping and whoring yourself out is a woman thing.

Because there's a bigger market for female whores than male ones.

Cadenza has moved on · February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM

Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM

Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.

I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.

Mordo · February 07, 2016, 02:30:48 PM

Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM

Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM
Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.
I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.

You'd be hard pressed to find him following up on his trash tier opinions when anyone challenges him with facts. This isn't anything new with him.

Thun · February 07, 2016, 02:31:27 PM

Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM

Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.

BTFO

Cadenza has moved on · February 07, 2016, 02:36:52 PM

Quote from: Mordo on February 07, 2016, 02:30:48 PM

Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM
Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM
Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.
I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.
You'd be hard pressed to find him following up on his trash tier opinions when anyone challenges him with facts. This isn't anything new with him.

Doesn't that defeat the point of posting in serious?

Mordo · February 07, 2016, 02:41:59 PM

Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:36:52 PM

Quote from: Mordo on February 07, 2016, 02:30:48 PM
Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM
Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM
Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.
I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.
You'd be hard pressed to find him following up on his trash tier opinions when anyone challenges him with facts. This isn't anything new with him.
Doesn't that defeat the point of posting in serious?

You would think so, but whenever I confront his opinions he always either A) fumbles around like a retard and provides a half assed answer, or B) doesn't bother replying at all.

SecondClass · February 07, 2016, 04:52:03 PM

Quote from: Mordo on February 07, 2016, 02:30:48 PM

Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM
Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM
Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.
I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.
You'd be hard pressed to find him following up on his trash tier opinions when anyone challenges him with facts. This isn't anything new with him.

Some tumblr-tier journalists have shitty opinions. Is this where I'm supposed to be defending them? Double standards are trash, and prostitution/escort services are a non-story, male or female. Just because Turkey linked some retard liberal news sources doesn't mean I have some obligation to agree with them.

SecondClass · February 07, 2016, 06:56:40 PM

^I guess just ignore this and keep thinking I got backed into a corner somehow

I'm not obligated to mirror the beliefs of annoying SJW journalists

Mordo · February 07, 2016, 07:35:24 PM

Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 07, 2016, 04:52:03 PM

Quote from: Mordo on February 07, 2016, 02:30:48 PM
Quote from: Cadenza on February 07, 2016, 02:10:07 PM
Quote from: Jarihat Turkia on February 06, 2016, 01:46:13 PM
Quote from: ❤ SecondClass on February 06, 2016, 01:34:00 PM
No big deal either way, and no one would flip out if the genders were reversed. This is a non-story.

Here's the same site criticizing men who have bought escorts, broadly denouncing them as "not real men".

Here's The Atlantic, a bastion of progressive liberalism, arguing that escort services are worse than simple prostitution.

Here's another article from The Atlantic detailing a similar story to the OP, basically a romanticized retelling of a journalists night out with a male escort.
I like how SecondClass completely ignores this.
You'd be hard pressed to find him following up on his trash tier opinions when anyone challenges him with facts. This isn't anything new with him.
Some tumblr-tier journalists have shitty opinions. Is this where I'm supposed to be defending them? Double standards are trash, and prostitution/escort services are a non-story, male or female. Just because Turkey linked some retard liberal news sources doesn't mean I have some obligation to agree with them.

>"no one would flip shit if the genders were reversed hurr durr"
>Turkey then proceeds to provide you with links on people flipping shit when the genders were reversed

wew lad

SecondClass · February 07, 2016, 07:41:24 PM

I guess I underestimated the idiocy of those specific reporters, then. Doesn't mean I have to subscribe to those opinions.

Yu · February 07, 2016, 10:59:30 PM

Regardless of the reporter and hired person's gender, it would still be a story about validation, anyone who can't see that is too stuck on gender equality shit

challengerX · February 08, 2016, 05:33:02 AM

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The Lord Ruler · February 08, 2016, 09:01:23 AM

Sounds like the beginning of a shitty romance novel

big sponge · February 08, 2016, 01:18:31 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 05:33:02 AM

Quote from: Yu on February 07, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Regardless of the reporter and hired person's gender, it would still be a story about validation, anyone who can't see that is too stuck on gender equality shit
Uh, no. It's creepy.

