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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:30:30 AM »
There is more to it (why I don't like cats, for the example) that's what makes it circular, because thus far, your view has boiled down to "i don't wanna cause i don't wanna"
it's your prerogative if you want to feel that way and don't want to explain it further, because it's not my place to pry
but understand that this is why it makes your position so difficult
I literally said why I don't like it in the post after that though It's pointless I don't like talking for the sake of talking; I'd rather say what needs to be said then be done. It's the reason I hate long arguments: if everything's been said but there isn't an agreement, every extra word is just being redundant. Choosing to meet someone for just the sake of talking to them sounds like a waste of time. Therefore, given my disposition towards not speaking to someone just for the sake of chatter, it would be weird for me to suddenly schedule lunch with some person I've never met just to talk to them.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:24:59 AM »
im using weird as a synonym for awkward. how is doing something you dont want to do awkward. its nonsensical sure but not awkward.
"I really hate putting toothpicks under my toenails, but you know what? I'm going to go ahead and do that right now anyway just because."
That does not sound weird to you
like at all
pretending that you don't already do things like that (alcohol)
that's not a fair comparison, and i don't need to tell you why
that said, if you asked me why i wouldn't want to shove a toothpick under my toenail, i would be able to explain to you why in detail—no problem
I only drink things that I like the taste of; if I don't, then I add something to it to make it taste good. And yeah, it's more than a bit weird (a bit psycho tbh), but I chose an extreme example to illustrate a point. My bad.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:22:40 AM »
People put on more of a facade """""in real life""""" than they do on the Internet.
You should know better than to assume that I'm at my realest here lmao
You're "people"?
Not that that was the crux of my point, or anything. I'd much rather you have responded to that.
A lot of people, sure. But a lot more like fake internet points enough to lie for attention, or will try to save face even if the platform is completely anonymous. People are egotistical; they'll do whatever they can to get the attention of their choice from an audience, regardless of what they have to say or do.
1024
« on: August 08, 2017, 01:19:47 AM »
It's weird because I don't want to do it, so doing it anyway would make no sense. I have no idea how to be more straightforward than that.
because that's very circular
you're not obligated to explain further than that, but you can't act like there isn't more to it
How is it circular Information: I hate cats Motivation: stay away from cats Action: go and sit in a room filled with cats It makes perfect sense to not do things I don't like. There is more to it (why I don't like cats, for the example), but that wasn't the point of that post; if explaining that I know how to talk to people (shocking) but just don't want to (scandalous) doesn't convey the fact that I'm not some autistic fuckwad who can't string together three words without curling into the fetal position, then the last option is to put it into small, easy to understand words.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:13:30 AM »
I'm actually a 70yo Chinese shoe salesman from Detroit
1026
« on: August 08, 2017, 01:12:00 AM »
People put on more of a facade """""in real life""""" than they do on the Internet.
You should know better than to assume that I'm at my realest here lmao
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:10:42 AM »
im using weird as a synonym for awkward. how is doing something you dont want to do awkward. its nonsensical sure but not awkward.
"I really hate putting toothpicks under my toenails, but you know what? I'm going to go ahead and do that right now anyway just because." That does not sound weird to you like at all
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:08:58 AM »
In that sense, I suppose I would have a more conservative definition of an "awkward situation," but it's not exactly something I can pinpoint so much as I can give a bunch of meaningless examples.
That's all I meant by it. It's not like I'd start having a panic attack because I ran out of things to say, it would either turn into not talking anymore and browsing my phone for the duration of the meeting or it would be a mild "weird" situation. Maybe "weird" is a bit better than "awkward" to describe it; I'd rather avoid it, regardless.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:04:05 AM »
small talk pro tip: ask about pets
its dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusive
even if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a child
usually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other things
I work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.
I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.
to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issue
representing a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different from
Dude, I go to fucking concerts all the time. The concept of "talking to people" is not new to me, I just have no interest in talking to people for the sake of talking to them. It's pointless, and the pointlessness really activates my almonds.
if youre so good at it then why is it weird
i just dont understand
its not pointless. ive met loads of people offline that i started talking with over the internet and, granted there is an adjustment period but its overall an insightful opportunity to understand someone you thought you knew on a deeper level
my best friend and i can read each other like books because we spend a good amount of time conversing over text, but the physical perspective just enhances the understanding so much.
pretty much the driving force behind my desire to meet so many of you is to see how you act in a physical setting. its largely backed by psychological interest and it will give me a far greater perspective on our community. far from pointless.