I can't tell if you're saying this ironically or not.

challengerX · February 08, 2016, 02:43:56 PM

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big sponge · February 08, 2016, 02:48:32 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 02:43:56 PM

Quote from: LC on February 08, 2016, 01:18:31 PM
Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 05:33:02 AM
Quote from: Yu on February 07, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Regardless of the reporter and hired person's gender, it would still be a story about validation, anyone who can't see that is too stuck on gender equality shit
Uh, no. It's creepy.

I can't tell if you're saying this ironically or not.
Hiring a hooker and pretending he/she's your sexual partner for validation isn't creepy to you?

Escorts tend to be more classy than your off the corner hooker so I don't know if "creepy" would be the right word to use.

challengerX · February 08, 2016, 03:00:15 PM

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CIS · February 08, 2016, 03:12:42 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 03:00:15 PM

Quote from: LC on February 08, 2016, 02:48:32 PM
Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 02:43:56 PM
Quote from: LC on February 08, 2016, 01:18:31 PM
Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 05:33:02 AM
Quote from: Yu on February 07, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Regardless of the reporter and hired person's gender, it would still be a story about validation, anyone who can't see that is too stuck on gender equality shit
Uh, no. It's creepy.

I can't tell if you're saying this ironically or not.
Hiring a hooker and pretending he/she's your sexual partner for validation isn't creepy to you?

Escorts tend to be more classy than your off the corner hooker so I don't know if "creepy" would be the right word to use.
Yeah, I know. That doesn't make a difference. The fact is you're paying a prostitute to pretend to be your boyfriend/girlfriend for validation.

It's pathetic and creepy.

It is somewhat strange but it's not something that needs to be worried about. If someone wants to hire a sex worker for whatever reason then I couldn't care less.

Super Irish · February 08, 2016, 03:18:17 PM

Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 03:00:15 PM

Quote from: LC on February 08, 2016, 02:48:32 PM
Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 02:43:56 PM
Quote from: LC on February 08, 2016, 01:18:31 PM
Quote from: challengerX on February 08, 2016, 05:33:02 AM
Quote from: Yu on February 07, 2016, 10:59:30 PM
Regardless of the reporter and hired person's gender, it would still be a story about validation, anyone who can't see that is too stuck on gender equality shit
Uh, no. It's creepy.

I can't tell if you're saying this ironically or not.
Hiring a hooker and pretending he/she's your sexual partner for validation isn't creepy to you?

Escorts tend to be more classy than your off the corner hooker so I don't know if "creepy" would be the right word to use.
Yeah, I know. That doesn't make a difference. The fact is you're paying a prostitute to pretend to be your boyfriend/girlfriend for validation.

It's pathetic and creepy.

Worse still, it's not really for your own sake or pleasure. You're doing it because of your pushy traditional parents who keep asking "when will you settle down, why haven't you got the number of that nice girl/boy at the cafe?" and other shit like that.

Plus it seems to just spiral downwards from there. You'd spend X-hundreds to have them for the day, keep them off your back for that time, but then they'll be asking why the hell did you dump them or where'd they go, considering they were such lovely company.

Then it's just more lies, and/or more money down the drain to just keep it going. Basically you're fucked.

Spoiler

You in the figurative sense of course. Actual you wouldn't be going near them, let alone needing to.

snee0rp · February 08, 2016, 05:17:33 PM

Why exactly do people need to feel validated?

Are they so insecure that they need someone else to tell them how great they are?

Sandtrap · February 08, 2016, 07:35:09 PM

Quote from: Hargbeast on February 08, 2016, 05:17:33 PM

Why exactly do people need to feel validated?

Are they so insecure that they need someone else to tell them how great they are?

Sometimes it's to get people off your back. At least for me it is.

I've got fucking people everywhere breathing down my neck about shit like that and the only time I flipped on the kill switch to give them a retort salvo back, it ended poorly. I can't go anywhere with somebody in my town who knows me making a god damn comment about the fact I'm on my own with no partner of any kind.