It's weird because I don't want to do it, so doing it anyway would make no sense. I have no idea how to be more straightforward than that.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 01:01:35 AM »
I understand you views
No. This is one of those things where, if you completely understood, you would agree.
I find your standards dated and nonsensical and I don't understand them. I don't understand why physical interaction matters so much when you use arbitrary things like voice inflection to define "true" interaction, as if Skype doesn't exist, and as if I haven't made YouTube videos with my voice in them. Like come on now, give me a break.
I wouldn't say that I've interacted with Brad Pitt just because he read my mean tweet on Kimmel. Hearing isn't an intercation because it doesn't provide feedback (either through a vocal response or facial expressions). If you just admitted it doesn't make any sense, I wouldn't have an issue.
I'd think you could gather that it's a personal standard by the fact that I haven't told anyone they're wrong for disagreeing. I just need something more for it to feel real.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:54:48 AM »
There are plenty of reasons not to want to meet people you talk to on the Internet. Awkwardness is not one of them.
How do you define "awkward", out of curiousity. I have a feeling that I'm using it much more liberally than you.
Emotionally, it describes a feeling of mild to moderate social discomfort, similar to embarrassment but less extreme, typically associated with breaking some kind of social rule or moré and feeling ashamed about it (giving a high-five to someone who wasn't offering you one, )
People with social anxiety, such as you and I, tend to be prone to this feeling, and our lack of interest in social endeavors tends to compound it.
The only difference is that I don't consider it a deal-breaker. I don't think we have different definitions of "awkward," I just think we respond to it differently. I consider my response a little bit healthier.
I'm referring to awkward "situations", not just feeling awkward. Hanging out with a friend, but you're both just kind of sitting silently an not interacting for 15+ minutes? I'd feel fine doing that (happens all the time), but I'd still describe it as an awkward situation.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:52:55 AM »
small talk pro tip: ask about pets
its dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusive
even if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a child
usually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other things
I work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers.
I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.
to offense but if you knew how to talk to strangers this wouldnt be an issue
representing a company in a professional manner where youre tasked with assisting customers who have a very narrow set of possible requests is different from
Dude, I go to fucking concerts all the time. The concept of "talking to people" is not new to me, I just have no interest in talking to people for the sake of talking to them. It's pointless, and the pointlessness really activates my almonds.
1033
« on: August 08, 2017, 12:49:03 AM »
>"irl"
Fuck me dead, I hope this dies soon.
it's just the fastest way to say it. I'm not typing out "in reality" or "in real life" on my phone keyboard every time just because I don't want to use acronyms.
No, it's not the acronym, you already know my feelings on this. The Internet is real life. That is my point. There is no distinction between "reality" and "the Internet." They are both the same. We're not a bunch of unreal NPCs on some MMORPG. We're real people, and to insinuate otherwise is incredibly insulting and grandma-esque.
The correct terms are "online" and "offline," or you could even say "in person."
Or you can continue to use incorrect language for the sake of convenience, that's your prerogative. I'm not the language police.
I understand you views, I just can't agree. I put a lot of emphasis on sensory details when I interact with people; talking is sufficient because you can hear inflection and you aren't just assuming the cadence of their voice, but I'd much rather speak face to face. I don't get any of that over text, so I could not honestly but that level of interaction on the same level as sitting in the same room as a person and looking them in the eyes.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:43:26 AM »
There are plenty of reasons not to want to meet people you talk to on the Internet. Awkwardness is not one of them.
How do you define "awkward", out of curiousity. I have a feeling that I'm using it much more liberally than you.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:42:32 AM »
small talk pro tip: ask about pets
its dear to people so they enjoy talking about it without coming off as weird or intrusive
even if they dont have any most people will just naturally talk about pets theyve always wanted or one they had as a child
usually it lets you open up too about pets you have or had which you can use to segue into a bunch of other things
I work in customer service, I know how to talk to strangers. I just don't want to, because any potential awkwardness outweighs the benefit in a majority of cases.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:39:55 AM »
>"irl"
Fuck me dead, I hope this dies soon.
it's just the fastest way to say it. I'm not typing out "in reality" or "in real life" on my phone keyboard every time just because I don't want to use acronyms.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:38:18 AM »
It's almost like awkward shit happens in life and then you get over it.
but you do realize that awkward shit happening to you and intentionally putting yourself in awkward shit are two different things right Because choosing to hang out with someone from the internet is not the same thing as stuttering or mild paraphasia because you chose to enter the situation, not as a means to something else, but for specifically that purpose.
1038
« on: August 08, 2017, 12:31:55 AM »
the only connection to them would be internet shit and that would stop being a fun conversation after a minute or two. That's the part I'm trying to dissect, because I don't understand why that's more awkward than anything else in life. Like sitting next to someone you've never met before in a new class you're taking. I know you're not a social butterfly, but that doesn't really mean a lot to me in this context, because in my mind, you'd have to be completely socially functionless if you can't handle even just a little bit of awkwardness. It's just weird.
Okay, but your example has me sitting next to someone because the reason I'm there has nothing to do with it. I'll hang out with people I don't know if friends are there, so that I can just chat with my friends if it starts getting awkward. I feel like it would be socially disfunctional to enter an awkward situation and continue to stay in it just because you don't want to leave it. I wouldn't go out of my way to hang out with someone from the internet because it presents a situation that will become awkward without the out of just not replying anymore (which just makes things more awkward irl) or using a third party to change the dynamic.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:20:02 AM »
Another bit that would make it awkward: for some people here, it would basically just boil down to rehashing conversations we've already had, except less eloquently because I can't revise a post five times irl.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:17:25 AM »
Things are only awkward if you make them awkward so don't make them awkward.
Hi I'm Aria, it's nice to me you.
Don't blanket your personal problems on others.
I wasn't trying to? I know lots of people can do that stuff without issue, but the subject was about whether I would want to. I wouldn't, and I explained why.
You didn't, you just said it would be awkward for some inexplicable reason, and made it seem like that's how it would be for everybody. You've always had an extremely irritating view on this subject.
Yes, it would be awkward. spoiler text for where that lost connection to the point because the only connection to them would be internet shit and that would stop being a fun conversation after a minute or two. I don't think I've ever given off the idea that I'm exactly a social butterfly. It's the reason I don't go to parties, because it's awkward to talk to people you barely know. I will add here that it would be easier to meet some people on here than others, but I think it would be awkward all the same.
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« on: August 08, 2017, 12:13:12 AM »
Oh shut up Jake.
holy shit smash that like button berbo got ROASTED oh my god GOT EEM xD
1042
« on: August 08, 2017, 12:11:29 AM »
Things are only awkward if you make them awkward so don't make them awkward.
Hi I'm Aria, it's nice to me you.
Don't blanket your personal problems on others.
I wasn't trying to? I know lots of people can do that stuff without issue, but the subject was about whether I would want to. I wouldn't, and I explained why.
1043
« on: August 08, 2017, 12:09:16 AM »
Things are only awkward if you make them awkward so don't make them awkward.
Hi I'm Aria, it's nice to me you.
1044
« on: August 08, 2017, 12:06:34 AM »
No, I can only relate to most of you through memes and talking about sep7 stuff irl would be cringy.
Would it, though?
Yeah? It would be awkward enough to have the only real connection be about the internet culture on a backwater south-asian agriculture forum, but putting that irl where you can't just walk away when it gets weird and it's a recipe for disaster.
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« on: August 07, 2017, 11:51:43 PM »
No, I can only relate to most of you through memes and talking about sep7 stuff irl would be cringy.
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« on: August 07, 2017, 11:01:40 PM »
I mean my friend she got some box wine and Jager and started mixing them and me and her drank a whole bottle through. It tasted horrible, but for some reason we just kept drinking. I wish there was a reasoning, but sometimes the reasoning is why not, because it sounds stupid. We also threw in some fireball in it. Yeah, that just sounds stupid. You're going to get shitfaced chugging either of those, there is zero reason to mix them together. The whole point of mixing things is to add (in effect or taste), not to make something disgusting. That's like the kid in elementary who would mix all of his food together just to create a mess.
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« on: August 07, 2017, 10:34:03 PM »
I'll never get over how quiet my PC is compared to my last one. Just the faintest hum, whereas my old computer sounded like a jet taking off just from opening Firefox.
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« on: August 07, 2017, 10:31:39 PM »
Jäger straight up tastes like cough syrup. I don't understand the hype.
Cause people want a shot and get wasted. Some people drink alcohol and harsh one not for the joy of taste but to get wasted. And fast.
Which honestly a bottle of wine can do quite well.
I'll drink Jäger if I'm doing bombs, but I have some friends who will just drink it straight. If you just want to get fucked up fast, Vodka is cheaper and straighter to the point.
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« on: August 07, 2017, 10:29:30 PM »
i don't even know what it is
freemium looter shooter Like Destiny, but freemium
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« on: August 07, 2017, 10:28:35 PM »
Jäger straight up tastes like cough syrup. I don't understand the hype.
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